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The reason why I often look for something but can’t find it is often not because the thing is gone, but because there are too many things, and the things I want are covered up, so I can’t see clearly. And to renounce is to clean up your own things constantly from the outside to the inside, throw away the things you don’t need, throw away the worthless things, and keep only the things that are important to you. There is still a month or so before the Spring Festival. Start with the separation, clean up your belongings, make room, and then welcome the arrival of new things. 1. Say goodbye to some things 1. Clothes, pants, shoes. I am not used to spending money on dressing up. Basically, I have only bought clothes once or twice a year, and only sell one or two at a time. It is conceivable that I still wear clothes when I was in college. I didn’t have the money to buy them. I just didn’t bother to spend time choosing clothes to buy clothes, or that I used the money for clothes to buy books. Recently, I suddenly discovered that I rarely wear many shoes, but I did not throw them away. The shoe rack is full of shoes, but only 3-4 pairs of shoes are often worn, so most of them can basically be thrown away. Some of them are worn only a few times, and they can also be given away or donated to others. 2. Daily necessities are sometimes discounted in shopping malls, and they will habitually stock up. However, it is gradually discovered that merchants are taking advantage of customers’ greedy psychology to take advantage of customers’ opportunities to purchase other products. And it’s a waste to stock up too much. What is wasted is the opportunity to experience better products. Therefore, these daily necessities, such as pots and pans, keep a few of the ones you like to make room for the arrival of new items. 3. The table does not need to be separated, the things on the table are to be separated. I was inspired last year, no matter how busy my work and life are, I have to keep my desk empty every day, and every time I use things I have to return to the original place. This “blank” lifestyle can easily bring new inspiration to life, especially when writing and reading. 4. Books are the most difficult part for me. I like hoarding books, just like girls buying clothes. I can’t help but buy some good books when I see them. Then I buy them and I won’t read them immediately. I will wait for a while Just go back to read. I have begun to correct this habit, and found that there is actually no need to buy many books. In many cases, it is influenced by the propaganda of the business, or by buying books to add freshness to life. I already have a lot of books. I don’t need to stock up on books like I used to. I buy them when I need them. On the contrary, I can stimulate my desire to read. Therefore, prepare to clear a batch of books and either give them away, sell them, or throw them away. 2. Say goodbye to some people. Once, I thought I valued friendship and friends very much. I thought that if I grew up too fast, I would distance myself from friends. In fact, this was just an excuse for avoiding hard work. The changes in interpersonal relationships in 2015 made me understand one thing: Whether it’s friendship, love or family relationships, they need to be managed carefully in the interaction, but the friendship is slightly different. The other party does not need to accept what they have, just accept what they have. One side is enough, but love and family affection need to accept what one person has. In addition to family affection, friendship and love pay more attention to a kind of fate. When the fate arrives, we know each other, and the fate is separated. Even if we keep it, it is difficult to make up for a broken emotional relationship. So in the relationship, be yourself It is enough to be worthy of yourself and worthy of the relationship. 1. Say goodbye to the old friends who used to be good friends, gradually alienated due to different experiences and experiences. In fact, any relationship is undergoing dynamic changes. It’s just that you can easily ignore these changes. What you remember is how each other looks when you get along with each other. Therefore, the topics of the classmates meeting for many years are always reminiscent of the old, and talk about those topics in the past. Only at that time there was an intersection in his life. Often remembering the past, what should be left is a good memory, but this also reflects the inner dissatisfaction with the current life, and also prevents oneself from accepting new relationships and new friends, so send a sentence to old friends in a timely manner Greet, make a phone call, or write a letter to say a formal farewell to yourself in your heart. 2. Letting go of an intimate relationship The end of an intimate relationship means changing from the life of two people to the life of one person. This unaccustomedness is accompanied by loneliness and loneliness. At the same time, sadness and pain will make a person’s life unbearable. I happened to experience an emotional setback in 2015, and learned how to be alone and how to face myself because of this setback, but the process was a long and tormented one. If you love yourself enough, then just face the relationship that has ended. You don’t need to think about how to get rid of the current state, and expose the wound directly to the air. Heal. If you can’t cope with it independently, then find a trusted friend, or an item, to accompany you for a while. This section of the road can only be walked by one’s own strength, and other people are just auxiliary forces. 3. Say goodbye to something you have been doing in 2015. Is it necessary to persist in the new year? If there has been nothing worth investing in, how do you look for it in the new year? 1. What value can I create for myself For myself, what is “value”? What are the “valuable” things? Value does not mean practical autonomy—think before every action. What is the use of doing this? —It is the things that can accumulate precipitation for one’s own life and life, such as running and fitness for one’s own health; improving one’s ability, reading and writing, learning courses and so on. And to choose to do valuable things, you need to give up “no value” things, such as chasing drama, eating snacks, staying up late to play mobile phones, etc., from childhood habits and actions to change yourself, create a new life for yourself, add new change. At the same time, I constantly understand myself, explore the way to get along with myself, and do something “for myself” without a destination. For example, in 2015, I taught myself baking and made some biscuits and cakes for myself during the weekend to please myself. , Satisfy your stomach, because delicious food can bring people a pleasant experience and feelings, especially food made by yourself. 2. What value can I create for others? Ask myself, can my current work create value for others? How many people’s needs can it meet? In the system or unit, serving the leader well and meeting the leader’s requirements is the embodiment of my own value, but this is not creation in essence, nor is it value. I just do the work he wants in accordance with the leader’s requirements. , It is the leader himself who can really create and amplify value, not me. Therefore, since last year, I have often asked myself: If one day I was thrown into the melting pot of society, would I be able to support myself with my own hands instead of relying on the system or platform to solve the problems of survival and life? A closer relationship with the leader can affect your promotion in your position, but you must know that whether you are in a company or in an institutional unit, you may not stay for a lifetime. It is very likely that one day you will be valued by your leader. If you are transferred away, or you are transferred to a marginal department, what will you do? Rather than pinning the sense of security or hope for future development in the “relationship” or in the system, it is better to accumulate yourself and develop the ability or skills to support yourself so that you can face the sudden uncertainty. After all, life Impermanence is a normal state. So, ask yourself, can I create value for others and can I meet the needs of more people? It’s not difficult to break away, but it’s not easy to do well. Often when you do so, you will find that what you clean up is not only your objects, but your own thoughts, concepts, and behavior habits, and only then will new things come into your own life.


