In my understanding, this party is the smallest in this dinner and should take the initiative to pay.

But my dad said, this shouldn’t be paid, because if you pay, you don’t give your superiors face.

In this case, how to deal with it is the most reasonable?

In fact, it doesn’t matter whether you pay the bill or not. It’s even more important to understand why your leader invites you to a dinner with higher leaders. If you don’t care about the money, you can take the initiative to pay the bill to ensure nothing is wrong. Your dad’s so-called not giving face to the leader is purely unwilling to spend money on you. However, if you have been in the unit and settle the account with the leader, it is too late for the leader to be happy! Your thinking is right. You are the youngest at the dinner. Not only do you have to pay the bill, but you have to adjust the atmosphere. To put it bluntly, you are going to provide services to make your leaders feel and the big leaders feel more. That’s right. ! But you’d better understand why you were selected, so that you can move forward and retreat freely, and there is so much in it. On the one hand, your leader wants to train you, or on the surface wants to train you, to make you understand that this kind of meeting with superiors is called you to show your face and prepare for the next step, so you have to know in your heart. , Support his work in the future, there are good things that will miss you. On the other hand, your leader is just using you, maybe you can drink, maybe you can talk. In short, this kind of dinner with his superior leader is very important to him personally. He calls you just to show you how to respond. Something! In either case, in the workplace, you must have the most basic emotional intelligence. You must take the initiative to pay for it, and you must also spend your time at dinner. This is the basic cultivation of a workplace person. Edited 4 hours ago

It is not recommended to pay, and there are several points to consider: 1. What is the purpose of your superiors inviting you at the same time? 2. Is the purpose of eating public or private? 3. What kind of functional department are you in the company? Generally, clear-minded leaders ask their subordinates to participate in the dinner, and they will inform in advance who may participate in the dinner, what effect or purpose we want to achieve, and what taboos or words should be paid attention to during the dinner. (Some leaders don’t mention this, they need to observe and comprehend by themselves, which is what should be said and what should not be said) So it’s best to ask the leader clearly at that time, because I can drink better, and I went with wine in the past. ; Or because I am a key technical position or project leader, I need to explain to higher-level leaders in the dinner; or your leader appreciates you better and wants to recommend you to higher-level leaders. If you don’t know anything, you can’t ask, or it’s inconvenient to ask, then you can only judge what kind of situation it belongs to by observing your words during the dinner. If you are going to accompany the wine, you can’t pay the bill. If you pay, where will you put the face of your superior? Didn’t this take the opportunity of your superiors’ performance? Besides, even if you pay for ZZ correctly, it is also a chance for others to perform.

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helpmekim
7 months ago

Boss, what my leader said is true. I often use you as an example in meetings. Last time you mentioned the xx requirement, my leader immediately arranged to implement it. The final result was xxxxx, which was very effective. From your words, the first is to praise the leader, and the second is to praise the boss indirectly. This meal will be very enjoyable. This kind of routine must be applied repeatedly in the dinner, and your attendance mission will be completed. Your leader will definitely appreciate you a lot, and the big boss will feel that you have high EQ and are worth training. As for paying the bill? Of course, you bought it silently. It’s all leaders. You’re doing the service. This positioning must be accurate, and you must really treat yourself as a guest. After the dinner, I believe that the leaders will give you the money. Even if you don’t give it, you should invite the leader to have a meal, and you can also help you invite the big boss over. This is actually a rare social resource.

heloword
7 months ago

Boss, what my leader said is true. I often use you as an example in meetings. Last time you mentioned the xx requirement, my leader immediately arranged to implement it. The final result was xxxxx, which was very effective. From your words, the first is to praise the leader, and the second is to praise the boss in directly. This meal will be very enjoyable. This kind of routine must be applied repeatedly in the dinner, and your attendance mission will be completed. Your leader will definitely appreciate you a lot, and the big boss will feel that you have high EQ and are worth training. As for paying the bill? Of course, you bought it silently. It’s all leaders. You’re doing the service. This positioning must be accurate , and you must really treat yourself as a guest. After the dinner, I believe that the leaders will give you the money. Even if you don’t give it, you should invite the leader to have a meal, and you can also help you invite the big boss over. This is actually a rare socia l resource.

helpyme
7 months ago

This is indeed a bit troublesome for this kind of meal. The first thing you need to figure out is that your leader invited your superiors to dinner, why you invited your subordinates at the same time, and whether they also invited other people. You should understand the character and official character of your leader. Is there any chance for you lately? Wait. First of all, I have no liking for the leaders who call subordinates to check out, and the default is “scum”. But sometimes, people are under the eaves… Normally, there is no special situation and one should attend. At the same time, according to the approximate restaurant grade and the possible scale of meals, you should bring appropriate money. It is recommended that 3-5k is enough. Of course, if the scale is large, it is estimated that it will be difficult for ordinary people to pay. Go a little earlier and learn as much as possible about the leadership’s intentions, the true intentions of the leadership to let you go. Be aware of your leaders’ words and opinions. At this time, you should figure out what you are going to do. Is it to find a person (or several) to accompany the wine, or to run errands, do some “care” as much as possible, and join in.

