Because I didn’t want to waste the girl’s youth, and I was a little confused about the future, all those who had confessed before turned down with appropriate reasons. This is my first formal experience (not licked), so I want to ask what else is needed for girls besides being responsible and patient? And some minefields that should be avoided?

Accumulate details in life. Details often reflect how much one person cares about another, and the same is true for girlfriends. In the process of getting along, two people will experience a lot of things in life, so you have to pay attention to some small details. For example, every time you go out to buy milk tea shop with your girlfriend, you find that she always orders latte, milk tea has never been bought, and every time she buys a latte of a certain flavor Latte, then next time you don’t tell her to buy her a drink in advance, you will know what she would like to drink; for example, this winter you find that your girlfriend has some frostbite on her hand and she has been wearing gloves , Then you know that her little hands are prone to frostbite when it is cold. Then you can buy gloves for her to wear before coming next winter, and then buy some hand cream to prevent frostbite. Above; there are many more details in similar life. You need to pay attention to these details and determine your behavior later. Sincere little details are very capable of moving girls’ hearts. 2. Don’t try to use your ideas to solve the confusion or problems she raised. Boys’ thinking is indeed very different from girls’ thinking. When your girlfriend complains to you about the confusion in your heart or encounters a difficult problem, don’t put your own thoughts into it, and then teach her how to do things. , Your behavior will only make her feel “You are teaching me to do things?”. And she will feel that you don’t understand her and don’t care about her. What you should do is to switch yourself to her position, consider from her point of view, what would you do if you were her, and give reference advice from the perspective of empathy. Note that it must be a recommendation, and It’s not about making decisions for her. Everyone is an adult and has the ability to make decisions on their own. No one likes others to make decisions for themselves. Or, when she raises confusion or encounters problems, she may just need a shoulder, a support, and a listener who can understand her. At this time, hug her, comfort her, and give her encouragement and courage. Female The child is not as weak as you think. 3. Life needs a sense of freshness and occasionally a sense of ritual. If two people are together for a long time, they will be tired and tired. The same life will make her lose her temper with this relationship and feel that the care from you will fade. So you need to inject some fresh blood into the lives of two people, remember some special anniversaries, take her to a candlelight dinner for two, take her to play two bungee jumping, and learn a favorite song for her. Sing to her, grow flowers for her and give them to her when they bloom, etc. When life is no longer boring, monotonous and boring, when life has color and life has truly become life, she will definitely feel your love and care. 4. Don’t ignore her feelings when you are entertaining. Some people play games from 7pm to 2am, during which they don’t reply to a single message or even call. Such people think they are handsome? It’s not that you can’t play games or have your own entertainment, but that you have to say something to your girlfriend when you play games or do other entertainment. Don’t move around for three or four hours without replying to messages, calling and finding no one, unless you have a mine at home, or else why do people and girls want you to fall in love? Do you want to find someone to anger yourself? When you are entertaining and relaxing, let her rest assured that you care about her best, because you won’t make her worry all the time. 5. Learn to communicate with each other sincerely. Communication is not for you to count down what I did wrong, I will spit out your shortcomings, and then the two people have a red face, and no one will let anyone else. Communication should be when two people sit down calmly, take a closer look at some things that have happened in the past, and propose some reasonable solutions to existing problems. Falling in love is not about having a family. A good relationship is also something that both parties need to put in effort to maintain. When the relationship is “sick”, communication is the best “pill”. 6. If you encounter problems in your relationship, find a third person to resolve it appropriately. The third person here is not the third person, it is absolutely impossible to find the third person. The third person here can be your parents, a teacher you trust, or your best friend. In front of them, you can say bad things about him, you can talk about him as much as you want, or you can Tell all the troubles you have encountered, they will listen to you and give you some very practical and reasonable suggestions. Only when your own emotions and mentality get better, you will have the energy and mind to care about him, otherwise, you will be a mess, and you will only make the relationship worse. 7. Don’t pretend to be in front of girls, try to improve yourself and make yourself better, but you must not pretend to be hypocritical. When some boys are pursuing girls, during the sweet period of love, they will especially pretend, say things against their hearts, and do things against their hearts. This makes the girls feel extremely caring and loving. But after being in love for a period of time, after calming down, and after getting it, the original shape is revealed, and I can’t do what I did before. At this time, the girl’s psychological gap is coming. She will feel that you are not as good as before, and she will feel that you don’t care about her as much as before. Therefore, boys should be the best self in love, but they can’t be who they are not.