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6 months ago

The essence of renunciation is to regain the dominance of life, not to become a slave to life. What is a slave driven by life? There are three classic states: 1. Unconsciously buy and buy to resolve unhappiness. 2. Use uncontrolled eating to offset all kinds of stress. 3. Pass the time by indulging in watching dramas and watching videos. And these three behaviors cause three different kinds of garbage: the garbage brought by buying and buying is piles of clothes and items at home, which creates a burden on changing, maintaining, and cleaning. The garbage brought by eating is the excess fat in the body, which makes us more lazy, sleepy and not thinking about exercise. Watching dramas and watching videos brings more spam messages in our minds. These spam thoughts and spam emotions make us more negative. Therefore, breaking away is to start by breaking the cycle of “buy, buy, buy” and learn to completely reverse our behavior. Let us gradually learn to stop using self-indulgence as a pressure outlet, so as to break: unhappy-accumulating garbage-more unhappy behavior pattern, so that we can completely jump out, in other words, everyone will experience different emotions status. Everyone’s emotions will also fluctuate. The important thing is that we must learn to let ourselves get out of negative and addictive emotions as quickly as possible. What we should learn and practice is to realize that we have fallen into “negative emotions” as soon as possible, and then use the lowest cost and the shortest time to jump out of the lethal negative emotions and return to a calm and positive state. Only in this way can we perform better at the moment. Therefore, before we leave, every time we have negative emotions, we will leave an indelible mark—whether it is objects, body fat, or negative thoughts and emotions in the mind. The more these marks accumulate, the more our negative impressions are. The more emotions are stored, the stronger the power. Are you constantly feeding your negative emotions with your actions and items, or do you directly cut off the source of nutrition for negative emotions and starve them to death? Stop in inertia, feed your negative emotions unconsciously, and increase the power of negative emotions. Only by keeping our environment, body and mind in a clean and simple environment can we have the power to be light enough to jump out.

