I am the father of my child. My child is currently in the first grade. This month, I basically didn’t sleep before nine o’clock. I have to do homework every night. My child’s learning ability is slow. I’m staring at homework in a daze. Even simple arithmetic problems will do wrong At present, I am getting tired of studying and writing homework.

I worked in another place and went home for two or three days a month. At the beginning, I was able to complete my studies on my own. Now I am more and more dependent on his mother, and it is difficult to write in a short period of time.

In fact, I really hate forcing my children to do homework. I have to stay up until 12 o’clock a few times before letting me sleep. I’m so angry that it’s so stressful at such a small age.

The child loves to cry. As long as I do my homework, I never stop crying. I feel anxious. One month has passed and I am not thinking about going to work. I don’t know what to do after thinking about it.

I roughly guessed the possible situations: 1. You didn’t do your homework right after school, or went home and played for a long time without any care; or the children were sent to cram school as soon as school was over. You can’t see the problem by just writing until 9 o’clock. The key point is when you started writing. Then after you finish the cram school, you start to do your homework at 7 o’clock. Isn’t it normal to write until 9 o’clock? In the case I know, there are 4 extracurricular tutoring classes after school. They only eat dinner after 9:30, and then start homework at 10:00. It is normal to end at 12 o’clock, and it is normal to go past 12 o’clock. Isn’t that pretty good that it can be completed in more than 2 hours under such exhausting conditions? Start homework as soon as possible after school, leaving the child a complete time period for homework. 2. The child is constantly interrupted while doing homework. Parents are pointing and pointing while the child is doing homework. There are also the kind of people who come in and ask for warmth after a while after the child is writing, or let the child do this and that. When a child encounters a problem while doing homework, he immediately asks and answers immediately. As long as you stop to talk about a question, you can delay your life from 20-30 minutes. There are also parents with obsessive-compulsive disorder. The children’s writing is not good-looking, so they immediately erased and rewritten. Of course, it will take time to repeat it over and over again. First of all, parents should calm down. Children sometimes don’t think about it, but don’t take it seriously. I usually tutor children not to answer questions in the middle of homework. You are not allowed to ask questions when you encounter a problem that you cannot ask. Read the problem three times first, and finish writing according to your own thinking. It will not be empty first. The result of this implementation is that the child basically has no empty questions. Parents who are eager to give answers to their children do not give their children time to think, and their own way of explanation is difficult for children to accept, so the result is that they often become angry with themselves and their children have not had a good result. Another thing is to give the child a quiet and undisturbed environment, drink water and eat fruit, and give time to it, either before or after the homework. 3. The child has poor vocabulary foundation, insufficient comprehension ability, and lack of learning ability. That requires long-term training. One is concentration training, so that children can follow the teacher’s class at school; the other is long-term adherence to 30 minutes of reading training a day to enhance comprehension; 4. It is that children write slowly and handily. Ministry of strength is insufficient. I might not have noticed that it was a child’s physical problem before, but in fact, when we see a child who can’t hold chopsticks firmly, can’t button buttons, or can’t hold scissors to cut paper, you will find the problem. After working as a home tutor, you will find that the problem now is that the child is being taken care of too well after being in close contact with the child. In order to let the children eat quickly, grandparents kept chasing and feeding; in order to dress quickly, the family nanny buttoned the buttons directly to do it; fearing that the scissors would hurt the children, they would never let the children use them; the housework would be even more inaccessible. . Many children now have learning disabilities-sensory integration disorders. Without basic movement training in life, children lack the basic physical ability to learn well. At present, many children in middle school have learning disabilities. Parents are desperately spending money on tuition, which actually does not help. Parents think that the child is not working hard, but for many children, the learning disabilities are buried when he is a child. Sometimes it is really not that the child does not want to study well, but that he really can’t. Call on more parents to raise their children in a normal way: they can eat by themselves when they are a few years old, they can dress themselves when they are a few years old, they cannot walk by themselves when they are a few years old, and they cannot carry their schoolbags by themselves. The basic survival skills of the child. Children always need to face the world on their own. Don’t wait until the age of six to develop the abilities that children should have at the age of three. At six, there are tasks for six, just like the gentle wind and drizzle at the age of 3 and the gentle wind and drizzle at the age of six. , Then it will accumulate into squally rain at the age of seven… It is also very important to train children to register their homework by themselves. It may be that they are used to registering homework consciously and forgetting that the teacher’s mobile phone assigns homework. Parents should pay attention to the problem of training their children to register their homework early in the first grade. In the first grade, some teachers pay attention to training, and some teachers do not pay attention to training. Is there any such habit among the children I have taught? It is really annoying to wait for the teacher to send out the homework and wait for the parents to tell what the homework is. I have experienced it. The disadvantage of not having this habit is obvious: it seems that this homework is not assigned to the students themselves. Parents seem to have become the main body of homework completion. By the third and fourth grades, he deliberately missed homework and avoided homework he didn’t like to do. In the group of parents who do not emphasize this habit in the first grade, many parents will ask the teacher and ask other parents what is their homework today? The child is not in a hurry. This homework registration habit still has to be coordinated and strengthened by school teachers: while emphasizing that children copy homework, the teacher still has to publish the full version so that parents can check whether the child has copied it completely; when the habit is formed, the teacher can basically not send the homework. In the group.

