The reason why I often look for something but can’t find it is often not because the thing is gone, but because there are too many things, and the things I want are covered up, so I can’t see clearly. And to renounce is to clean up your own things constantly from the outside to the inside, throw away the things you don’t need, throw away the worthless things, and keep only the things that are important to you. There is still a month or so before the Spring Festival. Start with the separation, clean up your belongings, make room, and then welcome the arrival of new things. 1. Say goodbye to some things 1. Clothes, pants, shoes. I am not used to spending money on dressing up. Basically, I have only bought clothes once or twice a year, and only sell one or two at a time. It is conceivable that I still wear clothes when I was in college. I didn’t have the money to buy them. I just didn’t bother to spend time choosing clothes to buy clothes, or that I used the money for clothes to buy books. Recently, I suddenly discovered that I rarely wear many shoes, but I did not throw them away. The shoe rack is full of shoes, but only 3-4 pairs of shoes are often worn, so most of them can basically be thrown away. Some of them are worn only a few times, and they can also be given away or donated to others. 2. Daily necessities are sometimes discounted in shopping malls, and they will habitually stock up. However, it is gradually discovered that merchants are taking advantage of customers’ greedy psychology to take advantage of customers’ opportunities to purchase other products. And it’s a waste to stock up too much. What is wasted is the opportunity to experience better products. Therefore, these daily necessities, such as pots and pans, keep a few of the ones you like to make room for the arrival of new items. 3. The table does not need to be separated, the things on the table are to be separated. I was inspired last year, no matter how busy my work and life are, I have to keep my desk empty every day, and every time I use things I have to return to the original place. This “blank” lifestyle can easily bring new inspiration to life, especially when writing and reading. 4. Books are the most difficult part for me. I like hoarding books, just like girls buying clothes. I can’t help but buy some good books when I see them. Then I buy them and I won’t read them immediately. I will wait for a while Just go back to read. I have begun to correct this habit, and found that there is actually no need to buy many books. In many cases, it is influenced by the propaganda of the business, or by buying books to add freshness to life. I already have a lot of books. I don’t need to stock up on books like I used to. I buy them when I need them. On the contrary, I can stimulate my desire to read. Therefore, prepare to clear a batch of books and either give them away, sell them, or throw them away. 2. Say goodbye to some people. Once, I thought I valued friendship and friends very much. I thought that if I grew up too fast, I would distance myself from friends. In fact, this was just an excuse for avoiding hard work. The changes in interpersonal relationships in 2015 made me understand one thing: Whether it’s friendship, love or family relationships, they need to be managed carefully in the interaction, but the friendship is slightly different. The other party does not need to accept what they have, just accept what they have. One side is enough, but love and family affection need to accept what one person has. In addition to family affection, friendship and love pay more attention to a kind of fate. When the fate arrives, we know each other, and the fate is separated. Even if we keep it, it is difficult to make up for a broken emotional relationship. So in the relationship, be yourself It is enough to be worthy of yourself and worthy of the relationship. 1. Say goodbye to the old friends who used to be good friends, gradually alienated due to different experiences and experiences. In fact, any relationship is undergoing dynamic changes. It’s just that you can easily ignore these changes. What you remember is how each other looks when you get along with each other. Therefore, the topics of the classmates meeting for many years are always reminiscent of the old, and talk about those topics in the past. Only at that time there was an intersection in his life. Often remembering the past, what should be left is a good memory, but this also reflects the inner dissatisfaction with the current life, and also prevents oneself from accepting new relationships and new friends, so send a sentence to old friends in a timely manner Greet, make a phone call, or write a letter to say a formal farewell to yourself in your heart. 2. Letting go of an intimate relationship The end of an intimate relationship means changing from the life of two people to the life of one person. This unaccustomedness is accompanied by loneliness and loneliness. At the same time, sadness and pain will make a person’s life unbearable. I happened to experience an emotional setback in 2015, and learned how to be alone and how to face myself because of this setback, but the process was a long and tormented one. If you love yourself enough, then just face the relationship that has ended. You don’t need to think about how to get rid of the current state, and expose the wound directly to the air. Heal. If you can’t cope with it independently, then find a trusted friend, or an item, to accompany you for a while. This section of the road can only be walked by one’s own strength, and other people are just auxiliary forces. 3. Say goodbye to something you have been doing in 2015. Is it necessary to persist in the new year? If there has been nothing worth investing in, how do you look for it in the new year? 1. What value can I create for myself For myself, what is “value”? What are the “valuable” things? Value does not mean practical autonomy—think before every action. What is the use of doing this? —It is the things that can accumulate precipitation for one’s own life and life, such as running and fitness for one’s own health; improving one’s ability, reading and writing, learning courses and so on. And to choose to do valuable things, you need to give up “no value” things, such as chasing drama, eating snacks, staying up late to play mobile phones, etc., from childhood habits and actions to change yourself, create a new life for yourself, add new change. At the same time, I constantly understand myself, explore the way to get along with myself, and do something “for myself” without a destination. For example, in 2015, I taught myself baking and made some biscuits and cakes for myself during the weekend to please myself. , Satisfy your stomach, because delicious food can bring people a pleasant experience and feelings, especially food made by yourself. 2. What value can I create for others? Ask myself, can my current work create value for others? How many people’s needs can it meet? In the system or unit, serving the leader well and meeting the leader’s requirements is the embodiment of my own value, but this is not creation in essence, nor is it value. I just do the work he wants in accordance with the leader’s requirements. , It is the leader himself who can really create and amplify value, not me. Therefore, since last year, I have often asked myself: If one day I was thrown into the melting pot of society, would I be able to support myself with my own hands instead of relying on the system or platform to solve the problems of survival and life? A closer relationship with the leader can affect your promotion in your position, but you must know that whether you are in a company or in an institutional unit, you may not stay for a lifetime. It is very likely that one day you will be valued by your leader. If you are transferred away, or you are transferred to a marginal department, what will you do? Rather than pinning the sense of security or hope for future development in the “relationship” or in the system, it is better to accumulate yourself and develop the ability or skills to support yourself so that you can face the sudden uncertainty. After all, life Impermanence is a normal state. So, ask yourself, can I create value for others and can I meet the needs of more people? It’s not difficult to break away, but it’s not easy to do well. Often when you do so, you will find that what you clean up is not only your objects, but your own thoughts, concepts, and behavior habits, and only then will new things come into your own life.