6 months ago

Just finished reading the first volume of “Break Sheli”, and talk about some of my own thoughts. 1. Don’t buy things that you don’t particularly like just because they are cheap. 2. For those things that I like very much, but feel a little expensive-buy! 3. Pay attention to your own living space. For those who do not use it all year round, feel that they will use it in the future but not use it at present, and have not encountered things in the past year, carefully consider the value of their existence and choose the ones that really need to stay. Other transfers or discards. 4. Focus on the moment. The crux of many troubles lies in wanting too much, such as unread books piled up on the shelf, downloading unlearned materials, and a long list of actions arranged by yourself. In the process of renunciation, abandoning objects is the starting point to make you rethink what you really need and want, so as to change your mental state. 5. We still keep our eyes on the present. There are indeed many items in our collection that are the basis of our memories, but we should seriously consider these items full of memories. It doesn’t make any sense to keep the love letter given to you by a former lover, except that it makes you fall into the panic about love and the entanglement of the past again and again. 6. Throwing away items is not only the goal of [break away], it is also a kind of exercise. It is a process of rethinking yourself. It will make you clearer in the entanglement of giving up and leaving. Feel your own inner tendencies. To be honest, many people don’t understand themselves, including myself, but in this practice, I gradually feel that I understand myself more and more. 7. Have a cleaner living environment. Excessive obsession with “organizing” will limit one’s life to a pattern of “others look comfortable, but oneself lives in trouble”. Therefore, in my opinion, “breaking away” is an effective way to improve the aura of the living space. The above is a shallow understanding of the elementary contact of “Duan She Li”. The learning of Dang She Li is not done overnight. As far as I am concerned, I am still learning. When I have new insights, I will share with the subject of the topic. Comprehension of renunciation.