yahoo898
7 months ago

You have to look at what your superiors are doing. Many times the leaders just need a tool person to bring you. The big leaders really need you to answer when they ask for details. Some leaders are inconvenient to brag and need you to brag. You need to talk about situations that are inconvenient for the leader. Big leaders love to drink and need you to accompany him to drink. The leader expects to drink too much, and you need to pay the bills and carry the bag called Didi…Of course, the person who pays the bill is also a tool person.

leexin
7 months ago

Can’t help but say a few words, this kind of wine bureau has rules, or there are fixed routines, you can not blindly modify the rules. You can understand this wine bureau as a sacrifice. The checkout is the climax of the whole ceremony. The moment when your superiors close the account is the moment when the sacrifice is truly completed. I wrote before that I participated in a wine bureau with exactly the same level of difference as yours. The personnel of my superiors did not know that I was going to send him to gastric lavage. In the end, I turned out his wallet and settled the bill. In the face of higher-level leaders, because that is the rule, there must be money in his wallet to pay the bill. If there is no money, then he would not understand the rules. These things I’m talking about, young people feel foul and angry. It’s really not a good thing, but it exists, at least for some time to come. I took the risk of being scolded and wrote it just to tell those who have just stepped into the society that there are many similar shit rules. I will write again when I have the opportunity. The purpose is really for your good.

greatword
7 months ago

Poverty is the best protective color. Who doesn’t want to spend a lot of money, isn’t it no money? I won’t talk about the truth, let’s talk about the reality. In general marketing positions, it is still very common for lower-level employees to pay bills, because when you are asked to do the service, the bills are reimbursable. A reliable leader will explain this to you. In the case of private bureaus, reliable leaders will generally tell you that if he comes to treat guests, if you do well, you will complete the task without having to pay. As for other business posts, you will generally not be asked to pay for it, and you will only be asked to participate in entertainment and learn something. Of course, when you encounter unreliable ones, they are called to make you treat guests. I have heard a lot of this. You have nothing to do with the insatiable and greedy person, and stay away early.

loveyou
7 months ago

First of all, judging from my own experience in state-owned enterprises for several years, I have dinner with my superiors. I have never spent any money. why? This is because between the superior and the subordinate within the system, there is a difference similar to generation in the tradition. In fact, many things are similar. For example, elders care about my warmth, personal relationship problems, and study mood? Is it cold in winter or hot in summer? The same goes for unit department leaders and big leaders. If I talk about someone who doesn’t give (within the system) unit leaders, they will be unhappy. Having said that, I will be very pleased to care and even ask, “Little tea, find a chance to have a meal, and let me help you check it out.” Conversely, corresponding to obligations and responsibilities, the leaders have big things and little love, weddings and funerals, Moving and running errands must also be our business, a phone call.

strongman
7 months ago

Just imagine your uncle invites your uncle’s generation to eat, and asks you to pay the bill? I don’t want to take a few people in the past to eat and drink for nothing. Of course, there are exceptions. There are also leaders who don’t pay attention to love and greed, but to be honest, judge for yourself what is the advantage of following mixed energy. I was fooled once, and next time I was told to forget to bring the money and it was over. He wants to run on you because this is a run. I think he can change departments as soon as possible. Finally, foreign companies may be different. My experience is that if the leader asks you to go, he must pay, or transfer the account, and go through the reimbursement process. Cannot be reimbursed. Foreign companies generally look at their performance. The department bosses rely on the people below to work hard to complete their tasks. There are very few who run on the people. Explain it slowly.

stockin
7 months ago

Is the current workplace so complicated? Thinking of so many and nothing, are you tired? If you want me to say, don’t think about these useless things, there is one right way in the workplace: do what you should do…what do you want to do? Can help superiors, subordinates, co-workers, departments, and even Party A worry about it, not because of me! So when the leader asked me to eat, I went to chant. What did you do? Of course it is to follow the instructions-eat! As for why the leader told me to eat it, in what form and process should I eat this meal, and what effect should I eat in the end, isn’t that what the leaders of the bureau need to worry about? I am a person who “just undertook the task of eating”, what I need to do is to be serious and eat well? Leading you to follow your design, I will not trouble you, do not “create accidents”, do not test you on the spot, this is the best way to complete the task!

sina156
7 months ago

In my understanding, this party is the smallest in this dinner and should take the initiative to pay. “I don’t know where you got this understanding? In comparison, your dad is more sophisticated than you. Conclusion: Don’t pay the bill. First of all, look at gender. If your leader and big leader are both men, You are a female. 1. In this dinner, it is very likely that you are just a guest or a warmer. It is not because of value or promotion, so you don’t need to pay the bill, but you will become the dominant player. 2. If yours The big leaders are attracted to you? Have ideas about you? What you should think is not about paying the bill, but about changing jobs.

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