Maybe everyone will have this experience. Some people make a very excessive joke, and when you feel offended, the other person throws a lighthearted sentence: “Don’t mind, why stingy, I didn’t mean it, it’s all friends. Why is there such a big fire?” This kind of joke’s response to the angry reaction of the joker is somewhat more annoying than the joke itself. In addition, jokes about appearance, personal preferences, personal life, parents and family, etc. often make people feel offended. Typical examples are “big butt, good health”, “you are so fat and still eat”, “this dress is not for you”. A joke, it can be said to be a spice in a boring life. However, not everyone likes these jokes, and some casual jokes are really hurtful. The joke you made is a joke that hurts me. It is a special language phenomenon. It’s hard to say whether jokes are polite or impolite, it’s more between polite and impolite. In other words, it is not easy to make a joke. A proper joke can leave a good impression of humor. But if the joke is overdone, it may feel offensive. For the person being teased, the jokes you make sound more like teasing and insults to them. At this time, the jokes are really not funny. So, what kind of jokes would make people mind? After reading the relevant Weibo and comments, Shu Duan compiled a list of “Top 20 Most Mind Jokes”, and found that many of them were ridicules about body and appearance, and some of the jokes were very targeted. female. But compared with these, on the premise that the joking offends the other person, the joke’s response to the angry reaction of the joker is somewhat more annoying than the joke itself. “Don’t mind, what’s stingy? I didn’t mean it. Why are friends making such a big fire?” “You really can’t make a joke” “I’m angry like this? Let me count it wrong, you won’t be so. Glass heart?” I believe everyone is familiar with these three sentences. Obviously he was the subject of jokes, but in the end he was disliked “Stingy”, “Can’t play jokes” and “Glass Heart”. Anyone who listened to it would be even more angry. Originally making a joke may be out of the atmosphere of relaxation, and the response after the joke is messed up may be a step down for myself, but I didn’t expect that to say that would make people feel more responsive. The joke itself has a certain dispelling meaning, it is like a “gold medal for avoiding death.” If you show a slight remark, feel offended, and show an unhappy look, the other party responds with “I’m just kidding”, On the contrary, it makes people reflect on whether they are too serious and can’t play a joke. But it’s really not that we are too sensitive. In addition to this kind of “suffocating” response that makes people mind, there are many jokes that are not very polite in themselves. “A big butt is good for childbirth”, “You can give birth to a boy at a glance”, “If you haven’t read a book, you would have been a mother”, this kind of ridicule about female fertility is inherently sexist. “I would like to use my three years in prison to change the shadow of her life”, “Starting in three years, the death penalty is not lost”, “If you like it, you can get medicine if you can’t catch it”. Such remarks are far beyond the scope of jokes and can be said to be sexual harassment. Although some jokes are not so serious, the “pointing and fingering” revealed in the words are also out of date, such as “Your clothes are not suitable for you, this shoe is not suitable for you, this bag is not suitable for you” “My God, what are you doing? I would like him, no eyesight” Wait. These jokes, do not easily say “all jokes are three-point truth.” This sentence is not unreasonable. The jokes are not mere words, and more or less have a realistic basis. If you sort out these jokes that make people mindful, you can find that there are roughly several types of jokes that hurt people. Among the jokes that everyone minds, appearance is mentioned the most, accounting for 45.73%. In addition, joking with favorite idols is not accepted by some people, accounting for more than 27.27%. Making jokes about parents/family, shortcomings/pains, dreams/beliefs, names, and even in a yellow tone, these may be the taboo of the other party. Among the most mentioned jokes about appearance, use fat to tease There are not a few people, “You are so fat and you still eat?” “You are so fat” are all highly praised comments. Boys are tall and okay, shorter ones are said to be “disabled”, and women who grow too tall are ridiculed as “no one wants”. In addition, there are some jokes that are more direct, “Why do you seem to be ugly again”, which is very hurtful. Many points that mind the jokes themselves are probably also something that this person is troubled by. Making jokes about these is undoubtedly poking people’s sore spots, as some netizens said, “Joke about appearance, even if it is an extremely common joke for you, it’s poking my heart word by word.” In student days, classmates There are many people who like to make jokes about being tall, short, fat and thin. These jokes are often said, and they are likely to become an inescapable label on the joker. It’s a joke at first, but it may turn into bullying later on. How many bullying and verbal harassment are pretending to be a joke, but in fact they are just to satisfy their own evil tastes. In China, teasing children is especially popular. I believe that many people have this experience when they were young. There will always be a group of adults who like to say to their children with a smirk, “You see that your parents like your younger brother/sister more”, “Your parents only like your younger brother, no I like you”. Or deliberately say to the child, “You are the child you picked it up”, “You are not your parents’ birth”, if the child cries, he will show a tricky look and comfort him: “I just teased you.” . When you grow up, you will know that these are all jokes, but when you are young, you will really take it seriously and be afraid. Adults find this kind of jokes funny, but children can’t tell the truth from the fake. These indoctrinated jokes that suggest abandonment may become a shadow that they accompany for a long time when they grow up. The speaker may not have the intention, but the listener has the intention. Sometimes you can’t talk nonsense about jokes, especially when you make jokes about the other party, and you must grasp the pain points that the other party has that you can’t touch. Being able to make jokes is not the basic cultivation of a person, but not just making jokes on others. The momentary hiatus is very refreshing, but the person being joked may be really hurt.