As mentioned above, the blind date said to the introducer that he was very satisfied with me. On the other hand, what he did to me did not make me feel like me. Not taking the initiative is the biggest criticism.
As a senior player who has organized thousands of single parties in Chengdu, he is still qualified to speak. First of all, the subject said: “On the one hand, the blind date told the introducer that he was very satisfied with me. On the other hand, what he did to me did not make me feel like me.” This is inherently contradictory. Since it is a blind date, there is a high probability in the blind date market that if you are not satisfied with the blind date, you will directly or euphemistically express [not seen] to the introducer, and then indirectly inform the blind date [inappropriate]. This situation is reasonable. Now the other person’s attitude towards the referrer is [very satisfied with you], that should be true for you, but when he treats you, he doesn’t know [how to express my feelings to you], or [the other party The way of expressing liking is not the liking in your eyes. 】 1. 【How to express my feelings to you】There are two situations: 1. The other party doesn’t know how to express at all, stupidly thinking that as long as you keep in touch with you, you can be together naturally, but you don’t know what you want It is not until [Love] and [Special] to determine whether to enter a relationship. Then you might as well use the introducer to convey this message to the other party. If the other party really likes you, this issue is for him to consider, not for you to entangle. 2. The other party is not sure about your attitude and dare not actively express love. Blind date is a two-way choice. Both know that they are willing to take the initiative when they can vaguely feel mutual favor. After all, no one wants to do things that are uncertain and have a low chance of winning. 2. [His likes are not the likes in your eyes] Everyone has different definitions of likes, and everyone has different understanding of behavior. Let’s give an example of a successful single-off member in Tuxiaocao: A and B met at a single-off party, and they were not embarrassed to take the initiative to ask for WeChat in person. After the party ended that day, the boy asked the matchmaker for the girl’s WeChat. After chatting for a week or so, the girl’s family was sick, and she went to work in the hospital again. She had been busy looking for relationships to arrange hospitalization to take care of her family. There was not much time to chat with the boys every day like before. At that time, the boy felt that the girl did not want to continue chatting with him, so he straightforwardly sent a message to ask the girl what her attitude was. The original sentence was like this: “Is there no more information? I don’t want to continue talking?” The speech was straightforward. , The girl saw the news when she was free, and replied: “Recently busy, family members are sick, didn’t look at the mobile phone much, and she was still accompanying her in the hospital.” The boy greeted a few words and said: “If you are busy now, stop talking and take a break.” In the next few days, there is no contact with each other. Usually, if you don’t take the initiative to each other, it will be fate here. ended. But there is still a turning point between them. There was a matchmaker who cared about the progress of the two girls. The girl said that the boy suddenly stopped contacting herself and didn’t take the initiative to find herself. She should have no good impressions. Then ask about the boys. The boys’ attitude is that they know that she has had an accident at home recently. They are very busy and upset, so they are afraid to disturb the girls and dare not blindly contact them, but they always pay attention to her movements. Boy’s perspective: Consider girls, don’t dare to disturb at will, can only care silently. Girl’s perspective: Waiting for the boy to take the initiative to contact himself as before. Later, when I came to the club to participate in activities, I met again (of course there was a deliberate arrangement~) and the two people chatted and solved the misunderstanding. Each person expresses his likes in different ways, and considers different points for the other person. The other person may not be able to satisfy you when they first contact. (I don’t need to add one point, the opposite sex is perfect, not deliberately, or the queen of the sea. ~) After all, no one is perfect. Two people being together depends on attracting each other. How long two people can stay together depends on whether the other person is treating you in the way you like, but what we need to do in this process is: teach each other how to like yourself in the way you like. Therefore, instead of guessing and complaining by yourself, it’s better to spread the words out, or use others to try. The above is only for the blind date [falsely hanging]. If you encounter a true sea king who is in a hurry, you must run quickly or kill it back. Above, get out of class is over! I am Ultraman who guards single dogs in Chengdu-classmates Ba Xiaocao. I don’t want to talk about long-distance relationships when I am in love, and I am not confused when I get out of my singles!