“A few days ago, a 23-year-old man who was a courier contacted me and wanted to sign up as a door-to-door son-in-law. He was so young, graduated from a technical secondary school, and had no expertise. He wanted to be a superfluous son-in-law, and it was very difficult to succeed. I did not accept it, I told him Only by learning a technology can there be hope.”

When I was young, I didn’t know the fragrance of soft rice, and I mistakenly planted rice seedlings in my youth. Witnessing a married wedding, the woman’s motorcade went to the man’s house to pick Xinlang to the hotel. And Xinlang waited in the room like a young wife to be married, drinking and blocking the door a lot. At that time, I felt that I shouldn’t be married in this life, but when I heard that the bride’s house had a villa, three residential houses, and several shops, I sighed and regretted it. Although people are fatter, they feel more cute. In fact, it depends on the father-in-law, what is the mother-in-law, the old father-in-law, the mother-in-law is kind, easy to get along with, and the wife is virtuous, then it will be very happy. If the old father-in-law and mother-in-law are not good and oppress every day, then the days will be very sad. They will not have the right to speak at home, and they will not receive the respect they deserve. The two paths are either leaving early or staying hard until they are old , Needs someone to take care of. Or if you are gone, you may stand up. Want to know if the man can also mention the following conditions? First, the woman must give a dowry before marriage. Why should my parents raise their sons for more than 20 years to be your son-in-law? My parents give the dowry according to their own conditions. We decide how much it is, and it has nothing to do with the wife. Second, the woman should prepare the house before marriage, preferably in full. If I need to repay the loan, I must add my name. Or firmly disagree. Third, never live with the woman’s parents. After all, married is a small family, and living together will inevitably lead to conflicts. There is still a generation gap in the thinking of the two generations.

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helpmekim
7 months ago

This should be related to the reality. In Xiaoshan District, there are many factory owners, and the news has also said that most of the family who hire sons-in-law are such owners. Ordinary people are still just married. And factories, especially small factories of that kind, are not the same. People in the previous generation have been busy for most of their lives, and the accumulated assets can’t be said to be discarded, and no one needs to inherit them. The factory is not like that kind of office company. It is impossible to relocate after relocation, so most of the children will choose to stay in Xiaoshan. Then in Xiaoshan, you said it was Hangzhou, it was indeed, but…you know it all. For men, generally if their family background is better, the woman is also willing to let her daughter pass. This kind of thing is not surprising to everyone. For women, if the man is allowed to settle down at the woman’s house, wouldn’t it be very close to the son-in-law that people think is the door-to-door. Therefore, in this case, Xiao Shan recruited more sons-in-law. Parents also feel that their children are unwilling to inherit, so they let their other half join their company as leaders or executives. Anyway, it’s easy, and it’s pretty good. In other places, it’s not that there are not so many so prominent. When I celebrated the Chinese New Year this year, I was dragged to a blind date. The other party was such a girl, of course not Xiaoshan, but my hometown. My family is in a good family situation, a small demolished household, but there is nothing to inherit. The other party has a machinery factory. The girl doesn’t understand this and has no interest at all. Just thinking about recruiting a son-in-law or something, just talk to my parents Say some of his thoughts, just those things above me, which I changed based on what this man said. My family feels that there is no loss for a hundred gains, son, go ahead. So he sold me without asking me if I would like to have a blind date. After the New Year, she returned to Nanjing, and she was also in Nanjing. But the two were too far apart. They crossed the whole Nanjing and made an appointment. There was a traffic jam on the weekend. There was no follow-up afterwards. . . It’s traffic, which hindered the process of my rich wife (no

