Betrothed at the end of March 2020 and retired in mid-August, just a few months reminded me now that it is still breathless and too depressing. I met him on a blind date. The two people don’t have much emotional foundation. Once there is a little conflict, I hope the other party can coax patiently. After all, it’s a girl, but he always handles it coldly and violently. , To upgrade a small contradiction to a larger contradiction. I am a more sensitive person. When there are too many unpleasant connections, I want to escape, and I think of the future. In addition, I am not a person who is not willing to be reasonable, so when I fall in love, what I need more is that the other party can not only coax me, but also face those problems with me, turning each other into each other’s ideal partner. It’s not just being awkward, it’s always cold and violent and unwilling to communicate, leaving me alone to digest those bad emotions. After getting along for a few months, I found that he was not a suitable candidate, because every time I had a conflict, he would be cold and violent. When I became more angry, he would alarm his family, and his family would hope that I would be tolerant again. I hope I understand him and tolerate him. He is 31 years old and 32 years old now. I was 26 years old. I was with him because he said he liked me very much and would treat me well. I also thought that the other person would be more tolerant of me when he was a few years older than me. , But the reality slapped her face. Many things have nothing to do with age. He has a poor ability to take care of himself and is selfish. Not to mention cooking and cooking. He even needs his mother to wash his clothes every morning, and then go to work after washing. On the contrary, I feel sorry for his mother’s hard work and will take the initiative to help her wash the dishes. His mother never felt gratified about the incident because her children did not wash the dishes at home, but the daughter-in-law who had not been through the house and washed the dishes again and again, and even took it for granted. After I got engaged with him, I occasionally went to his house to play. His mother felt sorry for her son to help with housework in the future, and would suggest that I learn to do housework, because my mother told them that I was lazy before getting engaged. Don’t dislike it, it was his mother who kept saying that it was okay, and then it was his mother who minded that I didn’t do the housework regularly. I think it’s enough to go to his house for dinner and occasionally wash the dishes. I think that occasionally giving her money and buying clothes for her daughter to buy food, even if I’m lazy, it’s not that bad. The result is not. In her eyes, I am still a terrible girl. She will not tell me clearly, but she has done a lot of things that hurt my heart. When I was engaged for more than two months, at the dinner table, she was discussing why I was not pregnant. Then she compared me with others and said that someone had a child in more than half a month after being engaged, saying that we two I haven’t been pregnant for many months. When it comes to the topic of infertility, I asked the blind date to take me to the hospital for an examination because I respected her as an elder. According to my temper, I resisted that I didn’t go crazy on the spot. The thing that disappointed me most was the blind date. The subject didn’t say a word while eating, and didn’t feel that his mother’s words were inappropriate. First of all, I can accept the premarital examination, but what makes me angry is why when it comes to infertility, she will first consider my physical problem, rather than whether her son is also having a problem. Later, I will talk to him and he Said that I think too much, that his mother only cares about my body. There are too many things like this, and I don’t want to list them all. As long as there is something unpleasant between me and his mother, I’m not suitable to say it clearly. I will tell the blind date to suggest that he is going to enlighten, after all, “said by my daughter-in-law”. “Said by my son” are two different feelings, but the blind date not only does not talk about his mother, but also favors his mother in various ways. In the end, I blamed me for thinking too much, even though I was so wronged and cried several times. The last straw that crushed the camel was his younger sister. His younger sister was only 13 years old. At first, I got along well with his younger sister. I felt good to her and I got one more sister. But the good times didn’t last long, and the blind date’s mother was because My blind date is often unpleasant, and she feels that I am not diligent enough, and she has some opinions on me, including his son who said she, and she also knows that it may be what I said to the blind date, but she didn’t remember me at that time. All right. His sister is always stuck with the mother of the blind date. Perhaps after listening to what the adults say, she has begun to be no longer friendly to me, and even speaks disrespectfully to me. At a young age, she is not like a 13-year-old child. At that time, I felt that the elders shouldn’t always get involved in the affairs of the young