“Chicken baby” means “educating children in a chicken-blood style” and keeps them fighting. From the beginning of the child’s learning of words, parents have begun to practice numbers. The most feared thing is that other children have become full-scale queens, and their children are still in Xinshou Village. However, after adding a “chicken and baby exchange group”, I found that most of them were busy figures of mothers, and the fathers could hardly be seen. Why are mothers more likely to fall into “chicken baby anxiety”? Do you also have “chicken baby anxiety” and how do you deal with it?
The reason why there seem to be more mothers in the chicken baby group is because the father does not like to use the chicken baby in this way, and the mothers who do not have the chicken baby also exist, but they will not join the chicken baby group. As far as my personal feelings are concerned, in fact, both parents will have anxiety, but it is manifested in different forms of “smashing chicken blood.” The mother’s “chicken baby” is mainly in the details. From problems with children’s advancement to school, children’s tuition, and children’s exams and homework, mothers may become anxious because of the performance of “other people’s children”, and then turn their heads to strictly demand their own children. When I was a child, I never heard my dad say about the glorious deeds of “other people’s children”, and occasionally talked about how other people’s children were miserable… My mother really liked to talk about how other people’s children were good. The reason for this phenomenon, I think, is mainly because mothers are more inclined to obtain information about other people’s children. It is precisely because she has listened a lot, and out of self-esteem, she is often told about the good grades of her own children, so mothers will have more opportunities to see the “relative deficiencies” of their children. Place. At the same time, the main topics of the above-mentioned exchanges between parents are some detailed issues. After all, it is impossible to sit and talk all day, so the information received by mothers is mainly some details, such as what other people’s children go to. After school, what kind of cram school, and what is the number one in the exam, naturally you will be able to raise children in these aspects. However, from my experience, my father also “beats chicken blood.” It’s just that unlike my mother, his father mainly closes the door to beat chicken blood. The so-called “closed door” means that you don’t have to compare with other people’s children, but ask your own children based on your own expectations and observations. For example, I hope that the regrets I had when I was studying will not be repeated in my children. For another example, a child’s test scores do not necessarily have to be compared with others, but must be better than the child’s last time. The reason for this situation, in my opinion, is mainly because, compared with the mother, the father may not be so keen on having fun with other parents. When I was in middle school, if my mother organized the parent meeting, the content that came back to convey was not only the part introduced by the teacher, but most of the rest were about other students. It is most likely that she was chatting with other parents. It sounds. At the end of last month, I happened to talk to her about the parent conference when I was in junior high school. The only detail she can remember is that the parents of a certain classmate likes to lift his legs… But if my dad goes to the parent conference, he will definitely say he is today What have you talked about with the class teacher, class teacher, and grade group leader, as for the exchanges with other parents, there may not be any. Therefore, the information he can obtain is mainly the teacher’s personal evaluation of the children. Even if you want to compare, you can only compare the results of the child’s last exam with this time. (But I can do it like my dad, using computer software to analyze the trend of my scores for each exam, and then predict the point increase of my next exam, I think it is enough blood…) Since my father and mother are here There are different tendencies in the selection of communication partners, so it is not difficult to understand why the information they receive is different. Since fathers and mothers make decisions about their children’s education based on different information backgrounds, it is not difficult to understand that the “chicken baby” forms of the two are different. But if you say that your father is not a dick, I absolutely disagree, they just changed the way. It is absolutely unnecessary to say that the chicken baby is the mother’s patent, so that all fathers are throwing hands and mothers are victims. At least this is not the case in my family. Are there any parents who don’t have a baby? Of course there is. Isn’t that just “receiving from the sky”? But what does this have to do with men and women? There are still many mothers who do not have chicken babies, but as I said at the beginning, none of them have joined the group of chicken babies.