heloword
7 months ago

I had already thought about a large part of the discussion, but when I clicked on the news in the link, I overturned all of it. My thought became that now the business of dating agencies is really not good, and I have to take advantage of the hot spot of “future son-in-law” to pursue exposure. The report mentioned that “Xin Zuo Son-in-law: Follow the male surname, live alone, and have the right to speak”. Is this still called Zuo Son-in-law? Isn’t this dating agency just introducing foreign boys and local girls? Hangzhou has developed rapidly in recent years, attracting many young people from other places to work (now it’s not easy to go out to do business, and it’s not easy to speak Hangzhou dialect). Isn’t it normal for foreigners to combine with locals? The example of “Hebei Boys and Xiaoshan Girls” cited by the protagonist matchmaking in the report further confirms my view. Under Li Jiyan’s matchmaking process, a boy from Hebei and a girl from Xiaoshan had been together for three months and then entered into a married marriage. Now his daughter is 7 years old and takes the man’s surname. “The boy himself is very good, he is 1.8 meters tall, handsome, has a postgraduate degree, is a civil servant, and has an annual salary of more than 200,000 yuan. The woman’s family has three suites. After marriage, the boy and the woman’s parents live together and get along with each other.” Li Jiyan listened. Said that a few years ago, the boy himself bought a house in Hangzhou with a loan. Apart from the fact that boys live in girls’ homes, where is there a bit of a traditional parentage? If a boy works in Hangzhou, he must live in Hangzhou. Living with the woman’s parents is also one of the options, which is normal. Even if it is boring to compare the conditions of the two sides, the gap is not that big. After all, the woman’s family has three suites, not the woman’s individual has three suites. After all, Hangzhou is not North, Shanghai, Guangzhou, Shenzhen, and the size and location of the house are not necessarily so expensive. If the house is bought early, it may also be a typical small citizen family with “sounds of large assets but small cash flow”. Boys are good in work and appearance, and if they have some personal charm, it is normal to attract women. In short, this is a matchmaking agency that focuses on local girls and (foreign) boys, using the concept of “superfluous son-in-law” to advertise. Finally, look back and make up some more. I understand that many people want to be superfluous son-in-law. Within the scope of East Asian countries, China is considered a place where men and women are relatively equal in concept (although many systems still need to be improved), and many young people actually don’t care about issues such as children’s surnames. Fighting for this is often the face of the relatives and friends, or the pressure of the elderly. If you work alone, your family, relatives and friends can’t control it. Without this layer of pressure, it’s normal to be a son-in-law. What’s more, finding the family relationship of local girls can indeed provide help for the development of non-local boys. In recent years, there have been many discussions on the Internet that boys are more realistic than girls? The so-called “superfluous son-in-law” is also part of this phenomenon. Regardless of the type of combination, I still hope that both the man and the woman will have some feelings and live a stable life with Hemeimei. Don’t think about using the other person when you are young, feel that you have been wronged, and will continue to abuse and abuse the other person as revenge in the future.

helpyme
7 months ago

One of my relatives has a son-in-law, I call the woman Aunt X, the woman’s mother is Grandma X, and the man is Uncle X. It was in the 1990s. Aunt X has three sisters, and she is the oldest. Although grandma and grandpa X always wanted to have a son, she always loved the eldest daughter very much, and even talked about marriage at the time and was reluctant to let her leave the village. Uncle A has never been to school, speaks very little, and has a burly stature. After being introduced by a matchmaker, Grandma X felt that he was honest and capable of work. When he saw Aunt X, he felt quite literary, and Aunt X also took a fancy to this young man’s appearance and figure. He finally chose to become a parent because his family was poor and was just needed by her family. After being married for a long time, they are still forced by life. After he fell ill, he couldn’t do heavy work because he was illiterate, he was not very happy at work, dumb, and he didn’t speak much. Her tenderness is gone, but she has wrinkles and white hair. When Aunt X was swearing and cursing, she could only see Auntie’s back looking down and going away. The word “Zhu” can be broken down to see that “Ao” means “uplifting, uplifting”; “Bei” means “value”. The combination of “Ao” and “Bei” means “value enhancement”. How many women dream of being able to fly on a branch to become a phoenix after “marrying off”, and men squeeze their heads thinking about “being married” and jump on horseback to become a prince. There is no essential difference between the two. But if there is no right to the right, if one’s own conditions and abilities cannot be appreciated by the woman, it is not so easy to be a door-to-door son-in-law for a long time. Just like the old man Gao and Ma are physically strong, the current academic qualifications, appearance, occupation, character, in the final analysis, these are just needed.

sina156
7 months ago

When I was young, I asked my sister, what is the reason for people’s hard work? Among the many items she answered, I was impressed: Working hard is to marry love, not to marry conditions. In my eyes, whether it is a boy or a girl, marriage and love are a high-level spiritual pursuit, not a tool for survival. It is for various similar reasons that humans are distinguished from other species. But later, I discovered that not everyone is giving full play to the value of human beings. Their mode of thinking and spiritual pursuit make me feel that human beings who survive to survive are truly sad. Time is not the only yardstick to measure life. Similarly, whenever I lament that some humans do not want to make progress because of other people’s spiritual pursuit of scarcity, I also wonder whether I will also be trapped in the quagmire of ignorance and shallow experience, and be seen more transparently. More profound people criticized. Then there is only one solution. Read more, experience more things, think more, and improve your thinking. Offer a picture. Not so serious, not so serious, not so serious! (Say the important thing three times, don’t want to offend.) But it means that.

