When still together, we always think that he will never leave. When the man’s disappointment was overwhelming, he realized that he had made up his mind to leave, becoming indifferent and ruthless. Maybe you are unwilling to give up and do everything possible to get him back, but the relationship is getting worse. Broken love can be reconciled? ? Recovering the relationship not only requires you to have a strong psychoanalytic ability and keenly aware of the other’s emotional changes, but you must also learn efficient chat and communication skills to make your ex regret leaving you. 1How to eliminate resistance? Before reconciliation, the relationship between two people is not only fragile, but even hates you. When you go to him or text him, he will not only ignore you, he will block you; if you ask, he will not only be indifferent, but also say you are boring; you let your friend say a good thing for you, he Always insist that the two of you are inappropriate, it is impossible for you. At this time, you feel so exhausted that he is like a basketball. The more you want to recover, the farther he will rebound. In fact, this is because of the proximity effect, he has a strong resistance to you. What can be done to eliminate his resistance to you and restore effective contact? Don’t be impatient. Lay the foundation before eliminating resistance. Let him know that you are doing well now and will not pester him again. The purpose of this is to let him know that you are living well now and will not pester him. Keep calm, keep calm-neither flattery nor arrogant! Therefore, you can discuss with your mutual friend, say that you have learned a lot from him, have grown a lot, and are grateful for him to appear in your life. Or try to deliver information through social media. For example, you can send a text message to tell him: Although we are separated now, thank you for your concern and tolerance, and thank you for showing up. After our division, I realized a lot of my own problems. Haha, I know it’s too late to say now. But I think, after all, we don’t have any deep hatred. I hope that in the future, we can become good friends. This is a fake withdrawal text message. First reduce the relationship to the level of friendship, so that the other person will not run away from you. However, the false withdrawal must follow these three iron laws: ① Don’t complain, don’t blame ② Don’t please, don’t entangle, ③ A relaxed and humorous tone is the best. Now the false withdrawal, the connection has been so broken, what should I do? 2. How to restore effective contact? The above foreshadowing is the strategy of retreat for progress. This method is good, it can make you show yourself in the world of your predecessor with a high profile. The disadvantage is that the recovery cycle is long. How can the recovery period be greatly shortened? Of course it is to take the initiative, such as taking the heart-warming line, but you must not think that I am asking you to go to the information bombing, old iron, hold on! If you want to walk the heart-warming road, you must first have a comprehensive understanding of your ex, including his birthday, personality, hobbies, health, career status, and the family he cares about most! You can do what you can for him, such as: introduce him to some partners or resources in his work and career; take action to care for his health; buy him tickets for his favorite concert; … 3. How to let him Keep talking to you? After a long wait and suffering, I tried my best to restore contact information and normal communication. I saw some hope, but new problems appeared again-you don’t know how to chat with him. We talked and we disappeared. What should we do? Can you do it to make him addicted to you? First, let’s talk about the first point-the emotional curve. Why people want to chat has two purposes: to convey information and experience emotional value. When men and women chat, they are more inclined to experience emotional value. Therefore, every time we chat, we will have mood swings (emotional curves). What kind of emotional curve can make him expect you to chat with him every time, or let him take the initiative to chat with you? When the emotional curve reaches its peak, it stops. So, every time you chat with each other, don’t spend too long. Best within an hour. Emotions are easily consumed, and too long can lead to fatigue. Then, let’s talk about the second point-a reasonable exit. When the emotional curve reaches its peak, you can start to leave sensibly. How to judge the peak value? In other words, when the other party’s feedback is more positive, such as quickly replying to your message, actively looking for topics. At this point, if we cut off the topic reasonably, the other party will have a sense of anticipation for your next chat due to the Zeignik effect. But here I want to remind you two things. First, don’t give the other party a sudden feeling; second, it’s best to leave with high value. If you don’t reply directly or perfunctory, you will leave the other party with a bad impression of immorality or impoliteness. Therefore, when we finish a topic, we have to find the reason for the end. It is best to show our high value when we leave. For example, I received a notice to go to a meeting; my best friend asked me to go to the gym. 4. Rebuild deep emotional connections. After establishing effective communication with your partner, how can you make him feel that you are a soul mate? How to quickly heat up feelings? This requires a deep emotional connection with him. Before redefining a relationship, in order to establish a deep emotional connection, we can start from the following aspects: the original family life experience, emotional experience, fragility, love is fluid, it will disappear, and it will come back! On the way to save love, it’s not that the other person is too cold and ruthless, but you can’t find a suitable way to let him open his closed heart to you again. The authorities are fascinated, and the bystanders are clear. Many times when we are stuck in it, we cannot look at the problem objectively. Uncertain feelings and emotions can easily cause us unnecessary harm. If you can accurately judge the behavior and state of two people, you can effectively avoid some problems.