It’s not easy to change myself. I met a senior in the club when I was in college. She was quite ordinary and she didn’t have any extraordinary talents. She had average grades and was from Shandong. His family background was neither bad nor good (with me) The same monthly living allowance is 1500) At that time, she thought she would be the same as most people of the same age. Normally, she would get a graduation certificate without a subject, go home to work in a state-owned enterprise, get married and have children, and spend her life in the comfort zone. . In the end, I didn’t know what to do. A student of economics and management suddenly wanted to go abroad to study fashion design in Italy. At that time, she hadn’t passed CET-4, and after having trouble with her family for a few months, she let her go. It’s been my third year abroad. I have enough grade points for my school. I have signed a contract with the company there. I don’t need to pay for living expenses at home, and I’m still gradually subsidizing my family. (To be honest, the process is very bitter) No one has persuaded her, no one has put pressure on her, but one person has changed so suddenly. There are some ordinary people. I feel that I am too fat and want to lose weight. I really insist on running in the morning every day, eating salad chicken breasts, and getting a fitness card every day. I feel that I am too poor and want to make money, so I really find ways to find channels, work as a tutor, and work as a part-time agent, and increase my income step by step. There are many more stories around me that I have personally experienced. I think there is nothing to say about the process of change. It is nothing more than forcing yourself to learn to exercise hard in the morning and to abuse your body and will. Everyone feels the same. But the opportunity before everyone changed is amazing. Some people have a sense of mission. For example, they want to pursue a person they like, find an ideal, and want to make themselves worthy of change. There are also people who are threatened, such as finding a disease, not being able to pay a very important amount of money, being hurt by others’ attitude, etc., and force themselves to change with a sigh of relief. In fact, have you ever thought that if a person wants to completely change himself, it is not a question of courage at all, but a waiting opportunity. “Change” is not difficult to act, but after this opportunity appears, you will make a determination, this determination is worth giving up your current comfort zone and everything you have. You want to lose weight, but you don’t want to give up the comfort of eating sea food and lying down with salted fish. This determination is not enough. You want to make money, but you are not short of money now that you will die if you don’t pay back the loan shark. This determination is not enough. And to completely change yourself, it may take an opportunity that is enough to turn your world upside down. How difficult is this? Let me use anime as an example. If you want each protagonist to change the plot, you need to arrange a death. For example, in “Attack on Titan” Mikasa died of his parents, “One Piece” in “One Piece” Luffy died of Ace, “Ghost Destruction” In “Blade”, Tanjiro died and his family died, and in “Naruto” Sasuke died in the village. I’m not saying that we have to sacrifice anything to completely change it. The main reason is to express the shock in your heart at that time. Some very common little things, or a word someone else says unintentionally, may be an opportunity to cause such shock. When I was a teenager with internet addiction, I got such a shock, which completely changed my childhood ever since. You have never been able to completely change yourself, just because you haven’t encountered the opportunity to change, and you haven’t really made up your mind. You are still quite satisfied with yourself in your heart. After the opportunity appeared, I had to talk about the feeling of “regret”. Regret is the catalyst for change. Many people change suddenly because of “regret.” You must have met some people, but dead pigs are not afraid of boiling water. How you persuade him or scare him is useless. This is not because he is not afraid of the results you mentioned, but because it hasn’t happened yet, he has never felt regretful.