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helpmekim
6 months ago

1. When a girl falls in love for the first time, never find an uncle. Once you find someone who is much older than you in society, you are in danger. You will only be controlled and manipulated in this relationship. , Dominated position. When I say this, it’s not that the uncles are all bad guys, but that they have been in the society for so many years and crushed you in terms of knowledge, thinking, resources, and experience. What’s more, what kind of female he hasn’t seen? The glamorous and sexy chuo has everything, and when he says he likes you, the reason is actually because you are pure, do you dare to believe it? If you are careful, he will be able to guess thoroughly. Once you have a little emotion, he will know what routines can coax you well, and he can speak the words of love without blushing and heartbeat. In this relationship, you can only exist like a white rabbit, whose emotions are controlled by him, and you have no power to resist. 2. Taking her to eat Mala Tang at the age of 18 is youth; at the age of 28, she can only take her to eat Mala Tang, which is incompetent. I know you want to enjoy taking her on the road to go shopping to eat the Mala Tang at the corner. Tell her to go to the roadside stalls to eat, drink and have fun. But this kind of happiness is short-lived. You have to think, work hard to improve yourself, earn more money, and win the initiative in life, so that you have the capital to create a better future. When you are alone, you are struggling to live by eating food stalls every day and pulling a few buddies to buy drunk late at night. That is your business and has no substantial effect on your happiness. But when this girl appears next to you, you have to think about it. If you still don’t make progress, don’t work hard to make money, and don’t have a big picture, are you willing to let her follow you and be wronged? 3. Play less games and read more to read the world to enhance the connotation. You will find that her eyes are different when she sees you. Girls are a kind of creature that admires the strong. If you have your own rich experience, profound knowledge, and humorous and decent conversation, she will definitely have a strong sense of admiration and awe. And this change in self-temperament and self-confidence of the whole person will accompany you throughout your life. 4. People who like at first sight, don’t wait to add contact information next time. Now it’s really rare to meet someone who likes at a glance. If you meet-congratulations, you are really Yue Lao The darling. This fate, I hope you will cherish it, and sincerely ask for a contact information, it’s nothing. Even if the worst result is her refusal, the refusal itself will not constitute any loss for you. And if you persuade and comfort yourself that you will muster the courage to add it next time you see it, then it is very likely that you will never see it again. Pain is not a cost, but an opportunity. 5. The meaning of loving someone like “not loving” is not to make you a sea king, but that you are still an independent and free self while you love him. He won’t be depressed because he didn’t reply to the news in seconds, won’t be angry because he didn’t guess your thoughts, and won’t care about little things like sesame garlic. If you use too much force in love, your own value will be greatly reduced, and it is easy for him to look at you into fear and disgust. Your most attractive look is: even if you are with him, you still have a circle you love, hobbies that are willing to persevere in investing time, and the capital to live well even if you leave him. 6. In fact, love is planted by the predecessors. Some couples in love will become a thorn to themselves when they think that the other party has an ex, and mind that the other half also has a better life with another opposite sex before. But, think about it-a large part of your partner’s current attitude towards love was taught to him by his predecessor. He may have been a very headstrong boy before, who could not take care of his partner’s feelings, did not know how to manage relationships, and never knew how to bring happiness to each other. And it was the girl’s company or even leaving that taught him how to love someone. So, don’t be psychologically unbalanced because the other party is not a blank piece of paper. What you have now is something that others have spent a lot of effort on. 7. Quarrels are not terrible. The Cold War is terrible. Couples who are prone to quarreling because of a little bit of things will often reconcile because of a little touch. What is the most terrible relationship? It is that he knows that there are many problems between you, he knows that this is not a healthy relationship, but he doesn’t even bother to quarrel with you, just let it go. There were a lot of things I wanted to say in my heart, but I just wanted to open my mouth and sighed, and said helplessly. This also means that the determination to maintain this relationship is no longer lost. It’s not that you don’t love quarreling, you don’t want to quarrel anymore. 8. Never use affection more than reason. Talking about affection is not a play house for children. It is not love to be able to withstand all difficulties. It is always necessary to learn to be mature. If emotions are greater than rationality, they will regard the other person as even a general existence in the world, because a small matter will doubt whether the other person does not love you, because emotions can abandon one’s own circle and hobbies-IQ becomes zero , Completely revolve around the other party. Then you will not have any attraction to him. One day we have to deal with problems calmly like adults, and one day we have to mature and analyze rationally. 9. Keep your eyes open, it’s really not a good thing for a person to treat you well. No matter when, don’t just try to be good to you and stay with him. Nothing can be good to him! Because, since I want to fall in love with you , Good for you is a basic item, not a bonus item. There are too many girls now, because the boys have spent a week of Xihan Wennuan. They think that the wheel of love has come to them because the other party has sent a few sweet gifts, and his heart is pounding because of his concern for you. But ah, girl, think about it, throw him away for being nice to you, is there anything in him that can attract you? To be realistic, it can be money, ability, or character, but don’t get rid of the point of “being nice to you”. 10. If you are pursuing freshness, you will never jump out of the endless cycle of freshness. Many boys have girlfriends, so let’s ask: What should I do if I meet a girl who I like more after having a girlfriend? I was puzzled, Hong Shixian lived better than you. Hong Shixian said to Ellie: “If I married you today because of love, then one day I will abandon you because of love.” Today you will abandon your current position because you think you have met the so-called true love, and you will also think that in the future. Abandoning the so-called “true love” before encountering the emperor of true destiny will never be able to break out of the fresh infinite loop. 11. If you want the relationship to last forever, the premise is that both parties are constantly innovating themselves. Both parties are constantly improving in the relationship. This is the best state for lovers. This includes: While loving the other party, don’t forget to improve yourself, constantly create new experiences, and maintain a proper sense of mystery so that the other party can continuously discover surprises. A lover, but also a friend, with like-minded souls, and a consensus on the spiritual level. Such lovers are the ones who can make love last longer. 12. Feelings are actually more fragile than mud and sand. When you feel that feelings are great and touching, it’s just because you haven’t violated your own interests. How many people have promised that the love between Shan Wu Leng Tian Di dared to be with Jun Jue, in the end they lost to money-because the house had to write the woman’s name and it was a trouble, because the tens of thousands of yuan of gift money made it unmatched. contacts. How sincere I was when I said I was going to die, and then I said, “How did I like you bastard in the first place?” You see, feelings are often so fragile. 13. Some people are destined to appear in a certain part of your life, and then turn around and leave. There are people who come, some people go, there are encounters, and there are differences. There is no need to indulge in sorrow because of someone’s departure, because he is destined to only I’m here with you. You can’t guarantee who can stay with you for a long time on this journey of life. What you can guarantee is that the only person you need to take always seriously is yourself. 14. Don’t engage in anti-human wishful thinking. Many people, in order to satisfy their so-called vanity, will ask their partners an embarrassing question: “If I become ugly, boring, and poor, will you still love me? “I have answered all these questions in one breath: “No, really no, absolutely not.” You are just a species that hasn’t changed, so why do you still love you! ? If you want others to love you, why should you become ugly, boring, and poor? No one has the obligation to love such a person whose conditions change drastically. If you want others to love you very much, please try to make yourself beautiful, interesting and rich. Instead of asking these anti-human questions. 15. There are many ways to express love. For the rest of your life, you will slowly take her to enjoy the sweetest bite in the center of the watermelon, the cherry on top of the cake, the first piece of fat sheep on the hot pot… these little details in life, These ordinary fireworks in the world give your illusory “love” a real carrier; the sea of ​​flowers that go to see together, whisper on the beach with slippers together, and watch the fireworks together when night falls in the city , Holding hands and walking along the road with mottled shadows…These long-flowing accompaniments have made your illusory “love” a beautiful bond. You may not be good at words, but you have been creating the beautiful experience that two people share.

