It’s almost a maternal solo. Sometimes I really feel like I’m so bad. Why is the relationship of the opposite sex so bad? It’s harder for me to get out of the singles than to go to the sky. Sometimes I think about it and it’s hard for others to ask me how I can be single for so long. I don’t know how to answer in time
Many friends in the comment area said that they like being single and want to choose a long-term single life, which is completely OK. Historical experience tells us that we must not be a fencer, and must firmly fight for the life of our choice. Peony itself is not terrible, but the logic behind it is terrifying. I am not Peony myself. My undergraduate degree is in civil engineering. The ratio of men to women is about 30:1. So many college classmates are Peony. Before I was 19, I thought I would be single for a long time. Recently, I talked about this topic with my good friends after having a barbecue. Combining with the experience of Peony for a period of time, I roughly summarized the following points. If you feel uncomfortable, please consciously quit! Knowing that users are of different ages, I basically summarized them as keeping peony during college and still peony after three years of graduation. 1. Not facing up to one’s emotional needs. Falling in love does not mean that you have to decide whether to stay with him at the first glance, where to buy a house, which city to live in, and what the child’s name is. One of the most important feelings of falling in love is appreciation and the other is warmth. You think it’s not hard for you to get along with him, and it’s enough for him to have his own unique points to impress you. People are the sum of social relationships. We all desire to appreciate and be appreciated. We should face this emotional need. Don’t think that the game is fun. Why do you want to fall in love? Then why do you have to sleep after eating? These are two different needs. 2. I am an unattractive person. According to the law of attraction, if you are not attracted to anyone, it means that you are not a person who can attract others. You have not cultivated a unique self for more than 20 years. 3. Lack of self-confidence and the courage to try and make mistakes. This corresponds to having a goal and not daring to try. These qualities are very important for a man, and women are also important, but generally speaking, the active pursuit of love is started by the boy. . There is no self-confidence and the courage to try and make mistakes in love, which will lead to lack of exercise in personal growth qualities, which is often said to have no masculinity, glass heart 4. Dare not to bear failure, and weak in pressure. Many boys and children do not The reason for daring to take the first step is to be afraid of failure, afraid that the other party will withdraw after being involved in the feelings, which will lead to weak pressure-bearing ability of personal qualities and risk of gains and losses. In summary, if you have not been in love after graduating from university for three years (calculated based on the age of 25), there is a high probability that you will not be able to face your own needs, lack of characteristics and attractiveness, lack of confidence and courage, and have weak pressure-bearing ability. Or several situations. Therefore, love in college is not only about being with a person, laughing and laughing, but also a shaping of your own quality. Few people before the age of 25 have these four points and can’t get out of the single. If there is, then you have not. Find a place that suits you and someone who appreciates you.