I am the father of my child. My child is currently in the first grade. This month, I basically didn’t sleep before nine o’clock. I have to do homework every night. My child’s learning ability is slow. I’m staring at homework in a daze. Even simple arithmetic problems will do wrong At present, I am getting tired of studying and writing homework.
I worked in another place and went home for two or three days a month. At the beginning, I was able to complete my studies on my own. Now I am more and more dependent on his mother, and it is difficult to write in a short period of time.
In fact, I really hate forcing my children to do homework. I have to stay up until 12 o’clock a few times before letting me sleep. I’m so angry that it’s so stressful at such a small age.
The child loves to cry. As long as I do my homework, I never stop crying. I feel anxious. One month has passed and I am not thinking about going to work. I don’t know what to do after thinking about it.
I roughly guessed the possible situations: 1. You didn’t do your homework right after school, or went home and played for a long time without any care; or the children were sent to cram school as soon as school was over. You can’t see the problem by just writing until 9 o’clock. The key point is when you started writing. Then after you finish the cram school, you start to do your homework at 7 o’clock. Isn’t it normal to write until 9 o’clock? In the case I know, there are 4 extracurricular tutoring classes after school. They only eat dinner after 9:30, and then start homework at 10:00. It is normal to end at 12 o’clock, and it is normal to go past 12 o’clock. Isn’t that pretty good that it can be completed in more than 2 hours under such exhausting conditions? Start homework as soon as possible after school, leaving the child a complete time period for homework. 2. The child is constantly interrupted while doing homework. Parents are pointing and pointing while the child is doing homework. There are also the kind of people who come in and ask for warmth after a while after the child is writing, or let the child do this and that. When a child encounters a problem while doing homework, he immediately asks and answers immediately. As long as you stop to talk about a question, you can delay your life from 20-30 minutes. There are also parents with obsessive-compulsive disorder. The children’s writing is not good-looking, so they immediately erased and rewritten. Of course, it will take time to repeat it over and over again. First of all, parents should calm down. Children sometimes don’t think about it, but don’t take it seriously. I usually tutor children not to answer questions in the middle of homework. You are not allowed to ask questions when you encounter a problem that you cannot ask. Read the problem three times first, and finish writing according to your own thinking. It will not be empty first. The result of this implementation is that the child basically has no empty questions. Parents who are eager to give answers to their children do not give their children time to think, and their own way of explanation is difficult for children to accept, so the result is that they often become angry with themselves and their children have not had a good result. Another thing is to give the child a quiet and undisturbed environment, drink water and eat fruit, and give time to it, either before or after the homework. 3. The child has poor vocabulary foundation, insufficient comprehension ability, and lack of learning ability. That requires long-term training. One is concentration training, so that children can follow the teacher’s class at school; the other is long-term adherence to 30 minutes of reading training a day to enhance comprehension; 4. It is that children write slowly and handily. Ministry of strength is insufficient. I might not have noticed that it was a child’s physical problem before, but in fact, when we see a child who can’t hold chopsticks firmly, can’t button buttons, or can’t hold scissors to cut paper, you will find the problem. After working as a home tutor, you will find that the problem now is that the child is being taken care of too well after being in close contact with the child. In order to let the children eat quickly, grandparents kept chasing and feeding; in order to dress quickly, the family nanny buttoned the buttons directly to do it; fearing that the scissors would hurt the children, they would never let the children use them; the housework would be even more inaccessible. . Many children now have learning disabilities-sensory integration disorders. Without basic movement training in life, children lack the basic physical ability to learn well. At present, many children in middle school have learning disabilities. Parents are desperately spending money on tuition, which actually does not help. Parents think that the child is not working hard, but for many children, the learning disabilities are buried when he is a child. Sometimes it is really not that the child does not want to study well, but that he really can’t. Call on more parents to raise their children in a normal way: they can eat by themselves when they are a few years old, they can dress themselves when they are a few years old, they cannot walk by themselves when they are a few years old, and they cannot carry their schoolbags by themselves. The basic survival skills of the child. Children always need to face the world on their own. Don’t wait until the age of six to develop the abilities that children should have at the age of three. At six, there are tasks for six, just like the gentle wind and drizzle at the age of 3 and the gentle wind and drizzle at the age of six. , Then it will accumulate into squally rain at the age of seven… It is also very important to train children to register their homework by themselves. It may be that they are used to registering homework consciously and forgetting that the teacher’s mobile phone assigns homework. Parents should pay attention to the problem of training their children to register their homework early in the first grade. In the first grade, some teachers pay attention to training, and some teachers do not pay attention to training. Is there any such habit among the children I have taught? It is really annoying to wait for the teacher to send out the homework and wait for the parents to tell what the homework is. I have experienced it. The disadvantage of not having this habit is obvious: it seems that this homework is not assigned to the students themselves. Parents seem to have become the main body of homework completion. By the third and fourth grades, he deliberately missed homework and avoided homework he didn’t like to do. In the group of parents who do not emphasize this habit in the first grade, many parents will ask the teacher and ask other parents what is their homework today? The child is not in a hurry. This homework registration habit still has to be coordinated and strengthened by school teachers: while emphasizing that children copy homework, the teacher still has to publish the full version so that parents can check whether the child has copied it completely; when the habit is formed, the teacher can basically not send the homework. In the group.