6 months ago

The concept of detachment comes from Hideko Yamashita, a well-known Japanese sundries management consultant. She is also the author of the book “Break Down”. The whole book is mainly about tidying up the daily home environment, changing consciousness, getting rid of material desires and obsessions, and living a free and comfortable life. After reading the book “Break Out”, I often sit quietly in my own home, looking at everything around me, thinking about the memories and connections these objects have with me, and wondering if this is not it. The look of my favorite home. In fact, we can all ask ourselves, how long do you spend cleaning up your home every day? The moment you opened the door, how would you feel about your home? Is it neat, untidy, or numb? The place where we live is the place where we spend the longest time in our life. What kind of kitchen do you eat? What kind of bedroom do you sleep in? What kind of study do you study and think in? In what kind of living room do you receive family and friends and play? It is mentioned in the book that if we gradually get used to the state where the room is full of objects, it is similar to the feeling of paralysis caused by constipation. When we are in a room full of rubbish and tatters, it is equivalent to continuously absorbing the waste gas emitted by these wastes for 24 hours. In other words, if the room is full of debris, exhaust gas that affects your mood will be released, and you will fall into a state of chronic poisoning unconsciously. We pay attention to the safety of food, the quality of clothes, and the comfort of furniture, but we often overlook the invisible and intangible breathing quality. In fact, it is as important as food and water, and even more important. This is also the reason why we have to leave. So what exactly is severance? The definition given in the book “Break Off” is: cut off = cut off the unwanted things that want to enter one’s home. Abandon = abandon the waste at home and leave = get rid of obsession with objects, in a comfortable space with ease. Then how do we do it? Start by throwing things first. Throw away all “unnecessary”, “inappropriate”, and “uncomfortable” items, and replace them with “need”, “suitable”, and “comfortable” items. Imagine that every time something is taken away, one of the subconscious blockages is also removed. Throwing things sounds simple, but when you do it, you will find that there are various reasons for wanting to keep this and want to keep that. Why can’t it be discarded? In fact, there are three kinds of people who can’t lose things. The first is the person who escapes reality. Such people are very busy, or deliberately make themselves very busy, always find all kinds of excuses to avoid problems, and don’t like to stay at home, so they don’t have time and don’t want to clean up the house. The second type is the person who is attached to the past. They take great memories of the happy past, and are deeply stuck in it, and they don’t want to get out of it. The third type is worrying about the future. I am worried about the unpredictable future, so I always like to hoard things too much to get a sense of security. Therefore, through the sorting of items, we will know what we are thinking in our hearts. The objects we use can reflect our self-image. Objects are just a projection of our hearts. Organizing things is the surface, and organizing yourself is the key point. So how can we overcome this problem? We can’t throw it away because we don’t want to throw it away, whether it is because of its high price, commemorative significance or other reasons. We subconsciously think that “more is better”, “it’s better than nothing”, “retain it and maybe use it later”. These are some obsessions in our hearts. We can look at items from the relationship axis and the time axis. What does that mean? Just choose the things that are suitable and necessary for the current self, and are actually used, and then stay in your own space. Objects also have time attributes, the past has passed, and the future has not yet arrived, so they should be “used in the present”. After we determine the items we have left, we don’t mean that we will completely ignore them in the future, but we must update them in real time and keep pace with “self”. In the process of constant updating, it is also the process of constantly understanding ourselves. We will become more and more aware of our preferences and what we want. There is another way, we generally put the cart before the horse when choosing items. Putting the price or value of the item in the “book” is to take the item as the protagonist, such as “chopsticks can be used” and “teapot can be used”. We put the focus on the items. But items are valuable because “I use them”. So we can change our mindset, “Chopsticks can be used, should I use it?” Change the subject to “I” instead of “Items”. In addition to “throwing”, we can also choose to donate, give away, or other ways of handling items. After we deal with all the “unnecessary”, “inappropriate”, and “uncomfortable” items, the second step is to organize the existing items. Many small methods are given in the book. We can first choose a place according to the purpose, which can be regarded as a breakthrough. For example, I am a foodie and think that eating is very important, so I will start with the kitchen. The book mentions a “rule of thirds”. First, the kitchen items are roughly divided into three categories, such as ingredients, tableware, and cooking utensils, and then each category is subdivided into three categories, and so on. It is very useful and does not cost much. The brain reduces the resistance to action. There are also the laws of self-reliance, freedom, and freedom. That is to let the objects stand up, the way of placing the objects should be free, and they should be placed freely. There are also seven, five, and one total limit principles. Seven means to put only 70% of it, don’t put it in densely packed, leaving 30% of the space. It’s like a traffic lane must be left in order for vehicles to enter and exit smoothly. Five, which means that only the best five things will always be used. The things we use are actually working on our subconscious mind, so try to use them better. First, under the condition that the overall quantity of the room is balanced, every time one more item is purchased, one item in the house is thrown away. I am a person who likes to visit Taobao. Since adopting this principle, the number of purchases has been significantly reduced and a lot of money has been saved. After the placement is complete, the next step is how to maintain it. The book mentions “automated management”. Since the total amount of items is limited, it is actually very simple to take care of. Put the things used up every day back to the original place, basically don’t need too much time to tidy up. The most important thing is that we must develop a habit of thinking. Otherwise, after a while, our home may be restored to its original state. So every time we get an item and want to put it in the bag, we have to think carefully, do I really need it? Do you have similar products at home? If so, am I willing to throw away the old one? If not, am I willing to throw away one of the other items in the house in exchange for this? When each item is the result of dismissal, we can control the position of all the items around us, so that we can make the best use of the items. Imagine that what is left around are the things that we need right now and are right for ourselves. They are like our friends. When we need help and comfort, they can naturally make us happy. Good mood for comfort. Separation is not only for objects, but also for our thoughts. Just like what Teacher Zhang Defen said in the preface of the book “Break and Relieve”: “Cut off, stop the negative thinking mode; give up, obey your own heart, give up what you have; disengage, let go of the idea of ​​”more is good” . Our happiness depends on the ability to get along with our own thoughts.” Therefore, put yourself in a happy space, free yourself from the entanglement of objects, let your obsessions drop at any time, feel your freedom and happiness, and leave you alone every day. , Is to organize yourself every day. In addition to the book “Break Life”, there are three related books, to share with you, I hope it will be helpful to everyone. The first is Marie Kondo’s “Puzzling Life Arrangement Magic”. I believe that many people have heard of this book, and Marie Kondo is recognized as the “new generation leader” in Japan. She is a tidying madman. Since she was five years old, she has devoted more than 80% of her life to the art of tidying. After years of research, she found that the core of the tidying up is “stunned.” This book tells about the meaning of heartbeat, how to make heartbeat choices, and some other storage rules to remove debris. The second is Noriji Sasaki’s “I Decided to Live a Simple Life: From Disappearance to Minimalism”. This is also a book of the author’s personal experience. There are many pictures of the author’s home in the book, and contrast photos before and after sorting. I personally like this book very much, and it has a great influence on my concept of housekeeping. The last one is “Life Without Holding” by Yukiko Kaneko. The core of this book is “do not hold.” That is, do not own items that exceed your own management ability; do not own items you do not like; do not own items that cannot be recycled or transferred to others; items that are not suitable for you and do not match your own lifestyle, Don’t hold. The author advocates the life philosophy of simple life, and it is also a good book. In addition, there is a Japanese drama called “My House Is Empty”, which also talks about resignation. Seeing the heroine lying freely on the empty floor, do you want to have your own “empty” space like her? I hope my sharing is helpful to everyone.