heloword
6 months ago

1. When a girl falls in love for the first time, never find an uncle. Once you find someone who is much older than you in society, you are in danger. You will only be controlled and manipulated in this relationship. , Dominated position. When I say this, it’s not that the uncles are all bad guys, but that they have been in the society for so many years and crushed you in terms of knowledge, thinking, resources, and experience. What’s more, what kind of female he hasn’t seen? The glamorous and sexy chuo has everything, and when he says he likes you, the reason is actually because you are pure, do you dare to believe it? If you are careful, he will be able to guess thoroughly. Once you have a little emotion, he will know what routines can coax you well, and he can speak the words of love without blushing and heartbeat. In this relationship, you can only exist like a white rabbit, whose emotions are controlled by him, and you have no power to resist. 2. Taking her to eat Mala Tang at the age of 18 is youth; at the age of 28, she can only take her to eat Mala Tang, which is incompetent. I know you want to enjoy taking her on the road to go shopping to eat the Mala Tang at the corner. Tell her to go to the roadside stalls to eat, drink and have fun. But this kind of happiness is short-lived. You have to think, work hard to improve yourself, earn more money, and win the initiative in life, so that you have the capital to create a better future. When you are alone, you are struggling to live by eating food stalls every day and pulling a few buddies to buy drunk late at night. That is your business and has no substantial effect on your happiness. But when this girl appears next to you, you have to think about it. If you still don’t make progress, don’t work hard to make money, and don’t have a big picture, are you willing to let her follow you and be wronged? 3. Play less games and read more to read the world to enhance the connotation. You will find that her eyes are different when she sees you. Girls are a kind of creature that admires the strong. If you have your own rich experience, profound knowledge, and humorous and decent conversation, she will definitely have a strong sense of admiration and awe. And this change in self-temperament and self-confidence of the whole person will accompany you throughout your life. 4. People who like at first sight, don’t wait to add contact information next time. Now it’s really rare to meet someone who likes at a glance. If you meet-congratulations, you are really Yue Lao The darling. This fate, I hope you will cherish it, and sincerely ask for a contact information, it’s nothing. Even if the worst result is her refusal, the refusal itself will not constitute any loss for you. And if you persuade and comfort yourself that you will muster the courage to add it next time you see it, then it is very likely that you will never see it again. Pain is not a cost, but an opportunity. 5. The meaning of loving someone like “not loving” is not to make you a sea king, but that you are still an independent and free self while you love him. He won’t be depressed because he didn’t reply to the news in seconds, won’t be angry because he didn’t guess your thoughts, and won’t care about little things like sesame garlic. If you use too much force in love, your own value will be greatly reduced, and it is easy for him to look at you into fear and disgust. Your most attractive look is: even if you are with him, you still have a circle you love, hobbies that are willing to persevere in investing time, and the capital to live well even if you leave him. 6. In fact, love is planted by the predecessors. Some couples in love will become a thorn to themselves when they think that the other party has an ex, and mind that the other half also has a better life with another opposite sex before. But, think about it-a large part of your partner’s current attitude towards love was taught to him by his predecessor. He may have been a very headstrong boy before, who could not take care of his partner’s feelings, did not know how to manage relationships, and never knew how to bring happiness to each other. And it was the girl’s company or even leaving that taught him how to love someone. So, don’t be psychologically unbalanced because the other party is not a blank piece of paper. What you have now is something that others have spent a lot of effort on. 7. Quarrels are not terrible. The Cold War is terrible. Couples who are prone to quarreling because of a little bit of things will often reconcile because of a little touch. What is the most terrible relationship? It is that he knows that there are many problems between you, he knows that this is not a healthy relationship, but he doesn’t even bother to quarrel with you, just let it go. There were a lot of things I wanted to say in my heart, but I just wanted to open my mouth and sighed, and said helplessly. This also means that the determination to maintain this relationship is no longer lost. It’s not that you don’t love quarreling, you don’t want to quarrel anymore. 8. Never use affection more than reason. Talking about affection is not a play house for children. It is not love to be able to withstand all difficulties. It is always necessary to learn to be mature. If emotions are greater than rationality, they will regard the other person as even a general existence in the world, because a small matter will doubt whether the other person does not love you, because emotions can abandon one’s own circle and hobbies-IQ becomes zero , Completely revolve around the other party. Then you will not have any attraction to him. One day we have to deal with problems calmly like adults, and one day we have to mature and analyze rationally. 9. Keep your eyes open, it’s really not a good thing for a person to treat you well. No matter when, don’t just try to be good to you and stay with him. Nothing can be good to him! Because, since I want to fall in love with you , Good for you is a basic item, not a bonus item. There are too many girls now, because the boys have spent a week of Xihan Wennuan. They think that the wheel of love has come to them because the other party has sent a few sweet gifts, and his heart is pounding because of his concern for you. But ah, girl, think about it, throw him away for being nice to you, is there anything in him that can attract you? To be realistic, it can be money, ability, or character, but don’t get rid of the point of “being nice to you”. 10. If you are pursuing freshness, you will never jump out of the endless cycle of freshness. Many boys have girlfriends, so let’s ask: What should I do if I meet a girl who I like more after having a girlfriend? I was puzzled, Hong Shixian lived better than you. Hong Shixian said to Ellie: “If I married you today because of love, then one day I will abandon you because of love.” Today you will abandon your current position because you think you have met the so-called true love, and you will also think that in the future. Abandoning the so-called “true love” before encountering the emperor of true destiny will never be able to break out of the fresh infinite loop. 11. If you want the relationship to last forever, the premise is that both parties are constantly innovating themselves. Both parties are constantly improving in the relationship. This is the best state for lovers. This includes: While loving the other party, don’t forget to improve yourself, constantly create new experiences, and maintain a proper sense of mystery so that the other party can continuously discover surprises. A lover, but also a friend, with like-minded souls, and a consensus on the spiritual level. Such lovers are the ones who can make love last longer. 12. Feelings are actually more fragile than mud and sand. When you feel that feelings are great and touching, it’s just because you haven’t violated your own interests. How many people have promised that the love between Shan Wu Leng Tian Di dared to be with Jun Jue, in the end they lost to money-because the house had to write the woman’s name and it was a trouble, because the tens of thousands of yuan of gift money made it unmatched. contacts. How sincere I was when I said I was going to die, and then I said, “How did I like you bastard in the first place?” You see, feelings are often so fragile. 13. Some people are destined to appear in a certain part of your life, and then turn around and leave. There are people who come, some people go, there are encounters, and there are differences. There is no need to indulge in sorrow because of someone’s departure, because he is destined to only I’m here with you. You can’t guarantee who can stay with you for a long time on this journey of life. What you can guarantee is that the only person you need to take always seriously is yourself. 14. Don’t engage in anti-human wishful thinking. Many people, in order to satisfy their so-called vanity, will ask their partners an embarrassing question: “If I become ugly, boring, and poor, will you still love me? “I have answered all these questions in one breath: “No, really no, absolutely not.” You are just a species that hasn’t changed, so why do you still love you! ? If you want others to love you, why should you become ugly, boring, and poor? No one has the obligation to love such a person whose conditions change drastically. If you want others to love you very much, please try to make yourself beautiful, interesting and rich. Instead of asking these anti-human questions. 15. There are many ways to express love. For the rest of your life, you will slowly take her to enjoy the sweetest bite in the center of the watermelon, the cherry on top of the cake, the first piece of fat sheep on the hot pot… these little details in life, These ordinary fireworks in the world give your illusory “love” a real carrier; the sea of ​​flowers that go to see together, whisper on the beach with slippers together, and watch the fireworks together when night falls in the city , Holding hands and walking along the road with mottled shadows…These long-flowing accompaniments have made your illusory “love” a beautiful bond. You may not be good at words, but you have been creating the beautiful experience that two people share.