yahoo898
7 months ago

In fact, serving the leader as if on thin ice is more relaxed than serving the wife and mother-in-law’s family as if on thin ice. After all, you have a lot of bosses, maybe a new boss will take up the post someday. In comparison, it is easier to find out the preferences of one person than to find out the preferences of many people. Helplessly, I don’t have the same appearance, figure, and mind. Not only I am not qualified to be a superfluous son-in-law, but I can only apply for the unpopular college-Computer Science and Software Engineering, which no one applied for back then. I am determined to be a code farmer and support my family.

leexin
7 months ago

There will be a market if there is demand. This phenomenon is not surprising. Not only Hangzhou, but most places in the country can be sought after. The direct reason is that because of family planning, many families have only one seedling and there are no males in the family, so they have to choose to recruit. husband. The so-called son-in-law is the folks called “inverted son-in-law.” The man marries the woman and establishes a new family with the woman’s family as the main body. This phenomenon is especially common in the market for wealthy women. Why are so many people willing to be superfluous sons-in-law? First, the vast majority of women who are willing to recruit sons-in-law are either rich or expensive, and can instantly raise the man’s economic level to several levels. In the context of heavy pressure in big cities, they are more willing to choose a shortcut. Second, most of the party recruiting son-in-law is an only-child family, which has nothing to do with family planning that has been in practice for many years. Since he is the only seedling in the family, he must be respected and beloved, and the man can enjoy the blessing by the mountains and rivers after marrying. Third, the contradiction between more men and fewer women is more prominent. Many girls are demanding higher and higher, and many men cannot find a target. Compared with free love, the probability that a man chooses to be a son-in-law to ask a wife is higher, and a lot of intermediate links can be saved. Fourth, the bride price is getting higher and higher. The advantage of being a son-in-law is that you don’t need to give a gift, and you can even earn a sum of money for your parents. In an environment where the cost of marriage is getting higher and higher, why should the man choose a more favorable way instead of doing it? Fifth, transportation and information networks are becoming more and more convenient nowadays, and the thought of “water thrown out by married people” in the past is out of date. Now whether it is a man marrying a woman or a woman marrying a man, the two of them are still living together in the end. Marriage and divorce are relatively free. The phenomenon of “people under the roof and having to bow their heads” is becoming rarer. Sixth, the laws on marriage and property are getting better and better. Marriage and divorce are guaranteed by law, even if they eventually cause property disputes. The law does not distinguish who marries who, and men and women are the same before the law, so today’s men are more confident in their son-in-law. Of course, it is not ruled out that some people want to take the opportunity to scam, nor do they rule out that some people have a try mentality, but if you can find true love in this way, I think it is a good idea to try.

greatword
7 months ago

Isn’t a son-in-law just like a woman marrying a man? It is an indisputable fact that a large number of women in society desire to change their wealth through marriage and love, and they are gradually being accepted by the public, so it is normal to switch to men on the contrary. After all, the society is developing, and the idea of ​​marriage as the inheritance of the family is gradually getting out of the minds of young people. This mentality is also a manifestation of equality between men and women, and there is no distinction between men and women. In an environment where the pressure of urban life is huge, and it is difficult for labor compensation and personal ability to outperform asset appreciation, there are housing, car driving, food, wife, children, and some people to help with education. This condition is not enough for most people. Are people moving? However, influenced by traditional ideas, people have cognitive biases toward door-to-door son-in-law. You may feel that a door-to-door son-in-law is nothing but a “soft meal”, relying on the woman’s family to hang around. Even if the man makes a difference after marriage, it is inseparable from the woman’s family background and economic foundation. This kind of public opinion greatly frustrated Zuo’s son-in-law’s self-esteem. If you meet a pair of strong parents-in-laws and get involved too much in the married life of the young couple, it will easily lead to unhappy marriage. Being a son-in-law is not easy because of the high income and the high risk of marriage failure. It is best not to do porcelain work without diamonds. At this point, I thought of taking a screenwriting class in college. The teacher said: “Students must remember to write homework. The final conflict must be resolved by the character. There are many assignments handed in by male students. The final conflict is the male lead. Marrying a beautiful wife, the old man is very awesome, and solved the problem, so that won’t work.” I told my boardmate, who is also a boy, and he said: What’s wrong, it’s so good. I just remembered a sentence from a good female friend of mine: Never expect men to be independent and self-reliant. Nowadays, it is women who seek autonomy in society!

