As a marriage counselor, I can also make you a little bit more entertaining from the perspective of psychology. Xiaopoling has already produced a lot of grain. Today we will start with the 7 nails on Zhou Zishu, and try this beautiful two-way redemption. What is salvation? Hebrew has a word with a similar meaning, which is “release”. In other words, free yourself from the prison that trapped you. Where did the cage come from? From trauma. The image of a nail is a metaphor for Zhou Zishu’s trauma. Do you still remember the episodes of 13 episodes and 14 episodes of “Mind Girl Being Robbed” and “Lieutenant Girl Protecting Clothes”? When being picked up by Ye Baiyi, he will be full of anger; when being picked up by Wen Ke, he will be ashamed and angry. The old double standard is strange. Graphic… irrelevant? However, apart from kdl, do you have any doubts: Why does Zhou Zishu care about “showing nails to others”? If you still have an impression of the previous plot, you will find that Wen Kexing has mentioned his internal injuries countless times, and Zhou Zishu’s attitude is consistent: don’t mention it, you can’t look at it, and his mouth is as hard as a dead duck. , Pretend everything is fine. Why is he so stubborn? Because these seven nails are not only physical trauma, but also a metaphor, suggesting the major trauma suffered by Asu. What is “trauma”? Psychology believes that trauma is “an event beyond the experience of ordinary people.” In recent years, the concept of a native family is very popular, but in fact, trauma does not only exist in childhood. After adolescence and adulthood, some sudden and irresistible major changes will have far-reaching effects. Although psychological trauma is invisible and intangible, it is more difficult to deal with than physical wounds. Because trauma is our inability to cope and to heal the pain. You can use a dagger to debride the wounds. But what about the nail buried in the heart? How to do? Unable to face, unsolvable, only buried. Unlike Wen Kexing, who stayed in his nightmare when he was 7 years old, he was fifteen-year-old in the book propped up Four Seasons Villa as a child. At the age of eighteen, he met the prince He Lianyi and was aroused by a youthful spirit. He was twenty-three years old. The “skylight” was built with one hand. Zhou Zishu, who was the knife after the prosperous age, is different. Asu in the play has had two major traumas (2000 layers of gray warning). The first time was when he was 16 years old when his mentor suddenly passed away and entrusted Four Season Villa to him before his death. However, the young master was too young to be deceived, and those uncles who treated him as a nephew who loved and cared, went to death one after another to protect the villa. The second time was after joining the king of Jin. Those brothers who regarded him as their brothers, loved and worshiped, followed him up and down in the quagmire of power, and consumed the ideals of the country for the people. In the meaningless power struggle, there was nothing. The meaning fades one by one. If Wen Kexing has been in a nightmare since he was 7 years old, then Zhou Zishu hasn’t been in a nightmare for more than ten years? Zuishengmengsi is what he cultivated for his own use. At night, you can use drunkenness and dreams to help you sleep, and how can you survive the long day? How to deal with and parting after another, losing one after another? Had to distort the cognition and take the blame. Cognitive distortion means that there are wrong, unreasonable, one-sided or paranoid elements in cognition. Personalization and responsibility for the upper body means to attribute negative incidents to one’s own fault, without being able to objectively analyze the cause of the problem, and being responsible without seeing others. The Four Seasons Villa has fallen to this point, are others not responsible? Does Master Qin Huaizhang have the responsibility to put the burden on a 16-year-old boy? Was King Jin responsible for using PUA to abduct Zhou Zishu into the court? The black road and the white road are all looking for trouble, is there any responsibility in this world? The pot he was carrying, he took the initiative to carry it. If he shouldn’t carry the pot, he still has to carry it. why? Why punish yourself like this? Why are you thinking about your “crime” so that you can’t forget, don’t want to forget, don’t dare to forget? For example, you will understand. Imagine a child who was abandoned by her mother when she desperately needed her. At this time, the child will instinctively hate his mother. I need you so much, why do you abandon me? Hate is devastating. And there are two ways to deal with hatred: attacking mother, and self-attacking one will bring fear: attacking mother, will my mother not want me even more? Because of fear of losing love, children tend to turn their attacks on themselves: it’s all my fault, it’s all I didn’t do well. The advantage of self-attack is more security, but the disadvantage is long-term self-loathing and depression. Even if the price is unlovable and self-suffering, Zhou Zishu still can’t forget, dare not forget. He constantly uses self-suffering to strengthen and consolidate these memories, and uses self-punishment to prevent anger from throwing anger on these loved ones, avoiding his own hatred, to protect lost emotions. After all, loss is the most painful life experience. Once you let go, you will find that you are empty-handed. Once we say goodbye, we must face the emptiness that swallows everything like a black hole. So staying in the past, you don’t have to face the ugliness and nihilism of reality. Wandering around the world, buried immediately after death So, how to repair such a deep wound? How to reconcile such a huge loss? In the night when they slept side by side at Four Seasons Villa, Asu and Lao Wen both woke up from their nightmares. In this place full of memories and expectations, memories that I thought I had forgotten for a long time suddenly emerged. When Asu talked about the past and the pain in tears, the barrage all over the screen was “distressed” and “Wen Kexing, can you do it?” But as a consultant, I smiled relievedly. Because, if one day, the memory of deliberate avoidance suddenly comes to the door, it means that the time to truly let go has arrived. Remember what I said before? The real trauma cannot be touched. When it found it again, although it was accompanied by the sharp pain of cutting open the old scar, it was actually telling myself subconsciously: I was ready to let it go. Asu’s sky is about to light up. Next, the plot enters the 28th and 29th episodes of the abuse. In order to collect Qi Liulijia’s life for the owner of the village, the old Han Ying was in charge. Many people think that the treatment here is just to highlight the loyalty of Korean and English, or to add a good CP. However, only to this level is a waste of the screenwriter’s painstaking efforts. Come, we continue to look down: “Fortunately, Xingming has given me a cover. Although we have never been lucky enough to join Four Seasons Villa, I, like all the predecessors, are willing to go through fire and water for you.” Has GET arrived? At this moment, the shadows of the elders who went to death one after another to protect the villa, the dead souls of the old ministries who followed the leader, went through water and fire and withered one by one, appeared one by one behind Han Ying. Even if he lied to Jiu Xiao to drink drunk life and dream of death, the junior fellow resented him and left angrily. It was discovered that the brother still gave up his life to save after being trapped in the lonely city. Even if he escaped from the skylight, his bones were broken, and there was no “use” or “value” for the old ministry, they were still willing to die for him. They didn’t blame him, they hated him. They trust him and love him, not because he is the omnipotent owner. What they thought before going to death was: Although I am dying, but I can help you, I die without regret.