6 months ago

Disappearance is the philosophy of throwing things away. Dismissal is more than just throwing things away. Just imagine that after experiencing painful and decisive discarding, you saw it in the shop window after a while. You can’t resist the temptation to start with it. That useless thing that caused you trouble again , Hasn’t it been thrown away? If this is the case, the initial decision did not achieve the goal. To renounce is not only a physical separation, but also a complete spiritual abandonment. What will life be like if there is no severance. For some people, it doesn’t matter. They never hoard things, have good management of themselves, and always lead a simple and prosperous life. These people are not the group to be saved. What Dissipation wants to help is those people who are always full of debris, and at the same time, the people who are absorbed by the debris and become irritable. Separation makes your life clear and clear, simple and powerful. So how should break-offs be achieved? The first thing to abandon is the traditional storage and sorting. After the traditional storage and sorting, it will be messed up after a while. What’s more, the storage boxes that are bought at a large price are turned into clutter. Coming twice, storing and organizing consumes energy, so you can no longer afford to tidy up the room. Separation should be mentally determined with the miscellaneous. So the first step you need to do is to sit in the middle of the house and examine everything carefully. How many things were purchased under the influence of modern marketing concepts, how many things were bought just because they were discounted and had no practical use, and how many things would never be useful since then, such as your childhood clothes. Throw them away and don’t hesitate. And, after thinking about these, never buy them again. You might say that the discounted items will be used in the future. In order to cater to this low probability event, you have already paid too much money and energy. Please buy it when you use it. You are not willing to throw away those things full of memories, but they are useless except to make your living space more cluttered. Even if you throw them away, will your memory disappear? will not. We will be nostalgic for the glorious days of the past, and retain those objects that remind us of the “old glory”. “Cannot be lost” has become a divine truth, so that you no longer think deeply about “Why can’t you lose it? What will happen”, what will not happen, you always have to give up your previous life, look forward, and be a new self. Sometimes you may wonder, what can I get after so much painful giving up? Is this exchange worthwhile? worth it. Modern technology has given us many choices, but these choices will divide your energy before you. You have to understand the judgment, and then find that it is completely useless for yourself. This kind of understanding judgment only needs to appear once. If these choices continue to appear in front of you, just like the clutter in your house, your subconscious mind will have to constantly make judgments, which consumes your energy, makes you anxious, and the house becomes lifeless. . If none of these things are present, the surrounding environment is simple and clean. Naturally there will be an upward force. Allows you to focus on the things you focus on.

6 months ago

In fact, the truths of “Break and Relief” are still very easy to understand, but most people don’t realize it. I once chatted with a friend who studied psychology. He told me that they study psychology and help others while also improving themselves. If a person wants to consult others, he must first be a more complete person in that respect. Therefore, before they analyze others, they will analyze themselves first. Why did I do this just now, what is the reason I did this, why I have such an idea, what is the reason why I have such an idea… Until I can’t analyze it. Therefore, when I read “Break and Retreat”, what I want to feel is more why we do it. When I encounter similar situations in the future, I will be able to realize my own thoughts instead of instinctively disgusting to sort out. Therefore, the whole book has memorized such a little thing, and I will share it here. 1. Why are we reluctant to give up these things and don’t want to discard them? a. Escaping from reality: afraid of trouble and don’t want to face troubles. b. Attachment to the past: another form of escapism. c. Worrying about the future: worrying about the uneasy elements that will happen in the future. 2. What are we reluctant to lose? a. Things that are not used: thinking of making the best use of everything one day. b. Something inappropriate: I don’t like it, just use it casually. c. Something full of memories: negative energy and positive energy 3. Seven, five, one principle seven: invisible storage space is fully 70%, leaving inconsistent The passage gives people an urge to tidy up. Five: The visible storage space is generally only 50% full, for the sake of beauty. One: Only 10% of the decorative space for others to see, the primary and secondary are distinct. 4. The key point of breaking away is concerned about the present, focusing on the self. In addition, I don’t really agree with the high-voted answer that “breaking away” lies in “no good heart”. The answerer may be troubled by love and said, “Whether it is for things or for people, if you do nothing, you will not become a Gatsby who cannot get Daisy. “Nothing is good,” there is no weakness. “But I don’t know if the answerer has heard another sentence. Falling in love with someone is like suddenly having a weakness and suddenly having armor. You just love the wrong person. Your love has always been just your weakness. It has not become your armor. I think the essence of “breaking away” is not “the heart is not good”, but “the heart is good”, leaving those things you really care about, cherish them, and treat those who are reluctant to use them. Dare to abandon things. It’s the same for things, and it’s the same for people.

