My family status is very poor. My household registration is a non-local rural area. My father has a primary school degree and my mother has a junior high school degree. When I was very young, I lived with my parents in other cities. My father worked and my mother was a housewife. My father joined my mother’s family. So my mother always wanted me to find a son-in-law. In addition, there was an accident in our family in 2017. My father was paralyzed by cerebral hemorrhage and was unable to take care of himself. There has been no source of income at home. My mother was determined to let me find a son-in-law in the future.
Besides, I am my only daughter, a nursing major at a medical university. I graduated this year with very good academic performance, but because of my family situation, I can’t go on to school. Because of the good looks and body, many boys like it during school. Maybe my mother and I don’t have the same three views. I like boys who have the same topic and are better than me. But I also know that in a situation like my family, I can only find a son-in-law who has worse family conditions. . . I really can’t accept this, and most of the boys I know in my circle are only children. No one can accept being a door-to-door son-in-law. My mother said that she was looking for a door-to-door son-in-law because she wanted to find a man to help me, so I don’t need it. After marrying to someone else’s house, I won’t be able to come back when anything happens at home. My mother also said that there is no requirement for academic qualifications, height or appearance, no occupation, just a job, no house or car, and no gift, as long as my family gets married. . . . .
I really don’t want to do this. First of all, I am very traditional, and I feel very awkward if I can’t accept a man’s inverted penetration. Secondly, the boys I met during school and the boyfriends I talked with before and my mother said that the door-to-door son-in-law is almost irrelevant. Finally, I want to find someone who has almost the same experience as my three views, not a difference. Too many door-to-door son-in-laws.
Once I refuted, my mother would say that I am selfish and that marriage is not a matter of two people, but a matter of two families. . . . What if you marry me and your dad? . . Since I was a child, I have always listened to what my parents say, and I have never even had a rebellious period. I didn’t find myself until I was in college. I wanted to live like myself, but I really didn’t want to find a son-in-law. . . .
This has made me feel very inferior. I don’t dare to fall in love after college. If I don’t look at family conditions, my own conditions are pretty good, but I can’t find a boyfriend I like and I know my family. After the conditions, which boy would be willing to be with me, come to my house to do charity?
Chasing. . . .
Because my dad is the door-to-door son-in-law, my mother is from a rural area in Hebei Province. Many in that village are looking for door-to-door son-in-law. My mother also has a sister, that is, my old aunt married out, so my mother has to find the door-to-door son-in-law. Then my dad’s family is in a rural village in Inner Mongolia. There are five siblings and four sons. My dad is eleven years older than my mom. My mom is 19 years old and married. My dad is 30 years old and they got married. , And then got married. My surname is my dad, my registered permanent residence is my mom, and I came to Tangshan, Hebei with my parents when I was very young, and has been living in Tangshan. My mom has never worked as a housewife since I got married. , Even if I rely on my dad to work, my dad has always treated my mom very well, and then I go back to my grandma’s house during vacations and other things. I have never been back to my grandmother’s house, and I have no impression. My mom has a very strong personality, and she is very strict with me and my dad. . . When I was young, I didn’t know why my father didn’t have a registered permanent residence with us. I have always had the label of children of migrant workers in school. Maybe the family is more complicated. I only understood what happened in the last two years. I can’t accept it. Maybe my mom wants me to find someone like my dad too