27-year-old female, IT industry, 985 undergraduate, working for 5 years. The monthly salary is more than 20k before tax, and it is just 20 after tax, which is not a year-end bonus. It will be a little bit more if you count it. The feeling is that the quality of life depends mainly on the accumulation of virtues from the ancestors. It has little to do with monthly salary. My family is a petty bourgeoisie in a second-tier city. My parents can take care of themselves without my help, but they have no spare capacity to support me. So as far as my peers are concerned, I should not earn less, but it doesn’t make much sense. Compared with the second-generation classmates in my hometown, my parents arranged iron rice bowls in the monopoly industry early, the garage was fully equipped, the delicious afternoon tea every day, the baby was born early, and even the second child was born. Or the ability and intelligence may not be as good as mine, but the classmates and friends whose parents are more likely to get married have arranged a good marriage early and have already lived the life of a rich wife. (Although I think this kind of life is not a long-term solution, but people do live very well.) Not to mention the first-line indigenous people I met after college and work. Going to work is really their hobby. Anyway, they sell a few houses. It is enough for them to retire at the age of 40. As for me, the sprint task of the family is on my shoulders. If I can’t break through, my child will continue my destiny and be a second-tier citizen, or I will work hard to make him a first-tier citizen. Whenever I think of this, I feel that life is really boring. Of course, once the monthly salary reaches this level, I don’t have to worry about eating, to be honest, what I want to eat. It is true that it is impossible to eat the delicacies and seafood of this grade every day, but it is actually meaningless to eat too much. For example, the hot fried cherries are free. If you buy a box of 300 yuan, you will buy it. However, after eating a box of geese, you will not want to come to the second box. You don’t have to worry about clothes. Of course, you haven’t bought luxury goods. If you insist, you can buy it with your teeth, but it’s really unnecessary. If I carry a bag of 10,000 to 20,000 or squeeze the subway in clothes of 10,000 to 20,000, I feel like I am crazy. Therefore, there are no more than a thousand clothes in daily life, but no more than five thousand bags. UNIQLO’s class does not look at the price, you can buy it as you like, and that’s it. Cosmetics are more casual. Make-up products are all open in Japan. Eyeshadows and blushes are of the kind that are less than 100. The most expensive may be big-brand lipsticks, which can last for a year. However, skin care products are more expensive. For SK II and Lancome, you can buy one can for one year. In fact, food and clothing are no longer interesting in my eyes. At present, it is the big items that can stimulate my desire, such as first-line cars and houses. But I can’t afford it. At the current rate of savings, I will be able to save enough money for the car in three to five years. At that time, my career is probably going to decline. Where can I earn my future mortgage? While not wanting to be a house slave, while eager to be a house slave. Worry, anxiety. This is my current state. The above is the original answer, if I remember correctly, it was created from March to May 2019. The following is the 2019.06 Update—this answer has many comments. Most people expressed the same anxiety as me, and a few people said that I don’t have to stay in first-tier cities. There are also a small number of people who say that I am starting from a good point, and I must be content. Everyone’s comments and the soaring number of likes for this answer really gave me a lot of inspiration and made me realize that there are still many people who are as anxious as me. Thank you for all the suggestions, complaints, and support you gave me. Many people say that I should find a boyfriend and work hard together. I think what you said makes sense hahaha, so I have started to work hard to find a reliable father for my future child. But at the moment I really want to stay in the first-tier cities. However, if I fail, I will go home. My parents were old then, and they would need me. But the child should still be born. It is good to let my parents take the child to prevent Alzheimer’s disease. But it feels really hard to find a marriage partner. I heard that Beijing has allowed mothers to register their children individually, and I hope that my hometown can synchronize as soon as possible. Think about it this way, the anxiety is significantly reduced. One point is one point, but if it’s a big deal, I will go home with a humiliation and look for my mother to hug me. Finally, although I am very anxious, I still have a passion for life! I hope everyone can also ignite the enthusiasm for life! It’s okay to be ravaged by life, standing up is another hero! ! Update again after half a year-today I was pushed by Zhihu about the topic of what is the experience of that monthly salary of 40,000, so I went in and watched. I found that the 40,000 respondents are obviously much lighter. Although there is some pressure, it is generally very calm and calm. It seems that my income file is the most tangled and uncomfortable stage: Actually, I have passed the food and clothing line, but I want to live a stable life. So, I have to double the income to be a little happier… Hey, let’s encourage everyone… Add it-Oh well, I have already found a boyfriend! The feeling of two people working hard together is indeed much more practical, which greatly relieves the anxiety. So everyone who is also anxious, bravely find the right partner! ! Wonderful effect! ! ——Update 202002, I hope the epidemic will pass quickly——The previous shared rent with a wonderful colleague and sister has been separated. Since I have already worked for 996, I don’t want to lower my living environment, so I changed from sharing to living alone, and the monthly rent increased from 1.5k (a mini bedroom) to 4.5k (a small single room). The 3k silver that could be bought every month has changed from contributing to shopping malls and Taobao to contributing to the landlord. I completely lost the freedom of Uniqlo… I barely maintained the freedom of daily take-out and milk tea… Hey… During the Spring Festival, I was stuck at home and couldn’t go out due to the epidemic, and I was very emotional. Ever since I left home to go to university at the age of 18, I have been working in Shenzhen since I graduated. The time I spend with my parents every year is pitiful. During the Spring Festival, I really found that my parents were getting old. I used to be so uncomfortable to sleep in and not clean up the house. Now I no longer criticize me, just let me be happy. Set a milestone for yourself: at the age of 30, if you still can’t live the life you want in Shenzhen, go back and build your hometown. 20200721 update-broke up. But it was not sad, but a suddenness. I feel that we are getting more and more anxious now. Of course, I used to be like this. For example, how can I feel that I have not married yet at the age of 27, how can I have not bought a house at the age of 30, and how can I have not yet been xx years old. I now feel that I still have to face my heart and think seriously about what I want in life, and what I can give up in order to pursue this state. Hey, thinking about it this way, I feel a lot more open-minded. Of course, the house is still unaffordable, and it is no longer eligible with the Shenzhen New Deal. But it doesn’t matter, it can’t get worse anyway. Slowly save my money and wait for a turnaround~ I hope everyone can be less anxious. Recently, I have contacted a few people of the same age, both men and women. When it comes to marriage and love, I always care about how many houses, how much money, and how many resources my parents have, for fear that others will take advantage of oneself and lower one’s class. This kind of relationship/marriage is boring to think about. It is more than a tomb of love, it is simply the tomb of life. I hope everyone can live the life they like~20210305 update-After another year, I was really shaken when I came home for the Spring Festival this year, and I started to think about the value of deep drifting. My parents used most of their life savings to exchange for a big house in their hometown. They moved in before the Spring Festival. The decoration style is simple and bright. I like it very much. I also raised a puppy, my mother retired and went to walk the dog every morning and evening, and my father came home from get off work to tinker with food. I feel very happy every day at home. During the Spring Festival, I saw people of the same age in my hometown, some tinkering with motorcycles, some tinkering with bicycles, some skiing in teams, and some playing mahjong in teahouses. I think this is life, and I have almost nothing to live except for work and sleep. Now even buying and buying is no longer a pleasure. I want to go mountain climbing, swim, sunbathe on the beach, and breathe the cool air in the woods. Seriously feel: My current life seems too boring and boring. Will I escape Shenzhen soon?