helpyme
6 months ago

1. Don’t chat with a girl every day, in case she doesn’t reply to WeChat one day, she will be very disappointed. But chatting with ten girls, you won’t have this kind of trouble. 2. Using a clumsy brain is not as good as being able to tease him. A hundred touches are not as good as one heartbeat. 3. Don’t kneel and lick. He will not remember the people who traveled long distances to meet him, but only the people he traveled long distances to meet. 4. Girls are sometimes very cute, you only need to reply to her daily trivial daily and nonsense, she can be very happy. 5. Remember, anyone who makes you too strenuous is either testing you or consuming you. 6. Boys have chest control, leg control, and clavicle control. 7. Girls are accusing by voice, face control, and hands. 8. People who like you are expressing their whole body. People who don’t like you, as if you are charged with electricity, can squeeze the subway to find ways to not get you. 9. Exercise your fingers more, the success rate of chasing girls will be higher. Smart people now double-click the screen to start exercising~10. If you lose contact, you will say that your feelings are weak. If you are awkward and open your mouth, you will break up. This kind of feeling is not rare and don’t keep it. 11. Don’t give expensive gifts when you are not sure about your relationship. Otherwise, wearing the clothes you gave him and dating someone, it is equivalent to a threesome game. 12. Don’t think that girls are superficial and just look at their faces. They prefer interesting souls and talented minds to appearances. So if you have special skills or a high degree of education, you should make good use of it. If you do not have an advantage for the time being, I recommend you to read more books, especially psychology books. Reading is definitely the most cost-effective way to improve yourself. There is no one. If you also want to read, I suggest you pay attention to my personal public account “Feynman Senior Rich”. I will share with you the 200 high-scoring selected book lists that I have summarized in recent years. It not only increases the knowledge reserve, but also enhances the emotional cognition of others. The girlfriends who don’t fight are really gentle and lovely. 13. Some girls have interesting signals to you: they reply quickly, often send you trivial daily life, use emoticons to fight pictures with you, ask you how to spend Christmas and Valentine’s Day, and laugh at you as a single dog on Double Eleven. 14. A person seems to give you a lot of opportunities to pursue, but in fact, there are very few opportunities that can really be taken. If you miss it, you will basically be out of play. An answer seems to be very long, but in fact there are very few opportunities to like it. If you don’t like it now, you will basically not remember it for a while. 15. Don’t fall on him viciously like a lion during the passionate love period, give him all the good and all the love. Otherwise, after this period of time, he will ask “How did you change?” 16. There is only one option for cheating-breaking up. Those who do not listen to persuade to forgive and reconcile, most of them repeat the same mistakes. 17. The most you should marry is not a girl who makes you excited when you see it, but a friend of the opposite sex who wants to talk to you when you are sad, to share when you are happy, to know your true face, and to get along with each other easily. This is anti-intellectual. Think about it carefully. We have to live with that person for 40 or 60 years. The life is too long. One day you will find that how far you can go with a person will ultimately be attributed to character and three views. , The way of communication. It’s more important than family background, appearance, and figure. Don’t let yourself be reckless and regret it for a lifetime. 18. Both men and women have a strong mentality when looking for a target. If you feel ta is much weaker than you, then you are likely to look down on it. If you can make the opposite sex feel that you are strong, you don’t have to worry about not having a love partner. 19. Boys who can pay attention to details are very special in the eyes of girls. Gently push her to the inside of the road when walking; quietly move the umbrella toward her on a rainy day; ask the waiter to “not add coriander” when eating together. The girl’s mind is delicate, she can feel all these things, and every time she cares for her inadvertently is a bonus. 20. Getting rid of poverty is more important than getting rid of orders. From now on, every sentence that coaxes her with “I’ll support you” is all in need of money. 21. It’s inappropriate to meet someone who touches your heart. It’s not appropriate to lengthen the timeline a bit. Otherwise, as soon as the hormone subsides, you will only feel that the other party is dull and tired of seeing each other. 22. Practice squats more, and your girlfriend will become more and more clingy. 23. You must also learn to control each other’s expectations when you fall in love. Always give 80 points. By accident, if you do 60 points, he will say that you have changed. 70 points at the beginning, 80 points as the relationship heats up, on the contrary, I love you more and more. 24. Nothing. I heard that after reading and answering the initiative to like, all found good-looking and excellent people. Finally, let me introduce myself: @菲曼学长, a growing blogger who has been counterattacking in the past 5 years, shares his growth and learning methods on Zhihu. I invite you to pay attention to my public account “Feynman Senior Rich” (not telling ordinary people). This is where I stand. I will share with you what books I have read, my private counterattack experience, and years of growth experience. . For example: 100 sets of necessary thinking models for great people benefit me deeply. A full set of skill materials for TED talks PS+Python+PR, 200 must-read books for growth, zero basic copywriting tutorials, and financial management experience that cost tens of thousands of dollars. And skills review thinking and review methods. A mind map tutorial that everyone can easily use. A full set of tutorials and methods to improve and enhance memory

