The description of family conflicts in “The Peacock Flies Southeast” can really give people a lot of thinking and inspiration. The relationship between Jiao’s mother and Liu Lanzhi is an age-old problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Let me start with the conclusion: The reason why Jiao’s mother disliked Liu Lanzhi was because her son Jiao Zhongqing had a very good relationship with Liu Lanzhi. Jiao’s mother has a strong desire to control the family. The appearance of her daughter-in-law shakes her control of her son and the sense of control of the family. When the son pays too much attention to the daughter-in-law, Jiao’s mother has a sense of imbalance and loss. And Jiaomu, as a mother, has a kind of “my son is the best” filter for her son. In the original poem, Liu Lanzhi said: “It’s too late to break five horses in three days. It’s too late for you to weave, but it’s hard for the monarch’s wife!” A horse is ten zhang, and the Han dynasty ten zhang is 23.1 meters. The horse is 115.5 meters, and 38.5 meters of cloth are weaved a day. Liu Lanzhi began to learn weaving at the age of thirteen, and began to learn tailoring clothes at the age of 14, and married Jiao Zhongqing at the age of 17, according to Jiao Zhongqing’s “work together for two to three years” and the 19-year-old son of the county magistrate wanted to marry Liu Lanzhi. It can be seen that Liu Lanzhi was about 19-20 years old at the time. Therefore, Jiao’s mother is not actually displeased that Liu Lanzhi’s work is unpleasant, but is looking for an excuse to embarrass her. Jiao’s mother herself said, “I mean to be angry for a long time,” which means that Jiao’s mother has long seen Liu Lanzhi displeased. When you hate someone, you look down on her in all aspects. Even Liu Lanzhi herself thinks that it is not because she is slow to weave, but because it is really too difficult to be the wife of the Jiao family. Weaving is just one of the fuse of the outbreak. This woman was rude and Jiao’s mother stated that the reason was: “This woman is rude, and her actions are free.” Is Liu Lanzhi really rude? Judging from the poems, Liu Lanzhi seems to be a good wife, “Sixteen Poems and Books”, and Jiao Zhongqing’s evaluation of her also believes that her “women’s line is unbiased”. After Liu Lanzhi was condemned, even the county magistrate and the prefect to recruit her to be a daughter-in-law, if she is really as Jiao said, the county magistrate and the prefect will approve her to be a daughter-in-law? Liu Lanzhi herself denied and said: “I am going to follow my father-in-law and dare to be self-directed?” I do everything according to the wishes of my mother-in-law. Where can I make my own decisions? In fact, “behaving freely and exclusively” is one of the reasons why Jiao’s mother dislikes Liu Lanzhi. But it is probably not that Liu Lanzhi really acted freely, but that Jiao’s mother was under the control of Jiao’s mother. Jiao’s mother was too harsh on the standard of “acting not to be freely controlled.” Jiao’s mother’s desire for control is fully exposed in her own words: “This woman is rude and acts freely. I will be angered for a long time, how can you be free!… You can send it quickly and send it away carefully. !” I have been angry with her for a long time, how can I help you? Mother Jiao didn’t care what Jiao Zhongqing thought, all she thought was that I was angry and I was not satisfied with her. You can’t help driving away Liu Lanzhi. It seems that divorcing his wife has nothing to do with Jiao Zhongqing, and Jiao Zhongqing has no right to speak in this decision. So Jiao Zhongqing had no choice but to say in a helpless and threatening tone: “If you send this woman today, you will never get it again!” If you drive away Liu Lanzhi, I will not marry forever. With that said, Jiao’s mother was even more angry, and the boy did not listen to me: “The boy is fearless, how dare to help the woman! I have lost my kindness and will not agree!” You dare to help Liu Lanzhi Talking, how dare you kid? There is no room for negotiation on this matter. “The door is not right, the household is not right.” Jiao Mu Jiao Zhongqing has a kind of mother filter that “my son is the best”. Jiao Zhongqing’s family background was not so good. The preface said that Jiao Zhongqing was a “little official in the Lujiang Mansion”, and after Liu Lanzhi entered Jiao’s family, she needed to weave all the time. And Jiao Zhongqing said: “My son is already a poor man, and I am fortunate to have this woman.” I myself have not been a high-ranking official, and I have a great fortune. Fortunately, I have such a wife. If it is compared to family background, Liu Lanzhi’s family background should not be bad. (Modified according to the comment area, and updated to discuss the content of Liu Lanzhi’s family background. The original sentence is “Of course, if it is better than the family background, Liu Lanzhi’s family background is worse”, and the “family background” is changed to “family background.” In addition, the title of this section is added. Double quotes, emphasizing that the focus of this section is how Jiao’s mother views Lanzhi’s family.) When Liu Lanzhi left to pay her respects to Jiao’s mother, he said: “When I was a daughter, I gave birth to Xiaodeyeli. There is no lesson in this, and it is too expensive. Family. I have received a lot of money from my mother…” Liu Lanzhi stated that he grew up in the countryside when he was a child, did not receive much education, and was ashamed to marry Jiao’s mother and received a lot of money… This may be Liu Lanzhi’s self-effacement. The word. But Jiao’s mother really thinks that Liu Lanzhi is not worthy of the Jiao family. When Jiao Zhongqing said frankly that she would die in