Because I didn’t want to waste the girl’s youth, and I was a little confused about the future, all those who had confessed before turned down with appropriate reasons. This is my first formal experience (not licked), so I want to ask what else is needed for girls besides being responsible and patient? And some minefields that should be avoided?
Accumulate details in life. Details often reflect how much one person cares about another, and the same is true for girlfriends. In the process of getting along, two people will experience a lot of things in life, so you have to pay attention to some small details. For example, every time you go out to buy milk tea shop with your girlfriend, you find that she always orders latte, milk tea has never been bought, and every time she buys a latte of a certain flavor Latte, then next time you don’t tell her to buy her a drink in advance, you will know what she would like to drink; for example, this winter you find that your girlfriend has some frostbite on her hand and she has been wearing gloves , Then you know that her little hands are prone to frostbite when it is cold. Then you can buy gloves for her to wear before coming next winter, and then buy some hand cream to prevent frostbite. Above; there are many more details in similar life. You need to pay attention to these details and determine your behavior later. Sincere little details are very capable of moving girls’ hearts. 2. Don’t try to use your ideas to solve the confusion or problems she raised. Boys’ thinking is indeed very different from girls’ thinking. When your girlfriend complains to you about the confusion in your heart or encounters a difficult problem, don’t put your own thoughts into it, and then teach her how to do things. , Your behavior will only make her feel “You are teaching me to do things?”. And she will feel that you don’t understand her and don’t care about her. What you should do is to switch yourself to her position, consider from her point of view, what would you do if you were her, and give reference advice from the perspective of empathy. Note that it must be a recommendation, and It’s not about making decisions for her. Everyone is an adult and has the ability to make decisions on their own. No one likes others to make decisions for themselves. Or, when she raises confusion or encounters problems, she may just need a shoulder, a support, and a listener who can understand her. At this time, hug her, comfort her, and give her encouragement and courage. Female The child is not as weak as you think. 3. Life needs a sense of freshness and occasionally a sense of ritual. If two people are together for a long time, they will be tired and tired. The same life will make her lose her temper with this relationship and feel that the care from you will fade. So you need to inject some fresh blood into the lives of two people, remember some special anniversaries, take her to a candlelight dinner for two, take her to play two bungee jumping, and learn a favorite song for her. Sing to her, grow flowers for her and give them to her when they bloom, etc. When life is no longer boring, monotonous and boring, when life has color and life has truly become life, she will definitely feel your love and care. 4. Don’t ignore her feelings when you are entertaining. Some people play games from 7pm to 2am, during which they don’t reply to a single message or even call. Such people think they are handsome? It’s not that you can’t play games or have your own entertainment, but that you have to say something to your girlfriend when you play games or do other entertainment. Don’t move around for three or four hours without replying to messages, calling and finding no one, unless you have a mine at home, or else why do people and girls want you to fall in love? Do you want to find someone to anger yourself? When you are entertaining and relaxing, let her rest assured that you care about her best, because you won’t make her worry all the time. 5. Learn to communicate with each other sincerely. Communication is not for you to count down what I did wrong, I will spit out your shortcomings, and then the two people have a red face, and no one will let anyone else. Communication should be when two people sit down calmly, take a closer look at some things that have happened in the past, and propose some reasonable solutions to existing problems. Falling in love is not about having a family. A good relationship is also something that both parties need to put in effort to maintain. When the relationship is “sick”, communication is the best “pill”. 6. If you encounter problems in your relationship, find a third person to resolve it appropriately. The third person here is not the third person, it is absolutely impossible to find the third person. The third person here can be your parents, a teacher you trust, or your best friend. In front of them, you can say bad things about him, you can talk about him as much as you want, or you can Tell all the troubles you have encountered, they will listen to you and give you some very practical and reasonable suggestions. Only when your own emotions and mentality get better, you will have the energy and mind to care about him, otherwise, you will be a mess, and you will only make the relationship worse. 7. Don’t pretend to be in front of girls, try to improve yourself and make yourself better, but you must not pretend to be hypocritical. When some boys are pursuing girls, during the sweet period of love, they will especially pretend, say things against their hearts, and do things against their hearts. This makes the girls feel extremely caring and loving. But after being in love for a period of time, after calming down, and after getting it, the original shape is revealed, and I can’t do what I did before. At this time, the girl’s psychological gap is coming. She will feel that you are not as good as before, and she will feel that you don’t care about her as much as before. Therefore, boys should be the best self in love, but they can’t be who they are not.