sina156
6 months ago

1. Practice squats more, and your girlfriend will become more and more inseparable from you. 2. No brain is good to her, it is better to tease with sweet words, hello, she is also good. 3. Always hug and hold high, intimate physical contact is necessary for the long-term development of love. 3. Boys who can pay attention to details are super bonus in the eyes of girls. Always write down the WeChat messages to her; take the initiative to pick up things when going out shopping; gently push her to the inside of the road when walking. Many people think that some couples are naturally sweet, but they don’t realize that it is actually an atmosphere of love created by small details. 4. Men are lustful, women are strong, this is human nature. So stop guessing why people are not indifferent to you anymore, okay Bom? Learn to work hard to improve yourself and then attract him~ 5. Don’t kneel and lick! Don’t kneel and lick! Don’t kneel and lick! The humbler you are, the more worthless your good will be. I’m not just talking about boys, but also for girls! 6. The three views are not in harmony, break up as soon as possible. Love is a process of two people’s progress together. If you feel that getting along with him will make you feel very uncomfortable, breaking up as soon as possible, cutting off the connection as soon as possible, will bring much less pain than breaking up when the relationship is deep in the future. 7. In addition to giving gifts between couples, try not to spend everything on one person. For example, when going out to watch a movie together, one person can pay for a movie ticket, and the other person can pay for the ticket and milk tea. Both people pay. This is what a good relationship should have. 8. You can fall in love without spending too much money, but you can’t live without money. So as far as possible, boys should try to save some unnecessary expenses. 9. In addition to exercising, exercising your fingers is also a good way to increase feelings. The smart boy has already started to double-tap the screen to exercise. 10. When you meet someone you like, don’t chase it as soon as you come up. Wait patiently for a while, or if you catch up, when the impulse in your mind passes, you will find dull “Why did I fancy Ta in the first place?” Not only will you feel uncomfortable, but also after the breakup It will hurt Ta’s heart indirectly. 11. Quarrels are not terrible, but the cold war is terrible. The real disappointment is not a quarrel; the real chill is not howling and crying; the real chill and disappointment is silence between each other, I don’t care about you, but you just ask. For boys, girls are really good. Huh, put the bottom to coax, their IQ is basically zero, don’t reason with them! Don’t talk to the end but lose your girlfriend! 12. Don’t stay with someone just because they are good to you. Be realistic. A person is only good to you. Most of them think you are valuable. In terms of appearance, figure, or other aspects, he only Can let you be with him in a way that is good for you. If you stay together just because he treats you well, then if one day he treats you badly, you will have nothing. 13. The first relationship must be cautious and cautious, even if it ends, it must end perfectly. It’s really ugly to look back at your full effort 14. Cheating is a taboo, once you encounter it, break up directly. Your kindness is his more indulgent capital. Tips: The person who is very affectionate in love is often easy to be green. 15. Don’t fall in love with one mind, and don’t let go of any opportunity to improve yourself. Your significant other will not leave you just because you are sincere to him. You must at least have an advantage that others don’t have, such as appearance or grades. 16. Remember not to stick together all the time, no matter how much you like, leave enough space for each other. 17. Love is just an equal cooperation. We have no obligation to keep each other comfortable. Most people always try every means to make each other happy when they fall in love for the first time. They always feel that this relationship can last forever, but in reality The more it goes like this, the tighter the love strings will break, and the faster the relationship between the two will break. 18. Lower your expectations for this period of love. Most of the reasons for the quarrel in the relationship are what you think the other party should do, but the other party has not met your expectations. Therefore, in order to better maintain the relationship, it is better to try to lower your expectations of the other party from the beginning and make fewer demands. Maybe it will make it easier for you to harvest those love surprises. 19. I believe there must be many single people who have seen this. If you don’t mind, you can give me a thumbs up. I consider giving you a partner. In fact, I really want to say a correct relationship. There are not so many rules and regulations, just those two: Respect yourself and respect Ta. I hope that whether you are pursuing true love or maintaining true love, the first thing to do is not to forget yourself and to love yourself. Calm and then love, in my opinion, this kind of relationship can last for a long time. I am . It is ridiculous. I am writing a “survival guide” for college students. I will continue to share with you some of my own experiences and gains during college, including some growth and learning. Methods, if you are interested in these. It’s better to stay and pay attention, I will help you as much as I can.

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yahoo898
6 months ago

Let me say something really useful! College students who are falling in love for the first time, I understand that you are excited and excited. However, I must remind you of the following points, it is very important to keep a good look! 1. Don’t use too much force. Many classmates wanted to be around the object every moment when they fell in love for the first time. In the end, after only a few months of dating, the relationship with family and friends was alienated. I even felt out of touch with society when I broke up. In fact, when you fall in love, you should be colder and selfish. It is important to understand that it is your things that will not go, and the things that are not yours can’t be kept. No one really can’t live without anyone. No matter how much you like this person, you have to restrain yourself, don’t just follow, be independent, don’t be a dog, don’t worry about gains and losses. Furthermore, have you ever thought that perhaps you are willing to lick the dog, what about the other party? To some extent, does this also put pressure on the other party? If this kind of pressure is not handled properly, it may also become the reason for your final breakup! To put it bluntly, falling in love pays attention to one word: degree. 2. Lower your expectations of him (her). I understand that before many students fall in love for the first time, there are bound to be a lot of rules and regulations about what their ideal type should be. So I want to use this kind of rules to demand the other party. But, girls, falling in love is really not an idol drama! Learn to lower your expectations (without breaking through your bottom line), accept his shortcomings, and see his strengths. The combination of advantages and disadvantages is the long-term solution. 3. Never cold war. There is a reason you must understand that there is no lover in this world who does not quarrel. You always admire the lovers who have been together for more than three or five years, thinking that they are a match made in heaven, so as soon as you have nothing to do, you will accuse you of the lack of objects. How do you know how much those lovers have compromised for each other? The cold war is definitely not a way to solve problems, communicate well and make concessions with each other. Of course, if you just want to briefly talk about a couple of months of love, then treat this as if I didn’t say it! 4. Boys should not blindly reason with their girlfriends! What do you say? “Girls are the most unreasonable creatures.” A boy who makes sense with his girlfriend, I respect you as a man! I understand your feelings. I have to apologize for my own fault. I feel aggrieved and helpless~ But, iron men! At this time, your grievance or your girlfriend’s emotions are more important? Yes, yes, both are important.