6 months ago

The essence is to dissipate other obsessions and focus on self obsession. A very Japanese way of thinking. There must be a process of true resignation, a process of cultivating this habit of thinking. The first stage: At the beginning, many things will be kept because they are poor and can’t afford anything, and even pick up the things outside and take them home. I think in my heart: I will always keep the ones that will be used in the future. Why should you keep it because you have to spend money to buy it in case you want to use it but you don’t have it? Why waste money? Secondly, a lot of old and broken ones will not be thrown away. I thought: these are all materials that can be combined into other tools to use. They can be used as rags, gadgets, etc. You don’t need to spend money in a hurry. Go buy it. So pile it up. Finally, some things that have been thrown away and wasted after being used several times will also pile up. It is a pity to throw away the things that have been bought or bought a lot of energy in it, and the cost of silence is high. The second stage: After a very poor life and start earning a little money, I start to lose myself. I want to buy this for fun, and the other to wear and wear. This is good-looking, the other is easy to use, and everyone is using it. Tomorrow tomorrow I’m going to buy a TV when I’m using my mobile phone. I bought a TV and didn’t think it’s too much trouble to move it. I bought a projector. The sofa is standard, no matter how many times a year I can sit on it, I have to buy it. The equipment in the kitchen is also for making food. Buy another one. All of these are useful, if it is not broken, use the leftover, or it is out of date for too long, otherwise it will not be thrown away. In the third stage, I bought too many things, piled up more and more, and wasted more and more. The consumption stimulus can no longer stimulate numbness. I don’t know which takeaway to order at noon every day, I don’t know which restaurant to go to eat every night, and I walk in the shop with a dazzling array of things I want to buy and I don’t want to buy anything. There may even be people who don’t know what they are doing or why they are alive. Then some people will start to reflect. A person who knows what he wants and what kind of birth he will look at his environment. Transform the environment into what you imagined. Resignation is a means to achieve what kind of life you want to live. In the end, it will go from material severance to spirituality to dealing with human affairs and so on. So the essence is. Find yourself!

6 months ago

It lies in discovering one’s core needs and paying attention to them. My dismissal started with ordering takeaways without disposable chopsticks. Once I was clearing the drawer and found that I had collected a lot of inferior disposable chopsticks. However, I always used the chopsticks at home when I was at home, so every time I confessed that I don’t need tableware every time, many takeaway shops also sent inferior milk tea drinks. Will refuse and stick to it so far. Throwing things is a symptom rather than a cure. If you don’t understand what you want, you will still buy the things you throw away. People who understand what they want will not bring them back from the source. 1. I don’t interact with my colleagues and acquaintances from different Sanguans, keep a distance, and leave more time to accompany my old parents, dear family members, and do what I like. 2. I can quickly determine what look I suits. I don’t buy lace, sen-girl style, satin, and fluorescent clothes at all. 3. Don’t worry about sunk costs, bad things and things will leave as soon as possible. 4. What you think is worth the investment, regardless of the cost. People who renounce their lives will attach great importance to self and think that “I” is very important, and the feelings and needs of “I” should be satisfied first.