love, Jiao’s mother said: “You are a big son, an official in the Taiwan Pavilion. Be careful not to die for a wife, how little love is for you!” You are the son of everyone, and you are an official in a high official’s house. Don’t die because of this woman. You are different from her, and it’s not worth it. Even if Liu Lanzhi’s family background may be as good as Jiao’s mother thinks, it’s not as good as Jiao’s family, (modified according to the comment area, the original sentence is “In fact, Liu Lanzhi’s family background is not very good”, originally “family background”, changed to “family background” ) But other conditions are really very good. How good is it that when she was Jiao Zhongqing’s wife for two or three years, she was driven back to her natal family, and the county magistrate and the prefect sent matchmakers to propose marriage. It can be seen that Liu Lanzhi may have a reputation for being virtuous (perhaps before marrying Jiao Zhongqing). In order to welcome her as a daughter-in-law, the prefect put up a welcoming team: “Communications are fast-dressed, flowing like clouds. Green bird white boat, four-horned dragon child flag The graceful turns with the wind, the golden car and the jade are the wheels. The green horses, tassels and golden saddles. The money is 3 million, all worn with blue silk. The variegated three hundred horses, Jiaoguang City Salmon Zhen. Congren four or five Hundred, Yu Yu goes to the prefecture.” And Liu Lanzhi’s brother also thinks that marrying the prefect is better than marrying Jiao Zhongqing: “You can marry the official first, and then you can marry the prince. It’s like heaven and earth. Enough to honor your body.” There are no heirs and it is said that Jiao’s mother dislikes Liu Lanzhi because she has not had children for two or three years. Because there are no relevant clues mentioned in the whole poem, it can only be said that as a kind of speculation, it may be one of the reasons why Jiao’s mother dislikes Lange. Why did Jiao’s mother agree to Liu Lanzhi as a daughter-in-law in the first place? It is possible that Jiao’s mother agreed to Liu Lanzhi as a daughter-in-law at the time. The reputation of “Fu” is also very good. Why would Jiao Mu be like this? If we look at the experience of Jiaomu, we can actually understand why Jiaomu is such a person. First of all, the whole poem does not mention Father Jiao. Liu Lanzhi himself said: “Being in the service of the father-in-law, dare to be self-directed?” He only mentioned “the father-in-law”, saying that doing things in accordance with the meaning of the mother-in-law. It is possible that Jiao Zhongqing and his sister were brought up by Jiao’s mother alone. In the past, when his sister was still young, Jiao Zhongqing and his mother depended on each other for life. Finally, after Jiao Zhongqing grew up, he entered the government and became an official, and his life gradually improved. Later, I heard that the Liu family had a daughter named Lanzhi, who was very virtuous, so she begged the Liu family to marry Liu Lanzhi as his son’s wife. After marriage, Liu Lanzhi had a very good relationship with her son Jiao Zhongqing. Fortunately, Jiao Zhongqing even listened to Liu Lanzhi’s words, not Jiao’s mother’s words. Jiao’s mother felt that her family status had been challenged, and Liu Lanzhi made Jiao’s mother feel that the relationship between their mother and child was also alienated. Various psychological changes caused Jiao’s mother to reject Liu Lanzhi and embarrass Liu Lanzhi. Liu Lanzhi is really unbearable, so I have the first paragraph. Liu Lanzhi complained to Jiao Zhongqing. I can’t stand your mother driving me like this. Go and tell your mother to send me back to my natal family. Of course, Liu Lanzhi may not really want to leave their home, but to respond to this situation to her husband, hoping that her husband can stand up and resolve the conflict between their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. At this time, Jiao Zhongqing was also a bit stupid. He ran to Jiao’s mother and asked her: “I can’t be a high official, but it’s okay. I married such a good wife and slept with her. Even when Huang Quan is dead, she will stay together. She has done nothing wrong, why are you not treating her well?” Think about it, can Jiao’s mother not be upset at this time? At this time, this sentence of Jiao Zhongqing, directly in the minefield, is simply a typical negative of communication in life: I can’t be a high official directly against Jiao’s mother in tone, but fortunately I have a good wife how much I have with her. Well, it’s so good that Huang Quan will be together to blame Jiao’s mother when she is dead. Why don’t you treat Jiao’s mother Liu Lanzhi for a while, but Jiao Zhongqing has no choice but to threaten: “You chase her away, I won’t be in my whole life. Married.” This immediately lit a fire. Jiao’s mother was so angry that he said, the boy has grown up with stiff wings, and he dares to face threats and is not afraid of anything! He dared to stand by the woman’s side and speak for her. Why are you angry? Her son disobeyed her, rebelled against her, verbally ran into her decision, challenging her family status, and the reason was Liu Lanzhi, a woman from a lowly family who had been married for less than two or three years. When I read this article in high school before, I really didn’t feel much about it. Now that I know how complicated and helpless housework can be, I feel a lot of emotion after reading it. In fact, things in the family, such as people drinking water, know how warm and cold they are. We are only imagining and speculating based on the article, but the actual situation may not be like this, or it may be more complicated than this.