loveyou
7 months ago

Generally, families looking for a son-in-law are not bad, at least they have a house to live in, and most of them still have a car to drive. Later, when the child is born, there will be a mother-in-law and a mother-in-law to take it. So, why not go with such good conditions? What’s wrong with the annual salary of 350,000, the previous generation did not accumulate, and still can’t start a family in the big city. As for the child’s surname, as long as it is of his own blood, how can he be so particular about it? Especially the kind of wives who can earn money and are willing to have children, and there are people in the mother’s family who can help. If I were a man, I would also sign up.

strongman
7 months ago

It’s an old tradition in Hangzhou’s son-in-law, especially in Xiaoshan District, Hangzhou. The Xiaoshan Internet Inquiry Platform once personally responded to questions from netizens. In the demolition regulations, the “conditions for entering a parentage” means that there must be one daughter or two daughters in the family, and there must be no boy in the family. Not only the demolition regulations, this clause has also been written into the village regulations of each village. As early as 2005, Xinhua News Agency published a comment on “”Xiaoshan Zhaozu” Triggers Moral Education Reflection.” Southern Weekend also exclusively reported in 2007, “The Observation of Xiaoshan’s Son-in-Law Phenomenon”. Xiaoshan is a member of the T0 echelon of the top 100 districts in the country, and the social phenomenon of recruitment is mostly due to the economic take-off and the “sequelae” of the one-child policy. In 1999, Xiaoshan withdrew from the county and merged with the city. After entering the 21st century, it happened that the first generation of only-children entered the wedding period. The only-children of Xiaoshan mostly had rich family wealth and their own family business. Such families basically did not want to “marry a daughter”, so they did not want to “marry a daughter”. With the idea of ​​recruiting extravagance. Corresponding to this are some people who have not yet become rich. The idea of ​​”I can’t afford to marry, it’s better to marry” has become the general trend. A cold knowledge, the two most famous son-in-laws in history are actually the poet Li Bai and the envoy Zhu Bajie of the net. In addition, Li Bai’s two marriages were both married to the daughter of the prime minister of the dynasty, both of which were of the nature of marriage. However, Li Bai, who grew up in Shu area, was influenced by the cultural background of many ethnic groups. He was extremely talented and open-minded, not limited to secular concepts. As long as Li Bai likes it, the people who queued up to invite him to join the juvenile can make arrangements to travel to France. In fact, married marriages in Ming and Qing Dynasties were also very popular. Because for the imperial court, it can avoid the phenomenon of extinction, and at the same time pay a few more taxes for the imperial court, which is simply killing two birds with one stone. In the novels of Ming and Qing Dynasties, the stories based on the background of the son-in-law are unknown. The famous series such as “Yu Shi Ming Yan”, “Jing Shi Tong Yan”, “Xing Shi Heng Yan” and “First Moment Pai An Surprise” and “Second Moment Pai An Surprise” There are 21-volume stories in which all involve the plot of “entertainment”. There are self-inviting parents, widows recruiting parents, as well as poor family members, poor family members, and wealthy members…In fact, from ancient times to the present, Being married is just a way to choose marriage, it’s nothing unusual at all. It’s not so much that the door-to-door son-in-law doesn’t look good, it’s better not to think so in the unexpected world, and manage the small family and everyone.

stockin
7 months ago

Is it so difficult to get married? hhhh How to put it I think in the future women are men and men may gradually become women. Girls: “I have to work hard! Struggle!” Boys: “Sister/Aunt I don’t want to work hard anymore.” Or men “marry a wife” After marrying a woman into his own family, he became a member of his own family. From then on, her husband’s family ranked first, and her natal family became relatives. Either the woman “recruits extravagance” and lets the man “invert the door” to enter her home, and she becomes a member of her own family. From then on, her mother-in-law and her mother-in-law are ranked first, but parents become outsiders. However, these two concepts of marriage are inherently wrong! Marriage is a man and a woman. They come out of their respective native families and form a new family together. This new family is the first one. Both parties have the same responsibilities to both parents. There is no difference in distance. Why should an independent adult be “assigned” to a certain family after marriage? Everyone is calling for independence, but the concept of marriage still stays in the old society?

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