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helpmekim
6 months ago

One. To find out if there is too much homework, you can ask other classmates and parents to find out how their children are doing homework. If everyone feels that the child is too burdened, it is mostly because the teacher has assigned too much homework. Each school has its own practice. Assigning homework to first-grade children is very bad, not to mention excessive homework. This kind of school is actually very irresponsible. First try to communicate with the head teacher and explain the child’s condition. If the teacher disagrees, then the parents can get started, help the child complete the less valuable assignments (repetitive), imitate the child’s handwriting, and deal with it. It’s really impossible to consider transferring to another school. two. Determine if the child’s homework is slower. If the school homework is not over-arranged and other children can do it easily, then the child’s own problems must be considered. If the school is too fast and the requirements are too high, and your child has not studied in advance, it may take an adjustment period in the first grade. From kindergarten to first grade, it is indeed a huge change. It is a test for many children. This test is mainly about the child’s mental maturity. Normally, the children’s development level is fast or slow, and the development is temporarily slow. This is a very common thing, and it may not be bad in the future. Then at this stage, the main purpose is to help the children adapt to the life of the first grade and improve the efficiency of work. 1. Create a quiet and comfortable working environment for children, and family members should try to minimize interruptions, and only assist when children need help2. Try the Pomodoro method: buy a Pomodoro and set a timer for 20-30 minutes. Encourage your child to stay focused as much as possible during this time. After a Pomodoro is completed, you can take a moderate rest for a few minutes. 3. We must try to let children study in a relaxed atmosphere as much as possible, and do not pass on anxiety and pressure to children. The greater the pressure, the worse the child’s performance will be. 4. Spiritual encouragement method: When the child has made small progress, give spiritual praise and praise in time. 5. Give your child a sense of autonomy, don’t nag about homework problems all day long, don’t remind them in an unfriendly way, and allow them to manage their time appropriately: Allow them to eat snacks and chat after school before doing their homework. 6. Allow the child to fail temporarily. Before the child is not able to do the homework well, even if the homework is not completed, do not blame the child. Let the child face the result naturally. If possible, the parent can add a night shift to help the child finish the work. It is possible. 7. Never stay up late, don’t stay up late! When the child arrives, let him go to bed, and the child who lacks sleep will not be energetic the next day. 8. Parents should lead by example. When their children are studying, adults should also study or work. Do not engage in entertainment activities. Use Douyin to watch TV. Between the lines, I can feel the helplessness of the subject. In fact, the biggest problem lies in the parents. If parents cannot understand some basic principles of education and master some basic laws of children’s growth and development, then there will be such problems in the children’s future growth. There will be an endless stream. Just relying on knowing to ask a question will not solve a long-term problem. Parents need to strengthen their studies to understand these things. It is recommended to find more parenting books to read. For example, Yin Jianli’s, Gopnik’s, Thomas Gordon, those who have the ability can read some child psychology, developmental psychology and other professional books are even better. Don’t be afraid when you encounter difficulties. Stand with your children and overcome them. Don’t let your children be knocked down by difficulties.