couple. It’s fine if his mother is always involved, and in the end the children are also involved. I am an outsider to them and will never be able to blend in. At that time, I always felt that their family was VS me, which made me breathless. It made me feel that when I fell in love and got married, I had to deal with not only my partner, but also a group of people around him. His mother always likes to compare other people’s daughter-in-law’s diligence with me, there is something in her words. Once my blind date tried to talk to his mother after I cried. His mother didn’t feel that she was doing anything wrong, and she cried in front of her son, “Isn’t I good for you? To put it bluntly, I’m superfluous. …” In fact, the purpose of my conversation with the blind date is very simple, that is, I hope she will not always participate in the relationship between me and the blind date in the future, because I have an awkward relationship with him, and parents must be biased towards their children and worry about their children being wronged. Including my parents is the same, so I have never dared to let my parents know that where he didn’t do it makes me unhappy, I just bear it silently by myself, just try to talk clearly with two people, because I am worried about my mother. Will have a bad impression of him. But when my blind date was talking to his mother, his mother snotted and shed tears in front of his son, making my blind date stunned, and finally felt that we were bullying his mother. I really don’t know what to say about this kind of elder. When the blind date told me this, I couldn’t believe his mother would be like that. I had a conflict with him and quarreled, she would always get involved, like a peacemaker. No matter what it is, she will take care of everything about me and him. I am not a person who is submissive, but at that time I feel that my family is harmonious, and I don’t want to have any direct conflict with her. In addition, he and I have not obtained the marriage certificate, so I shouldn’t care too much, every time his mother If I don’t respect me, I always endure it, and I always imagine the blind date he will defend me, and I don’t have to open my mouth and cry with him, but he disappointed me more than once or twice. Regardless of his mother, the blind date is still okay, at least it’s okay for me. He has done a lot for me and changed a lot for me. It’s just too much for Ma Baonan, which is fatal. I also don’t want to have too much relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the future. I already have so much unhappiness before marriage. I don’t want to be worse after marriage, so I want to stop the loss in time, and separation is a relief for each other. During the time he retired from marriage, he always came to keep me, and I didn’t agree to stay together anymore, no longer crying and forgiving him again and again as before. In short, during the few days of retiring, the two families were very unhappy, and he lost a lot of weight and experienced a lot of vicissitudes during that period. There are pleasant and unpleasant things together, but there are too many unpleasantness, and it makes me feel that there are too many grievances and no one can let me talk. The blind date does not understand me, and I am afraid that my parents will have a bad impression of him, so I never say that he is not good in front of my parents, nor do I want to say too much in front of the blind date, because I know that I will have an egg. So most of the sadness was endured by myself, until I decided to resign, and all the grievances were said at that moment. My parents felt very distressed and distressed. In the end, under the insistence of me and my parents, I was resolute. After retiring the marriage, even though they kept in every possible way, I knew they didn’t like me, they just wanted to find someone to get married. Thinking of their big family, apart from his mother which I still hate in retrospect, his grandmother and several of his aunts, I like them very much. They are all wise adults, including some relatives. Okay, I like them very much, and they like me very much. Until the end of the marriage, his cousin kept telling the blind date at our door that it was a pity that the blind date was indifferent, but also, it was too late to do anything at that time. Because the blind date also lives in our town, and the two families are very close, my mother always walks past them after dinner. Since retiring from the marriage, my mother never walked to their house again, just took a detour. I didn’t want to meet, because it was too embarrassing. Later, I also felt that looking for a boyfriend shouldn’t be too close to home. It doesn’t matter if we get married together. If we are separated, it will be embarrassing to see it. I was unhappy at the beginning and always wanted to be separated. I have never had the courage to think that getting engaged is a big deal. In fact, after I was very unhappy and forced to get anxious, I simply divorced but I didn’t think there was anything anymore. Now I think It doesn’t feel much anymore. It’s just that I will never go on a blind date again in my life, and I will never get engaged easily again. This is the lesson of my life.