leexin
6 months ago

1. Don’t have too much hope and expectation for this relationship, because the greater the expectation of another person, the greater the disappointment. And don’t have a particularly passionate and full feeling to express to her, because it may also be a kind of pressure for the other party. I also want to add this point, why can’t you have too much expectation of others, why can’t you care too much about this relationship, because this will make you have endless things to worry about in this relationship, many They are all useless, this will damage their own development, and is not conducive to the cultivation of feelings. And over time you will experience emotional ups and downs due to the other’s words and deeds. I think this state is not a good state. It should be that you need to take back your energy and feel yourself instead of paying attention to the outside world. 2. Keep your distance, don’t know your account after being together, let others know about your Weibo account, and you don’t need to associate QQ. Because sometimes there are really unnecessary suspicions and doubts. And once this happens, it’s hard to dissipate. 3 Don’t just focus on falling in love. There are more important things to do in college. Girls won’t change their hearts just because you love her so much. She needs to see that you have advantages that others don’t, which can be appearance, experience, and grades. 4, please beg, if you are angry, you have to coax, boys and girls are really different in thinking, girls sometimes tell you a thing you did that she was wronged. It’s not that you are allowed to solve this problem. Because it has already happened, you can’t change it either. However, boys will find it meaningless. In fact, just tell her openly how much you like her. 5. Girls are actually more likely to be insecure. You can sometimes do some small actions to make her think that you particularly like her. For example, take the initiative to enter her fingerprints on her mobile phone. Take the initiative to change love with her. The time is right to take the initiative to introduce her existence to mom and dad, so that she feels that you care about her. Emmmm temporarily thinks about these 6, don’t feel inferior or conceited. Really don’t make yourself humble because of (for a relationship. Who is not the little princess and little prince of mom and dad? Think about how it feels when your mom and dad see your baby so humble. Of course not There is no sense of superiority, family conditions or geographical advantages, and it is not earned by your own efforts. Showing off these will only make the other party feel heartbroken and think that you are likely to be a stupid. 7. Improve together Treasure the time you spend together. Don’t wear headphones or play with your phone when you get along with the other party. Then the other party asks a question if you can answer “um”. Especially when you are in a different place, it’s because of the distance. If you can’t accompany each other by your side, you must improve the quality of the video. I think it’s better to finish everything, organize your mood and share some interesting things with the other party. 8. It’s a supplement to the second. , That is, I prefer two people together is a kind of close and interrelated relationship. Intimacy means that the two parties can connect with each other spiritually, comfort each other, and encourage each other. That is, they can share happiness and share the unhappy things. Then each other Trust, consideration, tolerance. There is a time when two people or two independent individuals can take the other person into consideration when making some choices about some things, but it is not necessary to make something that is in line with their own wishes for the other party. It’s something that violates it. Then it’s to leave some space, with its own tree hole or honey jar. You can take out one from time to time to share but you can’t say everything to let the other party know. Because without this sense of boundary, I think it’s easy to go Imposing one’s own thoughts on the other party or having too many expectations of the other party will also offend the other party. 9. Be considerate of each other, make a little cheer, and hurt your body. For boys, try to be thick-skinned, and girls try to be smaller. Because some small things are a little unhappy, just stop. Then try not to often vent some negative emotions to the other party. It is not easy for everyone to live already. If you have to bear other negative emotions tomorrow, there will be other negative emotions over time. Some bad influences. 10. Have a sense of trust in this period of feeling, and believe that the two of you are particularly suitable and can be together for a long time. Then don’t do things that are detrimental to maintaining this stable and long-term trust. For example, inquire about the other party’s ex, because no matter what the other party says, you will feel sour and uncomfortable, so there is no need to block yourself. 11. Only by having a strong mind and good virtues can you be a lover. You will always be yourself. Rather than being a vassal or accessory of others. Be strong. It cannot be said that you become more vulnerable because of love. On the contrary, you should be stronger and stronger. You can rely on moderately but don’t take the things you should accomplish or the pressure you bear. Let the other party take the place. This way you won’t be able to improve yourself. The other party’s doing this will only make you more and more giant. As a previous high school text said, “It’s not because I need you, so I love You, but I love you so I need you.” Let’s say nothing more, never lose the courage that you can leave immediately. Qi and ability. 12. Feelings are one’s own business, so you have to experience it with your heart instead of eagerly seeking advice from others or the Internet. For example, whenever I had a little contradiction, I liked the stories related to Zhihusou. Generally, the more I watched it, the more angry I became, or I confided to my girlfriends. My girlfriends usually subconsciously turn to me, so I feel that I am special. Wronged. This will only make you feel more and more uncomfortable and become more and more disappointed in the other party, so don’t let the news from the outside affect your judgment. 13. There is a word called slander but not abuse, which is to grasp the scale and type of joking. I think this is not only used between couples, but also to grasp this degree when getting along with other people. You have to praise the other party more, don’t devalue the things that the other party is proud of. Although you think this is a joke and not malicious, the other party will not sound very comfortable. This will make the other person no longer want to share some of their good news with you, because you will feel that you will not give her positive feedback, and at the same time, it will also make the other person feel that you are really bad as you said and then the whole person will Wilt. Ah, I haven’t been to Zhihu for a long time. There are so many likes. Haha. I looked at everyone’s comments. I feel that these tips are based on what you think this relationship is worth cherishing. I all know how to love others. I don’t want to see two people getting deeper and deeper because they can’t solve the trivialities in life. The one who finally breaks up is to be cautious and responsible for the relationship; there are so many praises and I am really flattered. I never thought that this answer could have so many likes. I am so happy! But these are my own opinions, and maybe every couple gets along differently. Before I summarize, I think it is worthwhile to improve things for me, so that maybe two people will get more and more comfortable getting along with each other. Very tired; there can be surprises and romances in life from time to time, it can be a bunch of flowers when we meet again after a long time, it can be a cup of brown sugar ginger tea when you have dysmenorrhea, or it can be hand-made biscuits and calligraphy. When both parties are used to getting along in a warm and considerate way, I believe this will become a long-lasting bond of intimacy. Here, Amway’s brown sugar ginger tea that my boyfriend often sends, its ingredients are only brown sugar and ginger, and it does not contain other additives. Moreover, it is individually packaged, so it is very convenient to drink, especially when making a cup of ddl at night, it feels very comfortable and heart-warming. The packaging is also very exquisite, very suitable for giving to a girlfriend, more than drinking hot water pipes. After listening to so many reasons, it seems that I still can’t get along well. What’s even more shameful and ironic is that I, who reminded everyone, seemed to mess up this relationship.