heloword
6 months ago

My son just turned six and entered the first grade. Before he entered elementary school, someone didn’t apply for any bridging classes, so he entered the state relatively slowly. The first test only took 53 points, and he did his homework until 9:30 every night. At ten o’clock, I started to scan the papers a month before the exam. Although I am not tired of going to school, I can’t feel his interest in studying and going to school. In the second grade, I decisively transferred him to a private school. There was much less homework. No matter whether he took the test or not, the sports, music, and art classes would not be taken up. The child’s enthusiasm for going to school was much higher, but the price I paid was also It is many times higher, but there is no way, because I think it will be sooner or later that he will continue to develop in the public elementary school, and I am tired of studying. If he does not collapse, I collapsed first, and I am worried about tutoring homework every day. Although my grades are not good, I can get an average of over 90 points in the test. The interest and enthusiasm for learning is developing in a good direction. There is no way. This is the case in public schools. There is a lot of competition and it depends on the sea of questions. I I believe that private schools will certainly not be easy in the later period, but at least it is gradual and has a process.

helpyme
6 months ago

The current child is 6 years old, male, first grade: homework is done at school at noon and go home 6:00-6:30 dinner 6:50-7:40 comment on the wrong questions and difficult problems of homework, and complete the oral homework assigned by the teacher 7:40-8:00 Exercise (1000 skipping ropes, complete school physical education homework) 8:00-8:15 Drink milk, wash 8:20-8:40 New concept (must memorize text) 8:40-9: 10 Let’s read together at 9:15, turn off the lights and go to bed at 7:00 the next day, get up on time at 7:00, then listen to 40 minutes of English or 40 minutes of Uncle Kai’s storytelling 7:40-8:00 Walk to school, we will talk about gossip , And plan how to play on the weekend. Monday to Friday are all arranged like this. I woke up naturally on Saturday, and then played all day, without any study, English, math, Chinese, extracurricular training, nothing! Just accompany him to eat, drink and have fun. Host class on Sunday morning. Then take him home to receive the heart meeting. I will read the text I learned last week. English is to read the entire book, Chinese is to do some vocabulary exercises, and mathematics is to brainstorm (continuously train addition and subtraction within 20, and constantly strengthen the speed, so that you can answer the correct answer without thinking. If you pause Just pick it out, put it in daily practice, and continue to strengthen it!). The rhythm on Sunday is usually half an hour of study and 1 hour of play. He has accepted this model now. Although it is a bit cruel for a 6-year-old child to learn from 6:30 to 9:00 every day, I have given up a lot of interest classes for two days on weekends, giving him plenty of time to eat, drink and play everywhere, hoping to achieve a balance. PS: I really envy some families. After finishing their homework, they can watch TV and play on the tablet by themselves. Because of concerns about vision problems, I rarely let him watch TV and play with a tablet.

sina156
6 months ago

Don’t take the homework so important. The closer the parents are to the homework, the farther away the child is from the schoolmaster. My son is in his senior year. I almost never asked whether the homework was finished. Focus on the child’s interest in learning and cultivate the child’s inner drive. force. My way of education may be different from many parents, but I feel that the effect is still very good. The most important thing is that the children learn happily. I feel that in the current education, parents are too anxious. Not only did they fail to help their children, but it was counterproductive.