6 months ago

The essence is that the heart really does not want to be greedy, let go, and dare to face it is not about a few pieces of broken furniture or clothes at home, but about the crisis and risks of life. Tibetan Buddhism has always had an extremely shocking way of practicing. The colored sand vajra mandala is the “complete world of the deity”. It is called “Manzala” in Sanskrit. It originated from the dojo where the Indian Buddhist Tantra, the deities and dependents of the Tantric Buddhism gathered. It is a kind of object that must be enshrined during the practice of the Tantric Tibetan Buddhism. It has various forms, mostly in the form of thangka and murals, on the walls of the temples. Or there are exquisite mandalas painted on the ceiling. The so-called colored sand vajra mandala is a vajra mandala drawn with colored sand as the raw material. The drawing process of the colored sand vajra mandala is extremely complicated. First of all, the production of various pigments and colored sand is the selection of sand paintings. Made of special fine sand. The white sand used is made by hand-grinding special stones, including precious metals and ores such as gold, turquoise, agate, etc. After dyeing, it becomes the basic material of the sand mandala. The colors used are white, black, blue, red, yellow, and green. In addition to white and black, the remaining four colors are divided into three levels: deep, medium, and light. A total of 14 colors can be adjusted. Generally speaking, the five basic colors of blue, yellow, red, green, and white correspond to the Five Buddhas and the Five Wisdoms. Then there is an extremely meticulous production process. Drawing the mandala is a difficult and meticulous process. The lama wears a mask, and the sand that has been ground into small particles is placed in a special cone-shaped container, and the flow is controlled by light or heavy beating. , Leak the sand on the template, carefully pile and outline, and must be focused and meticulous. If you are not careful, you will have to give up your previous efforts. Depending on the size, it will take several days to several months. This is the process of production; the artistry of the work is also very high. From an artistic point of view, the entire picture has a rigorous structure and rich colors. With the aid of sand, a medium that is rich in layers and heaviness, the religious meaning is fully expressed. Whether it is the Buddha sitting upright in the center, the creatures with different expressions surrounding the Buddha, or the ethereal aura surrounding the world, they all have their respective looks just right and harmoniously constitute a perfect world. What’s even more impressive is that this unique creative technique limits the possibility of too much change, so the entire picture must be completed in one go, just like monks writing out the familiar worldview in their minds. So that in 2014, this colored sand diamond mandala was approved by the State Council to be included in the national intangible cultural heritage list. However, this is not the most important thing. The most important thing is that it took several months to break into an intangible cultural heritage. His works of art are not meant to be displayed or appreciated at all. It was clear from the beginning—that is, it was destroyed, and it was the person who made it that destroyed the long creation. After success A brief joy, and then destruction without hesitation. When this sandy mandala is completed and after the puja. It will be dispelled. It is dispersed from the outer layer of sand to the inner layer. The remaining sand after being destroyed will be loaded up and divided into two halves, and one half will be given to the believers participating in the ceremony; the other half will be sprinkled into the nearby river, allowing the water to flow to the sea with blessings, and then spread to the world. This is the process of being destroyed; after the destruction, there is nothing, months of hard work, the shocking colorful mandala, everything seems to have never happened; this is the ultimate level of separation and separation. Just ask all living beings, even if you dare to take you All the furnishings in the house are moved out and thrown away. Do you dare to abandon the wealth, career, love, and even family affection that you have watered for half your life? However, the real situation of life is that many times, even if you don’t want to pay your attention, things are often ruined for no reason. This is the risk of general anxiety of the urban middle class-worrying about being careless all the time. The middle-class status that has climbed back up overnight, whether it’s unemployment, sickness, mid-life crisis, life or death, or life and death, will never struggle and become anxious. Such anxieties and greed can be thrown at random. The so-called severance of pieces of old furniture and old clothes cannot be solved. You must deeply understand from the heart that the nature of this world is that the world is indeterminate and indecisive, and instability and impermanence. Therefore, we can continue to work hard for what we believe in. ?? However, he has a deep insight into everything into the sky, so I don’t care about the impermanence and destruction that may be possible in the future, and I don’t care about it. In fact, this is not a profound thing, but it teaches you to live a life without anxiety. The mental strength that abandonment brings to people is actually healing people’s anxiety that is always present at this level. Those who are obsessed with throwing furniture, throwing clothes, throwing one or two, are either going crazy or cheating money. So when you next time If you do renunciation again, you can clearly tell yourself that you don’t have to go to any class at all, and you don’t even need to throw furniture or clothes at all. You can exercise your mental strength and you can be greedy for all crises and risks. , Can put it down, dare to face the pieces of broken furniture in your house, or whether to throw the broken clothes is really irrelevant

