I am a girl and I often play games. I know many boys who play games every day. I feel that they like to play games and spend most of their time playing games. Will they really be happy like this? I feel that I am not very happy, it is difficult to find a way to get happiness, so I am envious of people who will be happy playing games, can anyone give me some advice, I want to have a happier life
I thought about this question when I was in school. At that time, I was obsessed with CS. I was obsessed with CS until the middle of the college entrance examination. Others would either have a rest or read the exercises. Then I went directly to the Internet cafe to play CS… There was an old man who loved fishing Dad, you can get up in the early morning and drive hundreds of kilometers away to fish. The characteristic of “Ye Keng” is that the environment is relatively “wild”, with overgrown weeds and mosquito bites. It is normal to eat a meal, sometimes even worse. Maybe you can’t even eat food, and there is no place to block the wind and sun. Because of the terrain, you can put umbrellas everywhere. It’s boring and monotonous. In my opinion, it’s just a crime. Once my dad asked me when I was playing CS: What is there to play, every day? I decided to turn from defense to offense, and started a soul torture on him: Why do you like fishing so much? Then Dad was silent for a moment. At this moment, it seems that time is still. You can clearly see the subtle changes in Dad’s expression, just like the moment when a “actor” bursts into action on the screen, even if there is a slight change in facial muscles. I can perceive it clearly, thinking and answering: When fishing, the state of being alone and thinking about nothing is like the whole world is quiet…There are always certain moments in your life. Suddenly, it came suddenly, but it seemed like a long-awaited old friend. After my dad said this sentence, I understood it in seconds. I play CS and he fishes, not because of how fun or exciting his behavior or activity is, and even I feel boring and boring just like bystanders. But at the moment of this activity, our body and mind are empty, thinking about nothing, and will not come to you for any annoying things. I think this is not something of a realm with “addiction” at all, you will feel that your heart is inside. A point of balance. In fact, as a game practitioner, you will know that game design has a theory: flow. I haven’t studied this very deeply. In my understanding, it is the game design that uses all available conditions to enable players to achieve a smooth integration of senses and heart flow. For example, when playing the game, the moment when a few lines of squares disappear; when hitting a battlefield, the word jumps when killing; when hitting a wolf, a perfect block back… These specific moments are where the player reaches the heart flow. If this can explain our love to play games. So how to explain, we will choose a fixed game to play? Some people still love to play “Legend”, “WOW”, “CS”, “Old War3”. . . This shows that flow is only the first stage of the game for players to accept. The real world is often insincere. For example, if a person does not want to talk to you, you ask him, he will not say that you are annoying, but will say: I’m sorry I am busy. Another example is a couple who are quarreling. They clearly want to say why you can’t love me more, but what they say is: Let’s break up, huh~. Therefore, flow cannot be a formula, and sometimes deliberate design is counterproductive, which is why many game sequels are dusted by the original. Maybe you don’t like to smoke the same cigarette if you don’t change anything, just change the brand. When we repeat a kind of entertainment, where does happiness come from? Flow itself can bring happiness, but it is not enough to support us to stay the same. Games that bring the same happiness abound. Throwing a happy performance, I found that it is really the kind of balance that will make you “cannot stop at all.” While pursuing heart flow, in fact, I have been looking for that balance point. When I find it, everything will be harmonious, my heart will be very peaceful, and all troubles will be annihilated at that moment. But before that, you are stuck in a maze. This pathway was only found accidentally when you were engaged in a certain entertainment. So it is also a game, only if you find a way in a certain game, you will be “indulged”. But when you repeat this path every time, you will be familiar. At this time, in fact, you will not “indulge”. It means that you will not play this game desperately, but you know that when you need inner balance, come and play this game. This feeling of being free from distractions, in fact, in these years, if you do nothing that day and write code for a day, sometimes the state will feel the same, you will not feel tired, just feel comfortable. So now, every weekend, I take advantage of the gap between the child’s cram school and play R6… Really, when you open the game interface that you are familiar with again or start the activity you love, you can deliberately pay attention to it. , When you feel happy, is it not vanity, achievement, satisfaction at all? In fact, it is simply because: at that moment, your heart is like a mirror.