yahoo898
6 months ago

1. To be completed within a limited time; it is recommended to make a daily work plan for the order list. 2. Be by the side or supervise from time to time, do not close the door and ignore it. It is normal for children to have inattention and perseverance, and they must be urged and tempered. Otherwise, not only will the academic performance be achieved, but nothing will be accomplished in the future. 3. Guiding guidance. Don’t give the answer directly if you make a mistake, ask him how he thinks, find the problem, and explain the problem. Of course, first grade, to be honest, is a stage of rote memorization. The problem explanation basically does not exist. You have to say that 1+1=3, how can I explain it to you, 1+1 is equal to 2, just remember it for me. 4. Appropriate rewards and punishments. Without pressure, there is no motivation. For children who are naturally intelligent and well-trained with a sense of responsibility and willpower, they can be less demanding. But for most children, punishment is indispensable on the way to cultivate their enterprising spirit and willpower. After all, there is no reward and punishment game, no one will play it with you seriously. It can be rewards, but if you find that simple rewards do not touch, or even become a bad situation without rewards, punishment must be used. For punishment, don’t boil the frog in warm water. I personally agree that there is no punishment or a punishment is out of control. In the initial cultivation stage of moral education and intellectual education, don’t believe in chicken soup. You can decide how many catties your baby is. Principles will never be tolerated. Otherwise, it will kill the child for a lifetime.

leexin
6 months ago

Considering the integration disorder, I am, this will gradually improve with age, but when I was a child, I would be slower than others in writing and reading. There is also a watch. When I speak and write formally, there will always be some mistakes, such as Apple writing. The results, or the writing is always crooked, or the serial is always copied when copying, or simple numerical calculations are often inaccurate. But this only means that he may not be good at reading or writing, it does not mean that he has a problem with his IQ, and it does not delay his test of 985 (but the difficulty of the test is indeed greater than that of others). Don’t be impatient or call him, it will always improve when you get older. If the situation is serious, you can also take it to the hospital for some training.

greatword
6 months ago

Let me talk about the conclusion first. As a parent, my experience is: there must be one person in the parent, first spend about an hour a day reading books, or read my educational articles on literacy, and then spend about half an hour a day staring at the children , Spend another two hours with your child (it does not affect the child, you can read and work). Parents with a better level of education can get results in half a year, which is almost a year. I will illustrate the effect later. Let’s say something awkward first. If you don’t do this, you only rely on parents to force your children to learn passively. It is very likely that as soon as the third grade homework starts and the difficulty increases, it will be difficult for the child to keep up. If the children cannot learn and digest knowledge independently before the first grade of middle school, the gap will become even wider in the future. I don’t want to sell anxiety, but: the four elements before the third grade (search the official account) are cultivated, and the independent learning method habit is formed before junior high school, so the child does not need to worry. method? Listed directly to you. First understand the three golden articles: three kinds of people + step principle + instinctive method. Then learn: simple method + active method + password method + story method + timing method (especially for efficiency training) and so on. Let’s put it this way, all “so-and-so methods” or “so-and-so skills” are related to learning, and they don’t suffer from a clear understanding. It takes one or two hours every day for the past two years, which may not necessarily include the normal time to help the child with his homework. But one hour of hard work now will save more than ten hours in the future. Why? Look at the real example below. It is true, but it may not be of reference significance. You can refer to it. My child is also herding sheep in kindergarten, and only started to learn the addition and subtraction of Pinyin Chinese characters in the first grade. The training for more than a year is omitted, which is the summary of the “so-and-so method” above. If you want to see my history of blood and tears, you can find all stories. Standard procedures after school in the second grade. After school, the nanny picked it up, ate by himself, and wandered for a few minutes. Six things (the password method has been said several times): homework, diary, piano, vocabulary, reading, sports. The order is arranged independently. For homework and diary, each item is required to be pinched and written in a pencil on the upper right corner when used. For example, when I came back to see that math took 19 minutes, I would glance at whether the difficulty was relatively deep, and whether the composition was written in 17 minutes and six pages of paper… Then, I only look at the time and only ask for “good habits”, for example Don’t miss the questions, and the calculation process is clean (representing clear thinking). Occasionally the question is wrong, just one sentence, “You can check the question again for Xiaoxiaocha.” Most of the children will correct it by themselves. If they don’t understand it anymore, can you help? What are you doing, boy? The classmates of the child’s class are on the same floor as us. We often can’t finish writing more than ten o’clock in the evening, and we usually end it all at half past six. Note: We also have to play the piano and have time to play a game of Go. However, the children and classmates have to play games every day… The evening is the time to watch movies by hand at various stalls. In addition to the topic, the game was instigated and addicted, and I also used the “story method” to save it. That one is not very popular, I haven’t written about it, so take the chance. In short, if the child’s homework itself is okay, the speed limit of my homework test should be about twice as long as an adult. After all, children cannot read and write, and calculations are not necessarily the same. For example, if you read those questions carefully and word by word, and do them one by one, plus the neatly written formula check… Can you complete them in twenty minutes? In theory, the child should finish it within forty minutes before it can be said that the concentration efficiency can meet the requirements. What to do with the exam? Sharpen the knife and chop the wood by mistake. For children to have a better future, they must start training now. To train now, parents must first learn something. Don’t delay the child.