6 months ago

Since my family’s economic conditions were not good since I was a child, I have always had a fanatical desire and attachment to things as an adult. I followed a fashion blogger last winter, and spent almost every night on Weibo, adding shopping carts, and following the shop. Fortunately, he was very poor at the time, otherwise he would be so angry that he would vomit blood. That period of time lasted for about a year, during which he also matured a lot, and gradually walked out of the whirlpool controlled by material desires, and began a life of abandonment. Before I talk about the essence of renunciation, I want to say: There is no difference in lifestyle. I like to live a good life full of Dangdang, and there is nothing to show off for those who are willing to choose to leave. There is absolutely no need to judge people based on their lifestyles. A mature and lovely person will not gain the superiority of life in severance. Okay, let me interpret the severance in my own way. I believe the first key word is solemnity. I have always been an old-school person, like a heavy, heavy, full life. This kind of solemnity is first reflected in the choice, because I am still in school and have not entered the workplace, so I have always been clean and comfortable in choosing clothes. After collecting some stores, I will also buy some withdrawn goods. But even for this kind of clothes, I will carefully look at the size and return it immediately if it is not suitable (even if there is no shipping insurance, even if the shipping is expensive). Never stock up on useless clothes. The same is true for my selection of Weibo. First of all, I chose to install the international version of Weibo. It occupies very little memory, the interface is very clean, and there are no messy ads. Secondly, I have a very strict limit on the number of followers of my Weibo, no more than one hundred in number, never pay attention to bloggers who are moaning without illness, and regularly clean up people who I hardly read. After such a process, the information I obtain from Weibo every day is restrained and precious. It is what I need. Weibo is a very important platform for me, and I really learned a lot from it. I also incorporated this solemnity into the selection of books. This summer I cleaned up my book collection and sold all the books that were not needed to Catch Fish, clearing up a large area of ​​space and burden. At the same time, I gradually recognized myself and stopped buying books randomly following promotions. Nowadays, it is generally to find e-books first, and then choose to buy paper books when you meet the most familiar ones. When I was young, I always thought that the house where I bought books was cool, but now I feel refreshed, and the free room is really pleasant. All the above are all about selection. However, sometimes I am not so correct, and I always encounter this situation: I really liked this object at the time, but after a period of time I abandoned it like a mess, never want to see it again. According to my experience, 80% of this item is not clean. I have used the soap box for a few months, the white shoes I have worn for a few days, and the shirt is always pleated. At this time, keeping things clean and tidy is very important. In order to prolong the life of the items, I will set myself a routine for cleaning them, regularly washing soap dirt, cleaning shoes, and flattening clothes. After a day of study and returning to the dormitory, the clean table and bed always make me feel happy. Of course, the cleaning process does not need to be burdened. It is a meditation time to let my head go. The longer the lifespan of an item, the stronger one’s concern for him, and the less desire in his heart will naturally be. The last key word, I think it is orderly. Choosing a life of detachment, throwing away a lot of things, the room was a lot empty in an instant, but within a few days, things seemed to be messed up again. I have gone through this stage. During that time, I was very distressed. I always felt that my small corner became so messy because I didn’t throw enough things. So when I was studying, I would always look at my little corner with my hips akimbo. Later, I realized that my storage capacity was insufficient. I put my things on the head, hung up my clothes, and left only the necessary school supplies on the table. After packing up in this way, every time I take a break, I feel that I have really done a great thing. I have been living in a poor environment since I was a child. I don’t have my own room or a corner for a quiet desk. Now that this dream has finally come true, I naturally cherish it very much. I like the lifestyle of renunciation because it meets my natural needs, and I choose it because it allows me to better enjoy the hard-won peace. I hope that every reader who reads this answer can live in harmony with his favorite lifestyle.

6 months ago

Buy things you like, don’t buy things you don’t need, cherish things you like, and throw away things you don’t need: it’s good to be able to do these four things. But in fact, people are sometimes like this: they are reluctant to buy things they like, they can’t help buying things they don’t need, they don’t care for things they like, and it’s hard to throw away things they don’t need. This is not our relationship with things, but our relationship with ourselves.

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