After my brother died, we also kept the word from grandma. Grandma asked my brother, we said we went abroad, and it will take a few years to come back. Grandma said that’s okay, that’s okay, really good boy, can go abroad. Later, grandma’s dementia became more and more severe, and she was less and less when she was awake. She seemed to always live in memories, unable to distinguish between the things in front of her. But once she secretly told me: Did my brother pass away? She said that she actually guessed it, how could she go abroad suddenly? After going abroad, no one talks about this person anymore. She said she knew everything, she pretended not to know, deceived us and deceived herself. I threw myself into her arms and cried like I did when I was a child. I was so sad that I missed my brother so much. At that moment, I didn’t want to pretend that it was over and I was not sad anymore. But my grandma got into a state of confusion, wiping my tears hurriedly and asking me: Why are you crying? Did you fail the exam? It’s okay. Our daughter is a girl, so we don’t have to work hard like my brother. It’s hard to study. Let me tell your dad, don’t fight on the daughter. She went back to her memory. When I was a child, I cried when I failed the exam. My brother always ranked first. My father always said that I was not as smart as my brother. At that moment, I didn’t know if she was really unconscious. I would rather she be unconscious.
Uncle’s 50-year-old myocardial infarction suddenly disappeared. At that time, my grandmother was less than 80 years old. All the relatives and neighbors said that they were hiding things from her grandmother. Only I secretly asked my mother why she was hiding? At that time I was in junior high school. My mother said she couldn’t accept it because she was afraid of grandma. I said my grandma is in good health. How can I hide my son who can see each other every week? The hardest part of this is our family who lives with grandma. Once grandma finds out that uncle does not visit her or call, we have to lie every day. Mom said that everyone in the father’s family made this decision, and they had no choice but to cooperate. Mom couldn’t help it. Later, my grandma found out within a few weeks. The reason was that the neighbors chatted about white-haired people sending black-haired people. Grandma was originally surprised to see the black cuffs that fell out when her cousin came to see her. The relatives in my hometown called and asked. After learning about it, I scolded my father fiercely. It probably meant that she was very sad when her son died, and the whole family made her even more angry if she didn’t let her send him off. Grandma was angry for a long time, and I coaxed her every day. Therefore, I personally feel that it is best not to hide this kind of thing. If the old man is confused, it will not affect his emotions too much. Just tell the elderly in a more relaxed state.