loveyou
6 months ago

The first grade homework is written late, day after day can only obliterate the child’s interest in learning. I personally think that the first thing to solve is to let the child finish the homework quickly. So, how to finish homework quickly? The first thing to observe is to see if the child can write or play. If your child is eager to play, you can make an agreement with your child to finish an assignment and play for ten minutes. The premise is that the child must be recognized and guided first. There is no time to have fun after finishing homework so late. Ask him if he wants to have fun? The answer is definitely thinking. Ask him again at this time, then we have agreed that we will do homework when we go home, and we will write one item for ten minutes before writing another item. After finishing all the items, we can have fun. Let the child know the benefits of finishing the homework, and the child will be motivated, and will gradually start to write the homework faster. If the child does not know how to write, at this time the parents should control their emotions and tell the child how to do the question and how to write the word instead of criticizing him. Parents have already told him the answers to homework that he didn’t know, and the kids will definitely write them quickly. After you finish writing, don’t worry about letting your children play. First, make sure that you are awesome today. After finishing your homework so quickly, let’s play a game to see who finishes it first. (At this time, you can find out the part that the child didn’t know in the homework just now, let the child practice by himself, practice at most two, and explain it thoroughly to the child) In this way, the homework is finished, and the knowledge points that he doesn’t know are also learned. The most important thing is to communicate with the teacher and see how the child is doing at school. Only when you return home can you guide your child more correctly. I am Susu, a learner on the road of parenting. If you think my sharing can help you, please leave your valuable likes.

strongman
6 months ago

Tell you the only correct way is to charge people! Just write with her. You also take a small notebook and pretend to be very happy to write! Children vary from person to person, and some are of this type, procrastinating and unwilling to take the initiative. This is what the legend is born with. Some children are naturally sensitive, timid and procrastinate. They can take up to three days after a meal. Long-term beating will also affect the relationship between parents and children! not suggested! Don’t talk about those useless, reasonable, communication is really useful, everyone at Tsinghua University and Peking University. It is very important to accept children’s ordinaryness, adjust their mentality, and accompany you in the early stage!

stockin
6 months ago

My child is in second grade this year. I have to do homework every day when I go home, and I have to read books myself. I rarely supervise and urge. It started in the first grade. Keep telling her that doing homework is your own business. I believe you can do well. At home, after 6 o’clock every day is our game time, we can read together, read together, and watch movies together. So, you must pack your books before 6 o’clock, which means that you can’t study anymore after 6 o’clock. After a month, I have basically developed a good habit of homework.

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