greatword
6 months ago

1. I believe that most of the friends who click in have no experience in a relationship, but in order to prepare for the first time, you came. Haha! 2. It shouldn’t be because of impulse to have a child that you walk into the marriage hall, but because of love. 3. Remember to keep 30% mystery. Regardless of whether it is a boy or a girl, the unreserved person will be like a movie that has been seen through, destroying the idea of ​​letting the other person see the end. 4. Boys like to reason with girls, and girls like to talk about feelings with boys. ps: Girls quarrel but remember a universal formula: do you not love me anymore! 5. Most of the pain when falling in love comes from three expectations: he must be perfect, and someone else’s boy or girlfriend cannot be better than him, otherwise I will feel very uncomfortable. He must always think of me, and he must tell me everything, otherwise he doesn’t have me in his heart at all. He must love me 100% and he must be considerate to me, otherwise he just doesn’t love me. Mature love must go through a process of “seeing through”. People are imperfect, love is not considered as an advantage, but can tolerate each other, and the object’s shortcomings. People are independent individuals, and if you don’t want to tell you something, just treat it as protecting you. People are selfish, love requires some reservations, and you are the same, ta is no exception. Accept the differences between people and the selfishness of love. Reduce the expectation in love. A good relationship is not the life and death of love, but the long-term fishing. 6. There are indeed a lot of people chasing you, and there is nothing to confuse. One is that it will scare away the boys who like you, and the other is that you are just like that, not good enough, but you look really good at chasing after. 7. Start a relationship carefully, and please end a relationship perfectly. After all, it’s really stinky to try to save it. 8. Don’t always think about changing the other person. You must temper yourself in your daily life and influence him subtly. If you are uncomfortable with his laziness and decadence, then work hard and self-discipline every day, use actions to render him, saying that he is not as good as probating him two days a week. 9. Don’t be stingy with praise, praise is the lowest cost gift in a relationship, but it can reap the purest happiness. When you see a good answer on Zhihu, the backhand is a like, which is the best gift for the respondent, and you can check the answer at any time. 10. The independent character of a girl is always the potion to maintain her own charm, and the independence I understand is that it is enough in love: dare to rely, dare to be independent. For example, you can rely on him to solve the mineral water bottle cap that can’t be opened, but when he is away, you will know that you can’t find the key to change the bottle of water without the cap, and you can’t enter the door and you can cry to him, but you Know that you contact the unlocker. You can let him take care of you if you are sick with a cold, and you can learn to cherish yourself and don’t make yourself sick all the time. 11. If the three views are not in harmony, even the best conditions are persuasive. Three views in relationships: values, family views, and sex views. 12. Belief in incompetence is more terrible than sexual incompetence. Believing in incompetence is a negative feedback without self-confidence. Living in a world of doubt, either you die or I die. Remember that the key to maintaining emotions is trust, and suspicion is a shortcut to destroying emotions. 13. When you date a girl for the first time, remember to wear an extra coat. When the other party wears less, take off one piece and put it on her, especially when the weather is cold, so steadily add points. 14. In love, the more infatuated people are, the easier it is to be green. 15. The reason for not publishing a relationship is to make it easier to step on a few more boats as a single. 16. The essence of love is not to go to marriage, but to explore the truest self. 17. It is said that people with a delicate mind are more likely to get good love, just as people who can follow a good answer @正南 on Zhihu always get more favor than others~ Crazy hint! Crazy hint! Crazy hint! Haha 18. What girls fear most is not that boys have no money, but that they are not self-motivated. She can accompany you to endure hardships for a while, but there is no need to accompany you to endure hardships for a lifetime. 19. After taking 18, the boy is not self-motivated and gives up decisively. But if he has worked hard and just can’t see the results for the time being, don’t laugh at him, but should give him comfort and encouragement and encourage him, otherwise it will be a heavy hammer for him! 20. Sometimes he says to break up, not because you are not good, but because what you can give is not what the other party wants. 21. I heard that if you like a good answer, you will push more high-quality content to you if you know it. May wish to like and mark it. It’s really good, and you don’t have to worry about not having good content anymore. After watching for so long, let me introduce myself to you finally~ I am , located in Shenzhen, walking on the road of a abdominal muscle, welcome to pay attention, let us become stronger and stronger together~ I like to study psychology, growth, and study. , Fitness, financial management is an uneasy status quo, fighting workers for their lives. There is a 200w reading, 3w likes, and 2k answers in Zhihu. I hope I can help you.

