According to statistics, the number of “empty-nest youths” in my country is expected to rise to 92 million in 2021. According to data released by the People’s Think Tank, the vast majority of “empty-nest youths” choose to live alone. Among them, 47.5% chose to live alone because they “want to have their own privacy space”, and 39.2% chose to live alone because “their life and rest are different from others and do not want to be influenced by others”. 33.5% and 32.2% of the “empty-nest youths” who chose “It is convenient to live alone” and “There is no special reason, simply want to experience living alone” accounted for 33.5% and 32.2%, respectively
“Empty-nest youth” refers to young people who live alone away from their parents and relatives, and are between 20 and 39 years old. “Living alone” is the most significant feature that distinguishes them from other youth groups.
It is a common phenomenon that young people in public basically wear headphones when listening to music and watching videos, and most of them are middle-aged people in public. When I was in school, there were no short videos. The most publicly released music was music, and the most popular of the publicly released music was Legend of Phoenix, which was influenced by public release. At that time, Legend of Phoenix was called agricultural heavy metal. Tuhi, exclusive for middle-aged and elderly people. At present, the most external broadcast is Douyin, so the sentence of Douyin recording the good life has become the biggest noise among many people. I mentioned this to illustrate that with the changes of the times, the habits of several generations have undergone tremendous changes. Why do older people like to put it out? Because they don’t realize that it is a kind of noise. They don’t care about other people put it out, and they don’t realize the problem of it. Young people are just the opposite. Young people are more and more concerned about not being disturbed. Even minor external announcements will disturb themselves at any time like the buzzing of mosquitoes. Young people have become more and more annoyed by all external interference, even if those things are actually very minor, they are already a huge “roar” in the eyes of young people who just want to let go. These roars include, but are not limited to: keyboard knocks, game team communication, TV broadcasts, roommates pacing in the living room, a sneeze for breakfast in the next room, and the light that hasn’t gone out at ten o’clock in the evening. The curtains opened, and even the expression of the roommate when he came back today. In the case of known sources, inexplicable pressure and overwhelming anxious propaganda, every trivial detail may be called a needle that pops an emotional balloon. Young people are very careful to avoid disturbing the outside world and try to avoid being disturbed by the outside world. . So living alone is the best choice. You can’t expect a roommate who works in harmony with everything. The roommate may be a weird thing, or you are a weird thing, so there will be more and more incompatibility with you. Deleting the roommate will solve everything. The troubled bottom is drawn. In a private space, there is no need to be cautious anymore, this is a great relaxation. Many married men feel that the air of freedom only exists in the ten minutes when they go home and park their car in the garage. Living alone empties not only the space, but also the shielding of all troubles. Some people say that young people have become intolerant, and I think it’s right. This generation of young people’s condemnation of bear children is getting stronger and stronger, which reflects a kind of intolerance. Young people no longer agree with “He is just a child, don’t care about him”, young people begin to believe that “It is nothing to do with me if he is a child.” This has nothing to do with right or wrong, it is just a change in thinking mode, the same, the other side of intolerance Just don’t need others to tolerate. Young people no longer bother others for their own convenience. For example, if they don’t wear headphones when they go out, they choose not to watch the video instead of public broadcasting. For example, when bargaining, the bid is always cautious, for fear of causing dissatisfaction with the store. This generation of young people has also become able to defend their rights. I believe that 99% of Zhihuli Tucao Express’s answer to the rookie station are young people. At first glance, this phenomenon seems to be quite contradictory. While young people are restraining themselves cautiously, for fear of trouble others, they are “pretentious” and aggrieved over these steps. In fact, the core is the same. Young people are becoming more and more aware of abiding by the rules. They constrain themselves within the framework and become increasingly disgusted with things outside the framework. So when it comes to returning, young people are instinctively confused, timid, and choose to escape when faced with things that have no framework, no rules, and no conventions. This is not a derogatory term. Young people choose this because they are afraid of making mistakes, afraid of influencing others, and afraid that their behavior will become a strange thing in others’ mouths. Of course, there is another point that is social. When human beings cannot withstand risks as individuals in the early days, group living is the optimal solution, and there is no better way to survive than to report to the group to keep warm. With the development of productivity and social changes, everyone finds that the role of social interaction has become smaller and smaller, and things that were originally unavailable can hardly be obtained from social interaction (the list obtained by drinking at the wine table is not called Socialization is just a part of work), and the side effects of socialization are becoming more and more obvious. It is boring, non-speculative, and requires a lot of energy, and some people have to deliberately dress up. It is difficult to say that entertainment outside of work is not purely social, but at least it will leave a strong negative impression on young people’s psychology, so socializing has also become a heart disease. When it comes to social interaction, the blood pressure of young people rises. Therefore, empty nests are an inevitable trend of current culture and mentality. There is no convention to live with people, so avoid the problem of living with people. If you don’t know how to get along with a person, just don’t get along. When the division of labor in society is becoming more and more refined, it is more and more clear who needs to be in contact with, what to accomplish, and there are fewer and fewer fuzzy boundaries, so that meaningless contact time can be eliminated. Living alone is undoubtedly the most efficient way to choose. I remember when I first learned English, when my English teacher talked about the cultural differences in greetings between China and the United States, they would always mention that the content of the small talk was different. Chinese people like to talk about family, what does your son do, is your daughter-in-law beautiful, and how many grandchildren do you have? Britain and the United States like to talk about the weather and think it is rude to talk about family. When I was in school, my father occasionally asked my classmate friends where they lived and what their parents were. I asked three questions. My father did not understand, and I did not. In just 20 years, young people have also evolved to be disgusted with talking about their private affairs with others. In fact, this is not a difference between China and the United States, but a difference in cultural change, economic development, and social division of labor. The young people nowadays don’t expect to understand each other anymore, so they just set aside and hope not to disturb each other.