I’m always more radical in speaking. Let’s put it this way, breaking up is like dying alone. In my understanding, breaking up means that it is impossible to come together in this lifetime. Except that the other party did not lose her life, we will not have any contact for the rest of our lives, which is equivalent to her death in my world. So how did I treat the dead? When my grandfather died, I shed a few tears because he treated me very well when I was young. When my grandma died, I just knelt on the ground and knocked my head a few times. Because I don’t like my grandma. Maybe this will make me cold-blooded and ruthless, which is not popular in our local terms. However, in my opinion, I am affectionate enough compared to animals and plants. When the plants wither, their seeds will not have a chance to cry. Because this is just a replacement of old and new life. It is also impossible for the antelopes hunted by lions to have their offspring crying for them, because their offspring still need to work hard for tomorrow’s reproduction. Breaking up proves that for some reason we cannot be with each other in our entire life. Then the best thing I should do is to pack up my mood and move towards the future to find my true love. Life is too short, so short that many times you can’t calm down and think carefully and figure out one thing. So why should we be so sad and waste our lives for a vain she who will never reach?

This is me. Every time I finish sending a message to the person I like, I immediately delete the dialog box and chat history. Because I know that if I don’t delete it, I will look over and over again and again day after day, trying to figure out each word. I don’t want to be so humble. Every time the person I like can’t read it back, I tell myself that it’s okay. Adults are very busy and don’t care about the details. Then I regain my morale and find new topics to send to him. I think every new year and holidays, it’s great and there is a reason to send him a message, and I will even start to post something weeks in advance. He can’t read it back. He could not read it the second time. He could not read it back for the nth time. Just yesterday, I used that lively and outgoing and lovely person as before and sent him a very gentle message, and then deleted all my, all, his contact information, including the memo. He knows nothing. Today is the first day of my withdrawal. I picked up my phone and opened the APP again and again. Because I know that although I cannot contact him, he can contact me. It doesn’t matter, I still tell myself that. Because this is just a withdrawal reaction. I know the next challenge is waiting for me, that is, when he finally sends me a message, I open it, read it, and then delete the dialog box. It can’t be read back. I still like him today, yes. But my pride and self-esteem don’t like me anymore. I know I can complete the challenge, my dear subject, just like yours.

I have tried to persist in this kind of love. At an inappropriate period, I secretly fell in love with a boy from the second year of high school. During this period, I have shown goodwill, exchanges, and met. I have not identified the boy and it is not good to refuse to let others feel that he feels good. . In order not to delay my studies, I confessed to him when I graduated from the third year of high school. He explicitly rejected me because we both failed in the college entrance examination. We both chose to repeat the course. I am not reconciled to repeat the course together and enter the university of my choice. My dad felt that I was attracted by the prosperous city because I was studying in the city, so I didn’t go to the same school with him. They chose to repeat the school. During the period, I took the initiative to contact him and asked if I could go to university together. Maybe he was afraid of affecting my study and was vague. He didn’t tell me, but he told me the phone. I confessed again on New Year’s Eve. He didn’t agree. I cried very sad, but later he started to contact me and share with me. His life dynamics, he invited me out to play, I thought we might have a result, but I don’t know who said something to him later, his attitude changed again, and he kept me away. I think this is very tormenting. People are very uncomfortable, and then deleted all his contact information and blocked him. Although it is a bloody story, for me, those three years of youth were beautiful, but more of it was sadness and the impact on schoolwork. Because of him, I have cried too many times, but it is not worth it, because For those who do not love you, tears will only make you cheaper.

