The controversy lies in the definition of star-chasing behavior, whether the freedom and rationality of personal behavior should be restricted and disciplined by others, how the emotional needs of middle-aged and elderly people can be solved as reasonable, and whether the submission behavior is reasonable. Just for this contribution, the 800 yuan coffee machine is just a fuse. Before my mother bought various things and went to concerts, my daughter said that she had no objection, but in fact there were some, but these things have certain characteristics. Practicality, and some behaviors can indeed meet mother’s psychological needs, so she accepted. The reason why the 800 yuan coffee machine was used as the fuse was because the coffee machine was not available, but it was only because the star bought it, which detonated her daughter’s emotions, combined with a series of actions such as voting for tasks, and her daughter thought it was in line with her mind. A series of behavioral measures such as brainless star chasing and fan circle pua. In all fairness, this is a normal discussion, but as we all know, there is no normal discussion on the Internet. Whether it is for daughters to understand their mothers, or how to let their daughters handle this matter with peace of mind, it is a normal category, but on the Internet. With the Internet, it is impossible to have only these two lines. Now the hot search on Weibo is already on, which is very exciting. Let’s start to analyze 1. The daughter actually has her own internal judgment and boundaries on the behavior of the rice circle, especially for those involved in the celebrity circle, so she actually has an inner limit on her mother’s behavior, that is, she can’t Mozhao made statistics and only because celebrities bought useless things. When the story reached this point, the story detonated. Everyone has their own opinions on these two points. 2. Whether daughters should intervene and discourage their mothers’ behavior is very controversial. Some people think that mothers are already irrational and need to intervene; other people think that star chasing is harmless and does not invest much, and daughters make a fuss and make a fuss or even become unfilial Some people think that whether mothers chase stars rationally or not has nothing to do with their daughters, this is personal freedom, and what they spend on their own money, people should pursue their own emotional value. 3. The emotional needs of middle-aged and elderly people is a problem that has been neglected for a long time, but in fact it has been active in the public for a long time. For example, the health product marketer’s set of words is that your daughter is your son, such as the previous “fake Jin Dong” , Various types of scams “Twilight Love”, etc. If you are interested and capable, you can count the number of active middle-aged and elderly people on platforms such as small games and Douyin Kuaishou. Middle-aged and elderly people, especially those at this stage in our country, are in great need of value affirmation and emotional satisfaction. Influenced by the times, their own emotions, feelings and values have been defined and linked to their children for a long time, so they are easy to be deceived. It’s easy not to be understood. However, the difference between middle-aged and elderly people and minors is that they have the financial ability and the autonomy to act, that is to say, if their behavior is to be interfered, who will intervene, and how to define the behavior is off track. Who defines the orbit, whether children should and have the right to discipline their parents’ behavior based on their own value judgments when the law fails to interfere, especially the matter of star chasing, which is naturally controversial in social opinion. Some people use the analogy of their father watching female anchors for a long time and giving rewards. This is also a controversial matter. What kind of judgment does the public opinion have on the two? Furthermore, emotional needs actually have two levels of active pursuit and being guided. While we pay attention to and affirm that middle-aged and elderly people are pursuing their own emotional needs and values due to the age, family and other reasons, we must also see what does exist. At the guidance level, to a certain extent, guidance is also a kind of discipline for middle-aged and elderly people. In many cases, for things like star chasing, you can get positive feedback by playing rankings, doing data, and buying endorsements. Who said that? Who defines it? Spend money and time to visualize what you have done to get feedback. Is there a reasonable range? If all are reasonable, is there any reasonableness in similar behaviors? 4. For these kinds of things, my attitude is that if you want to get access to the Internet, you should find a blogger who can tell you directly. Don’t discuss it on an open platform, because the Internet platform just can’t control the rationalization of the discussion, not that a group of people is good. Tell you that you were wrong about this matter, and then I took it back, nothing happened, not to mention how many false submissions… 5. This matter is very lively, there are many parties involved, honestly the problem of star chasing has always been A hot topic in public opinion, the core problem is that one party believes that this is voluntary and one’s own emotional needs, while the other party believes that this is a voluntary, brainwashed, and emotional need to be assigned. For minors, it can still be viewed from the level of value guidance, but for adults with independent financial ability, it is impossible to unify at all. Sometimes it seems that the irrational behavior of a star fan is criticized uniformly, and it rises to the point. This star’s denial, but in fact, many are still stepping on the circle, and the operation mode of the whole circle has not been criticized on a large scale, even if it is said, it is submerged in the criticism of the individual. Emotional needs require feedback and visualization, which also gives room for the development of the so-called fan circle model. Visual star-following models such as ranking lists, doing data, controlling reviews, and forming a sense of group through a certain organization , And then feedback this demand through the development and growth of stars, there is still a lot of room for maneuverability. Regarding what the daughter said in her contribution, it is not practical to be so anxious. Part of the reason for such anxiousness is that her own cognition and her mother’s behavior have a violent conflict. Everyone has encountered this conflict. Family members deal with this kind of conflict. Conflict naturally cannot be old-fashioned. The mother’s behavior is developmental, and no one knows what direction it will develop, because what is developed in this way can be a good talk. Doing data in star chasing is the kind that has a certain period of time. “Addiction”, since it involves emotional needs, mentality is the most important thing. What mothers think about and how to adjust, what is needed more is communication and communication, rather than collision, and the same is true for the current public opinion on the Internet.