I was preparing to get a certificate with my boyfriend. He developed in the north and wanted to live with his parents after marriage. I have been to their home twice. His parents are very good to me, but I think that if I stay together for a long time, my teeth will still knock my lips. At that time, I was afraid that my living habits would be different and the north-south differences would be huge. It is inevitable that there would be disagreements. If unpleasantness occurs then it would be difficult for my husband to be caught in the middle. I told my husband what I thought, and he said that he treats me very much. Disappointed and very cold. He said that my parents are in their 60s. I am very unfilial. And if I want to bring my parents over, he would be willing, but I don’t want to say that I am a wolf. I am sad, am I? Very wrong
He wants to take his parents over to fulfill his filial piety. This is human nature. We should praise him. However, when you refuse later. When he comes up, he will tag you with a big hat of unfilial piety. This is disgusting. There should be discussions and discussions between the couple. You come to me. He puts forward his needs, but you refuse. Should normal people actively look for a plan acceptable to both parties to implement it? For example, as many people mentioned, find a house nearby in the community to live with their parents. It can not only take care of the elderly, but also ensure the independent life of both parties. But he doesn’t. It seems that in his cognition, there are only two ways to pick up the parents to live with and let the parents stay in their hometown alone. This is either him, thinking about the problem is too simple and one-sided. Either he had the idea at the beginning that his parents would take it over and let you take care of him, and he would not interfere. After all, he married a wife to take care of his in-laws and have children. To be honest, I don’t think you should get the certificate for both of these possibilities. Not being smart will affect future generations. Marriage life is easy to jump off if you don’t think about it. Seriously, at this time, the blind date is good. Everyone will explain their needs clearly. Get married if appropriate, and bye bye if it is inappropriate. There is no need to pay so much emotional cost. Marriage and love. It may really be two different topics.