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helpmekim
8 months ago

If you fall in love, talk about marriage, and marry, if it’s not like Wang Sicong, it’s not like Di Lie Bakulina, really, don’t be so real! Thinking about it, the three-legged big toad that can spit honey is really hard to find, the two-legged big living person, isn’t it all over the street? Why bother? how old are you? Why do you still talk about such a fascinating calf like love? Improper eating, improper card swiping! These days, feelings are more fragile than wipes. (As a middle-aged greasy senior DINK non-marriage activist, he said that he has seen through the world and will spare no effort to earn and spend money as a life-long struggle. There is only one sentence to the benevolent men and women who are troubled by love, the sea of suffering is boundless, let’s go through it by yourself) In addition, friendly tips , Break up, be sure to ask the ins and outs and reasons face to face, the more detailed the better, the clearer the better, the cooler your heart, the faster the recovery, the quicker a fight, and don’t break the thread. Swing a sword to cut off the love, cut off righteousness, really, stop contacting. Otherwise, the troubles will be endless, and the sufferings will be our own.

heloword
8 months ago

Because most of the boys said that breaking up was a lot of entanglement and doubt. He tossed and turned about you in many late nights that you can’t see, and wondered what your future will be like. He really feels that you don’t love anymore, or that there is no expectation of your future, he will give up. So it takes a long time for girls to come out and boys don’t use it, because boys’ period of suffering passed before you could not see them, and if you didn’t notice, he gave up.

helpyme
8 months ago

Let me just say one more thing, if the person who is in love and marriage with you is not something similar to Wang Sicong, it is not something like Di Lie Ba Gulinaza, really, don’t be so real! Thinking about it, the three-legged big toad that can spit honey is really hard to find, the two-legged big living person, isn’t it all over the street? Why bother? how old are you? Why do you still talk about such a fascinating calf like love? Improper eating, improper card swiping! These days, feelings are more fragile than wipes. (As a middle-aged greasy senior DINK non-marriage activist, he said that he has seen through the world and will spare no effort to earn and spend money as a life-long struggle. There is only one sentence to the benevolent men and women who are troubled by love, the sea of suffering is boundless, let’s go through it.) , Break up, be sure to ask the ins and outs and reasons face to face, the more detailed the better, the clearer the better, the cooler your heart, the faster the recovery, the quicker a fight, and don’t break the thread. Swing a sword to cut off the love, cut off righteousness, really, stop contacting. Otherwise, the troubles will be endless, and the sufferings will be our own.

sina156
8 months ago

After breaking up, how long can I be relieved? This kind of thing does not depend on gender, but only on people, okay! Maybe everyone broke up peacefully, and they all found it boring to continue. We had a meal together that day, and then you walked through your Yangguan Road. I crossed my single-plank bridge. Everyone can think about it and start a new life the next day. It’s not impossible to find a good next job as long as it takes. After all, there is no “you must”, you are not Jack Ma and Buffett, you are not Marilyn Monroe, Audrey Hepburn, Sophie Marceau and Anne Hathaway. Perhaps, whoever is psychologically prepared in advance will propose it, or is about to enter a cold period, the person who decides to give up first will be better at the beginning of the breakup and will be easier to let go. I was caught off guard at the beginning. In case, someday I really understand it completely, and I think it’s so exciting to be called such a crooked melon and split date. I get better early, maybe even better than the one who gave up first. , It’s still cruel and cruel.

yahoo898
8 months ago

The earth, whoever is away, will turn around. Tomorrow early in the morning, the sun will rise as usual, unless it rains on a cloudy day, it doesn’t matter if you part with you. Therefore, the conclusion is that there is no such thing as a breakup. Boys can quickly let go, while girls take a long time to come out. This question is too nonsense. Regardless of men and women, whoever gives up first, who does not love first, who does not want to continue, is possible, whoever recovers first, who starts the next term first, whoever takes as a P first, it is possible to treat it as dung, really. It has nothing to do with gender.

