I have recently fallen into a serious self-regularity.
I am a full-time mother and two babies!
An elementary school, a kindergarten.
I have been 35+ and have not worked for two years. I thought it shouldn’t be too difficult to find a job, but it turned out that I was hitting a wall everywhere!
I force myself to calm down and study. My husband always interrupts me and asks me to do this and that for him, saying why I learn those useless things? I want to start a business. My husband said that I am not that piece of material. Don’t waste that money; I have no direction and do housework at home. My husband said that I do nothing and am not self-motivated. My self-motivatedness has been denied by him, so there is more? ! If I don’t do something well, he will be scolded by him. It’s okay on the phone. I can choose not to listen. I’m unlucky at home and I can’t choose. I was angry, and quarreled with him. He said that I can’t do anything with his food and drink his food, and I’m not obedient! Should I be like a dog with me? ! I want to divorce. Even if it is sleeping on the street, he won’t let him raise it. He disagrees, how can he disagree. I am a free nanny, a punching bag, of course he will weigh the pros and cons. I often educate me: “Women like you should be beaten to death in feudal society.” “Men like you shouldn’t get married and have children. They are suitable for loneliness!” I returned him. His uncle! Still old feudal thinking, still thinking about polygamy, but also male chauvinism! He scolded me for doing bad things and asked him to do it, but the result was not as good as me, and I found various reasons to justify it. Double-standard men make people vomit blood!
I really want to leave alone. I can’t live without it. I go out to work by myself, but I don’t want to have children. What a cowardly woman!
I am 38 years old, have a master’s degree in 985, and my child is 7 years old. Just finished 20 months full-time, 2 months after entering the new job. I changed my career completely. I used to be in the financial industry. Because my child went to school from the Imperial Capital to Tianjin, I resigned. During the period, because of various chores, I did not take the initiative to find a job, my resume was hung up, I occasionally contacted by headhunters, and had interviews, but none was successful. I don’t want to work in my old business, and my old business doesn’t look down on me. The business ability is not so outstanding, and she is an older middle-aged woman. So I was at ease to take the children full-time at home, liberating my parents-in-law. After staying at home for a few months, I felt very depressed. My parents smashed the pot and sold iron for me to go to college, so I watched the children at home. Although you can comfort yourself, mothers take good care of their children, and the parent-child relationship is good, but they still can’t stand the guilt. I set up a self-media account, read and write articles, let myself do something, and occasionally earn a la carte money; register for the judicial examination, thinking that it will always come in handy, and also want to prove that I am not decadent. I also thought about starting a business. I would die after I settled the bills. It is hard to make money and risky, so I might as well find a way to find a job. Later, I found my current job as a text editor. It is not related to my old business, but related to the self-media account that I wrote when I was at home full-time. The treatment is definitely not allowed before, but at any rate you don’t have to pay social security by yourself. I should have all the feelings you have, and the only thing I am better than you is the attitude of my husband. I suggest that you think about it carefully, will you return to your old business or change your career in the future? Find your own interests, abilities, specialties, combine your time and energy, and do it first if you don’t make money, find something for yourself, and improve your abilities. Husband’s attitude is indeed not good, but you have to be considerate of him. There is also his pressure to support a family alone. Talk well, don’t get sulking yourself, men sometimes lack roots and need to talk openly and honestly. Do you want to act without anxiety, even if you just look at the secretary and take notes? If your husband doesn’t support him, just follow him. You get better and better, and he won’t be irritable. This society is not friendly to older women, but the road always has to go by yourself. It’s no use complaining about anyone, just do it!