Being in love is a very personal and selfish thing. And the things people like most are actually not clean things. As an animal, nutrients come from all kinds of organic matter, taste and rotten things. A good boy is not a good thing. . Ma Sichun’s depression has shown this point. Good kids are particularly attracted to bad guys. . Men and women are the same. Because everyone is bad, the so-called “bad” is essentially the energy of human nature, such as sex, such as aggressiveness, such as various desires. A good boy is the so-called “bad” energy that has been severely suppressed and strangled. The result is that it is particularly easy to seek an outlet in others. . But this approach actually has problems. Because of the so-called “bad” human nature, when a person lives on his own, he will mature, sublimate, and become mature and healthy energy. Count on others to live out this “bad”. . You can see from this logic that the “bad” and eight achievements of the opposite person is irresponsible and destructive energy. This is the so-called scumbag. Therefore, a relatively healthy and good person actually has bad energy, which is only satisfied and expressed in a mature and sublimated way. The so-called scumbags are satisfied with destruction and rottenness. This is the person in love, if you rely on the other person to be the “bad” person, it is very dangerous. . The so-called backing mountains fall down, relying on the sea and the sea is dry. When you rely on another person to satisfy the “bad”, you may end up hurting and the pot, leaving you alone. For people who have problems with love, the first point is that love accounts for too much of a life impact. . I think the healthier example is Faye Wong. . She has been in love and marriage so many times. . They are all the proportions of their lives that cannot really determine and influence their own proportions. . This means a healthy and strong personality. . At the same time it means that she can’t decide whether the other party will be good or bad, but she can handle the impact on herself. Second point. Depend on each other. . Actually rely on the other person to be a good person. Rely on the other person to be a bad guy. . They are all dependents within a person’s personality. . Like money and material dependence. Correspondingly, there is emotional dependence. Rely on the other party to deal with their emotions. Excessive dependence is actually claiming that you are not responsible for yourself. . And this attitude also implies that the other party can be even more irresponsible. After all, you treat yourself this way, and I am another person, let alone take responsibility for it. Therefore, the health of human nature has the same truth as the health of life. For example, money makes the most comfortable on your own. . You also need to live out the bad so that you can truly understand what it is and what it can be built into. Many good children are not aware of it. You like others to be “bad”, and the actual root cause is a kind of supplementary dependence that you can’t survive. But this kind of dependence. In many cases, it is the same as relying on MLM to teach you to make a lot of money. The real homework is to be a “bad spot” person by yourself. . Instead of liking bad guys. .