leexin
8 months ago

Have you ever thought about a problem. The one who is quick to let go after breaking up has already planned to break up for a long time, and the person who takes a long time to get out is just unexpected and has nothing to do with men and women. We tend to have the illusion that men will be more rational and can afford to let go. Judging from the gender differences between men and women, it is indeed that men are less likely to stay in their emotions. After the breakup, they will find things to do and try to let them go. Your emotions are not affected. So in the eyes of outsiders, men seem to be relieved. But in fact, men bought drunk late at night after breaking up and smoked cigarettes one by one. There are many sentences that hurt the spring and sad autumn in the circle of friends. Especially in a situation, after breaking up, his girlfriend immediately likes other men. I was lonely and intolerable late at night, and I saw my ex-girlfriend and the new handsome guy going on a date in my circle of friends. This feeling is really unbearable. On the other hand, girls will be more delicate in their hearts, and they can’t help but wonder how their feelings have come to the present situation step by step. Sometimes they wonder if they would be better if they didn’t say that in the first place, and sometimes they would complain about how easy he was. Just broke up with me, don’t you really like me? It can be said that as long as the two have loved each other and want to keep going, as long as they break up, they will definitely be uncomfortable.

greatword
8 months ago

Recall, when you were broken up last time, did you experience a period of suspicion, and felt that he seemed cold, and he didn’t like to actively send messages to you. He didn’t want to say one more word, and asked him what’s wrong. He said that it was okay, but the constant indifference made you feel that he was brewing something. It was not until the moment of breaking up that you realized that it was a sign of breaking up. People’s mood fluctuations are divided into short-term fluctuations and long-term fluctuations. Short-term mood fluctuations may return to normal in an instant or a relatively short period of time. Long-term fluctuations generally make people around you feel that they can’t deceive people. of.

loveyou
8 months ago

The most common manifestation is that although speaking is normal, it is becoming more and more perfunctory. When you first fell in love, even if you talked until late at night, no one would take the initiative to end the topic until you couldn’t stay asleep. At this stage, there are often perfunctory replies, sometimes only a good night, good morning, or even I don’t want to think about more topics, and I don’t have the patience to break a sentence to pieces when I just fell in love. Even if you meet with you on a date, he/she does not necessarily make you feel enthusiastic. It is common to always play with your mobile phone in front of you. When you go to bed, if you want to talk to him, he/she will say that he is going to sleep, and he doesn’t realize you. Feelings. What you want to say, he doesn’t want to say. When you are in a high mood, his mood is low. It is brought about by miscommunication. It makes you think whether he wants to break up, and he wants to give me a joy.

strongman
8 months ago

After you pointed out the problem, he ignored you and didn’t want to be left out, so he wanted him to change. When you point out a problem, or even get angry in front of him, say breaking up, his attitude is that you don’t think there is a problem between you, don’t think too much. But when you want him to make some changes, he is unwilling. Even if you have a long cold war, he will not necessarily apologize to you. Ignoring feelings is the most common feedback at this stage. If you push him into a hurry, he will think that it is all your problems. He will say that he needs to be busy with work, study, and games. In his eyes, these are all more Getting along with you is important.

stockin
8 months ago

I will frequently find reasons not only for him/her, but also for changes in your heart. If you find that you are always blindly optimistic and will continue to find reasons for his behavior in your heart, you may want to pay attention: you are selectively ignoring problems. Especially when you get along with each other for a long time, you will feel that the relationship is so stable and there will be nothing wrong with you, so you will comfort yourself: He/she may be under too much pressure recently, am I not? You should think about it this way, and just give him a period of time to calm down. I agree that it is correct to have an optimistic mentality, but you should use a dynamic vision to see the problem. If you find yourself giving him reasons time and time again, and rationalize this bottom-down approach, you should brake in time. Think about the real problem. Otherwise, the result may be that his heart is gradually breaking away from the emotional pattern between you, and you are still in the pit. At the end you couldn’t stand it anymore and forced him to break up. After a conflict, he returned to single, only to find that he had put down a long time ago, and you never understood why he had these changes. Does he/she really want to break up at that stage? Not necessarily, but he may not realize that the relationship between you is gradually declining. When the relationship is at the edge, the most useless thought is to think: Does he still love me or not. Because love is the result of a good relationship model. Since there are problems, it doesn’t make much sense to talk about love.

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