It just so happened that yesterday I met my mother’s colleague and talked to me about her parenting experience. When her daughter was in elementary school, she went to a very ordinary elementary school nearby. Her philosophy is happy education, first physical education, second moral education, good health, good relationship with classmates, and third is grades. That’s how she teaches children. In the fifth grade elementary school, the connecting middle school takes four years. However, the middle school that takes four years is generally considered to be bad, but it is said that the biggest problem at the time was not that the middle school was bad, but that the middle school was far away from home, so the daughter took the exam. A key junior high school near my home, and was admitted. After entering school, because I missed elementary school for one year, my grades were the lowest in the class. She made up lessons for her daughter, and if she couldn’t make up, she would find a teacher to make up for it after class. In this way, not only did her grade keep up with the big army, but later she was admitted to a key high school with a good grade that no one can imagine. She is currently graduating with a PhD in 985. So her point of view is, study, don’t be so anxious, isn’t it good for children to be like this? Parents should relax. But to review this story, it’s not so much the aunt’s parenting experience, as it is the confidence that a good family has given good grades. First of all, in any case, this aunt is a college student back then, and her own qualities are placed there. How could a person who studied very hard and had high demands on himself, let go of his own requirements for study. The only difference is that people with good grades, or people who have studied for a long time, know the true meaning of reading better: grit your teeth and persist. You can keep your mind free, clenched your teeth and insist on reading, without distractions, and your basic academic qualifications will not be too bad. Many highly educated friends are saying that their high academic qualifications are not entirely supported by ingenuity, but rather perseverance to stay lonely. Therefore, many high-educated parents who graduated from colleges and universities are not so true to their children’s grades. They know too well that the level of performance at this time is nothing at all. They only care if the child has enough diligence to persevere in learning, and it is very boring to study physically and mentally. You can play games and exercise without losing much time. Secondly, parents will use their own vision to give children super education, sometimes not necessarily in line with the children’s current learning content. As long as you can read pinyin and write words in the first and second grades, your grades will not be too bad. However, I have seen a child who was in the first and second grades. His grades were so bad that he would always be at the bottom. But what is really amazing is that the child only made mistakes in the first half of the test paper, with very simple and basic content, and a good question in the second half. Classmates, including those with very good grades, are all wrong. This child is good at every question. This shows that children have a good understanding of complex logic. Reading analysis questions can understand all of them, even if they can make mistakes in writing and pinyin. Conversely speaking, the educational content of writing and pinyin will be practiced repeatedly in the later stage, but if the logical relationship and thinking framework are not well established, it will be a bit hard to make up later. This aunt’s child did not learn very well in the content of the teaching in the school. However, the daily reading of the various classics and cultures of the East and the West at the home, the “Historical Records” at the elementary school stage, etc. have been read through. Ordinary families, how would they think of reading these to their children? Finally, the economy is the guarantee of education. The aunt is a dentist in a tertiary hospital, and so is her husband. Later, she tried her best to keep her job. Her husband opened a clinic outside. You probably know the financial level, right? The child learns to play the Guzheng. She thinks that the test is boring. You don’t need to participate in the test, you can learn it. The child has been learning for more than ten years. In the make-up lesson, her daughter had poor physics scores, so she told the make-up teacher that she didn’t need to make up advanced and sophisticated content, just don’t lose points when making up the basics. The teacher also looked for a good one. After making up the physics, the chemistry score will also be up. Just, let’s ask, can parents have such calmness for children whose children’s education costs occupy an excessive proportion of their family’s income? In addition, there is no financial pressure to get a Ph.D. In the middle of the financial contribution, not every family can afford it calmly. After all, for children with relatively well-off families, reading is something that can be done without burden, and this has been the case since ancient times. In fact, it means that after having a child, the focus of parents should not be completely placed on the child, and the child will have a good chance if he develops himself well. After all, the starting line of society has always been parents.