I am a female. I fell in love twice this year (it happens to be two times this year, the window period was quite long, and I haven’t been in love for more than two years), and both of them ended in almost three months.
I personally have a longing for love, including the people around me who are talking about love sweetly. I also expect me to have a stable and sweet intimacy. Therefore, I am very attentive and serious when interacting, and try not to make trouble. Only when I am very disappointed, I will express my grievances and sadness to the other party.
The state of getting along with boys is sweet and happy when we are offline, but when we are separated, I will obviously feel the other person’s indifference when chatting online (additional modification here: it is not obviously indifferent, just compared to offline Yiyi The sticky state of reluctance, the online seems much calmer), these two paragraphs were broken up within three months, and I am now in a state of extremely doubting myself.
I consulted with all the friends around me, and they all said that the problem was not with me. They all felt that my personality was very good and gentle, and I had a good appearance with a score of 6 or more. I didn’t know where the problem was.
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He usually works relatively idle and has little growth. He wants to change jobs but has never had the right opportunity. The pressure to find a job is relatively high. This is the background.
The only time I was upset during my time together was during my business trip. The business trip was a long time, and it took a weekend in the middle. He was a little sad when he heard the news. He even thought about flying to my business city (Xiamen) on weekends to walk around with me, but he had to cancel it because he had to work overtime on weekends. . It doesn’t matter if I think about it, just walk around with my colleagues. Until Friday, suddenly another colleague was also going to work in Xiamen next Monday, saying that he would fly here early on Saturday to take us to play together.
I told him the news, and he said sourly: Hey, Dafei went to play with him, I can’t do it. Then it seemed that from that moment on, he was a little unhappy, and he ignored me for the next two days. It was often I was here to share the experience on the way happily, and he hardly responded. I couldn’t bear it anymore on Sunday nights. I made a voice call and used it-I didn’t answer it, I just made the call-just turned it off. It looked like cold and violent. I left a message “Don’t be cold and violent. If you have something to say, you can talk to it if you don’t want to talk. I said, then we will separate”. The next day he seemed to realize the seriousness of the matter and slowly got better. I also flew back from Xiamen that night and went straight to his house to have a face-to-face conversation to untie the knot. He explained to me at the time that he wanted to be alone and didn’t want to deal with anyone, and I didn’t want to answer my phone, because the work was not smooth and the pressure was high.
I don’t know if this is the real reason, until now I don’t know what I did wrong here, he will be cold and violent to me.