The child immediately ranks among the top three in the class. The team leader usually scores 80-90 points in the test, if not, it is more than 70 points.
The captain copied from left to right. If the left one couldn’t copy, he copied the right one. My child sat behind her. Every month or in class, the captain has to look back at his papers several times.
And yesterday, I heard from the baby that the captain squeezed my baby out intentionally or unintentionally. When doing group exercises in class, the team leader deliberately grabbed the baby’s friends and assigned the surrounding students to other groups. Every time my baby finished writing the exercises, he found that the nearby students had already formed a group. As long as he is alone, he can only find someone else to form a group.
So I told him that he could report the team leader for plagiarizing the test paper. Every subject has been reported to him. But now think about it, is my method too extreme?
This seems to be a learning problem, but it’s just a social problem. There are two types of schoolmasters, one is those who have friends, and the other is those who don’t have friends. Of course, due to limited energy, there will not be many friends of schoolmasters, but even if there are only a few, they will not be alone when they are grouped. As for copying homework, it will not affect Xueba’s grades at all, which is different from “copying homework” in the workplace. In terms of fundamental interests, the student stage is the fairest. Everyone is independent. They take their own exams. No one takes the exams. There is no cooperation. There is only independent competition and scores speak for themselves. Therefore, the team leader copying homework will not affect the strength and grades of the student, but will only affect the student’s mood. No matter whether he was particularly popular or someone behind him, the captain came to copy homework: just want to “be a demon” and disturb the mood of the subject’s son. This is an “emotional cancer tactic”. It’s just that I don’t do well in the old exams, the more I copy, the more I rely on it, the more I copy, the more I know that I’m “weak” and I’m in a bad mood. Can a captain copy homework gloriously? Doesn’t he know that he is disgraceful? Of course he knows, but he has lost his ability to concentrate on learning and overcome difficulties. He is becoming less and less confident, and his heart is distorted. He can only use the captain’s “sense of power” to satisfy narcissism; so he uses what he is good at. “Dominate” to “exclude” socially, infect the inner “bad mood, this malignant tumor” to others, and to the son of the subject. This may be a tyrant who has no friends. Okay, then it doesn’t make much sense to expose him for copying homework. On the contrary, he was hit by his “evil”, the opposition is on, and the bad emotions are contagious. What’s more, copying homework will only make his grades worse. What can the son of the subject do? How can the main topic help the children? 1. When the answer is copied, isolate and ignore the person, stay calm and focus on your own exam. As mentioned earlier, student-stage learning is completely under your control. As long as you control your concentration, you will still be a student. Treat him as the air, isolate the person from the mood, maintain a calm mood, and a stable mood is the basis for a good test. During the exam, he would not yell, he would only turn his head to look back and copy. The subject can discuss with the child how to achieve the above 2 points? How is the child’s mood now? The subject needs to clearly explain all the above logic to the child: your grades are your own calculations. As long as your mood is not affected, and your mood is the master, you can still be focused and not affected. When taking quizzes and monthly exams, lower your head? Out of sight out of mind. The subject of the question as a parent, and the teacher in charge or trustworthy teacher who likes the child’s feedback: When the child takes the test, it seems that the previous classmates will turn their heads and don’t know what they are doing, but sometimes it will affect the child’s mood. Please pay attention to the teacher. At the same time, convey to the teacher that he will let the children adjust their mood without being affected. Don’t agree with this “projection”. In psychology, it is called “projective identification”, which is implied by the words and actions of others. The more you care, the more anxious, the more it shows that “the more powerful his words and deeds have on you.” The point of communicating with the teacher is: Don’t exaggerate the influence of the captain on the child, then take a firm stand on his influence, in fact, reduce the influence of his copying answers, and give positive hints to yourself and the child, so that evil does not suppress the righteousness. The concept of projective identity was first proposed by Melanie Klein, and later developed and deduced by analysts of the object relation school, and gradually became the current concept. In the theory of object relations, projective identification is a behavioral pattern that induces others to respond in a limited way. In layman’s terms, I project my own things to you, and induce you to involuntarily react to me in the way I project to you. There are indeed many acts of manipulating people’s minds in the legend, if they turn their heads and copy them, the subject can be the parent to reveal the news to the teacher, let the teacher pay attention to it, it is best to catch the current situation, the “catching demon” scene must be more effective in exorcism. 2. Appropriately allocate energy to make friends and enhance children’s social acumen. If the child does not have many friends, the subject should be taken seriously. Later in the society, the child may be able to support himself, but it is easy to “single-handedly” become a “target”. Be squeezed out. The big difference between society and school is that society needs to cooperate and fight in groups, and at least there must be an “awareness of allies.” Learning tyrants are generally used to it by themselves, they are strong and they have a sense of superiority, so they are more likely to ignore the people around them; then it is easy to “be alone” or even “jealous”. Your light is too dazzling, others are not so dazzling, it flashes to others’ eyes, and others are uncomfortable, and you will be uncomfortable. Therefore: Let the children not only pay attention to learning, but also know how to establish emotional relationship with classmates. Have a few good friends, usually make friends, have common interests and hobbies, and talk about light-hearted and pleasant topics; always a serious student Maybe I can’t understand the jokes of my classmates, and I can’t tell jokes, and become less funny, too serious, and unable to intervene. If this is the case, make adjustments to see if you can let the child play more and become more interesting and relaxed. In short, you must have friends so that you are not afraid of being alone in groups, and those who want to “behave” socially will have nowhere to go. Because we are fine! We are happy in doing questions, happy in exams, happy in concentration, happy in making friends, happy in get out of class, happy silently, and shallowly happy. When we are not so happy when we are affected, we can also transform energy and become stable and happy.