loveyou
6 months ago

1. While she is not paying attention, hold her to give a deep kiss. Every girl in love hopes that her boyfriend can be the overbearing and active one. This kind of sudden “strong kiss” can enhance the sweetness of love, allowing girls to experience the feeling of being “conquered” by you in a pleasant surprise, saying that you hate you with a shy face, but they are already happy in their hearts. Of course, the premise is that you don’t want her drooling. 2. Every time you meet, hug her tightly and say something in her ear. I really miss you. For girls, it is a trivial matter to feel each other’s love. She likes to observe and feel in every detail, do you still miss her in so many days when you haven’t seen each other. Therefore, a bear hug that I met makes girls feel your care deeply, which is more useful than saying 10,000 “I miss you” in WeChat. 3. When you are with her friends, show your best girls who love to show their love in front of their girlfriends, especially showing off how good their spouse is. At this time your performance is very important, sometimes romantic and sometimes gentle, and at the same time not showing too clingy. Believe me, when her sister group thinks you are a great boyfriend, even if you quarrel in the future, you don’t have to worry that no one will say good things for you. 4. Don’t be mean to praise your partner, don’t be ashamed to express your love “Baby, you are so beautiful today.” “You are really the most beautiful person I have ever seen.” “I have no ambiguity, I only Knowing that I love you the most now.” Learning to express love is a very important thing in love. Saying such a few sweet words to a girl at the right time will definitely make her ears become red, and then her heart will thump. 5. Don’t be in a relationship. It doesn’t mean that you don’t have a bottom line to pay like a clown to love someone with your heart. You must give her breakfast all day and night, and it’s not that you eat instant noodles to save money and buy her Chanel. It’s not that paying without a bottom line only touches yourself in the end. You can send her breakfast, but don’t let her become addicted and delicate. You can satisfy her normal desires, but don’t even know how to cherish yourself. The more humble the posture, the lower the threshold, the more people will look down on you and take your goodness for granted, not only stupid, but not worthy of sympathy. 6. Give her a piece of clothing that you wore. Let her remember your taste. When she likes someone, she will be infatuated with his taste. This is why for the same girl, some boys smell like sweat, and some boys smell like a man. Giving her a piece of clothing that you wore may make her feel more at ease by smelling you during those nights when she misses you and can’t sleep. 7. Love itself does not have a perfect fit. Love that is tolerant to each other is harder to get along with two people for a long time. It is inevitable that there will be grievances and quarrels. After all, everyone is an independent individual, and it is impossible to fit in all aspects by nature. Only when two people continue to tolerate and accommodate each other slowly can they become partners who love each other for a lifetime. Therefore, give each other more trust and understanding, less temptation and test, and love can last longer. 8. Don’t think about lying, let alone cheating. Don’t underestimate a girl’s sixth sense. As long as you lie, she can actually perceive it keenly. In many cases, it’s just because you love you too much. The girl who plays the game is very dumb, but can be smart like a detective when catching you cheating. Therefore, the most important thing in a relationship is to be sincere. If you don’t love enough, you should have the courage to break up. Don’t think about doing things that hurt others and yourself. 9. The kind of girls that make boys think about day and night are often not the glamorous goddesses, but the girls who can do actions. This type of girls like to pretend to be innocent, but if they want to send you some emotional signals, they will have some intimate physical contact with you from time to time, which makes you unable to extricate yourself from the illusion of deep love. In fact, this kind of girls are the legendary “tea masters”. They are already familiar with the methods to hook the hearts of boys, but they are always shy and shy. The boy thinks he is the sweetheart of his innocent sister, who doesn’t know that he is just a fish of the other party, and cannot be struggling to be caught by the other party. 10. Remember those special days, make small surprises in life, important holidays, menstrual periods for your aunt, and anniversaries together. Prepare a gift carefully, which can not only create a sense of ritual and small surprises, but also your feelings will quickly heat up. , To get closer to each other. 11. You chase a girl, you feel tired, she neither agrees nor refuses, just hang you like this, it is her problem, you give up as soon as possible. You chase a girl, you feel tired, she directly refused, and you continue to chase, that is your problem. 12. Rather than treat her with great fanfare, it is better to pay attention to the minutiae when you go out on a date to always pack paper in your pocket; protect her on the inside of the road when crossing the road; subconsciously take the heavy objects in her hand. Don’t ignore these small actions, girls are likely to secretly give you a lot of points in their hearts. 13. Falling in love can’t just be for having sex together, but more importantly, for the [common goal] to work hard together. If you are with her just to hug, and then open the room and roll the sheets, it is better to save this time and energy and just spend money to go to heaven and earth. A good relationship must be to have a common goal, to encourage and encourage each other, and to work together in order to be able to move towards a better future. 14. Girls should sometimes be clingy and cute kittens, and sometimes independent snow leopards. You can rely on him, you can use him as a support, and you can drown in his arms when you are fragile and ask for a hug. But if you love him so much that you lose your life, and look like you can’t live without him, boys will only think that he will take you down, either feeling stressed or not cherishing. Therefore, girls have to have their own lives when they are in love, whether they are studying, social work, or cultivating some hobbies, don’t stop making themselves better. Only those who love themselves can others know how to cherish. 15. Love is not a necessity. Don’t just make love just because you want to fall in love. True love is a luxury. It’s just that too many film and television works create an illusion that love is particularly beautiful. However, the reality is not that some people are just getting together, and some people are just attracted by some of the other’s advantages. True love is natural love between men and women, but most of them have never met that person. If you are like a rainbow, you will know it when you encounter it. 16. When you fall in love, you can only [talk] on one side and [love] on the other side. Even those couples who have been married for several years will talk about today’s interesting things at the dinner table. Every time you quarrel, you get emotional, and you will definitely find time to resolve this bad emotion afterwards. If you get emotional every time, you don’t say anything, and you like to hold back in your heart to let the other person guess, this kind of love will only make each other live in suspicion and resentment. 17. If this relationship requires you to take 99 steps every time, get out of a real good relationship and lover as soon as possible, and you will definitely not be required to take 99 steps every time. This kind of unequal love will continue to consume your love and energy, and sooner or later you will leave because of fatigue. 18. Be sure to keep growing at the same time. If there is a difference in the vision of the two, they are not far from breaking up. I will give everyone a sentence from “Jane Eyre”: “Love is a game. Only if you are evenly matched can you continue to depend on each other forever. Because too strong opponents make people tired, and too weak opponents make people tired.” 19. Say “I” less and use “we” more instead of “we” in the process of getting along. Very good words, it is easier to give each other a feeling of trust than “you” and “me”, thus creating an intimate atmosphere. For example, “what are we going to eat” instead of “what do you want to eat.” The same sentence with different meanings will bring different effects to people, so please take a small book and write it down. 20. Jealousy, comparing other people’s love, will only make your feelings more rift. The affection shown by the circle of friends is only what they want others to see. Those outsiders who quarrel and disagree will not see it. The moon in foreign countries is not necessarily round, and other people’s boyfriends are not necessarily good. Since you have chosen the person next to you, please give him 100% trust. Don’t compare him with others. Every relationship is just your own business. 21. When quarreling, it is better to show weakness and actively apologize, which will help to dispel grievances. It is far better than a hard bar with dozens of sentences that are too noisy. When the other person sees your attitude, his own mood will also ease. Maybe the next sentence is: “Actually, I had a bad place just now.” As the saying goes, it’s good to bear with the wind and the waves, and take a step back. 22. Spend more time on yourself, instead of tightly binding the other two people together every day, there is no personal space at all, or the freshness will be exhausted before long. And if you can spend more time on yourself, fitness, reading, making friends, and continuously inputting fresh content from the outside world, people will become better and better, and love will become stronger and stronger.

strongman
6 months ago

Recommend a book “Intimacy”. There is a paragraph in it, I think it is a very important suggestion. First, there is a concept called the Kapman Drama Triangle. Persecutors, victims and rescuers. These three appeared at the same time. When people are in love, inner drama is always full. It is also easy to fall into the trap of this drama triangle. After the sweet love period, there will often be some conflicts and running-in between couples. At this time, it is difficult to discuss things, but it is very important. When anything happens, don’t put yourself into the drama triangle. It’s a very important ability to perceive. Sometimes there is a conflict, you may define yourself as a victim, then the other party may automatically assume the role of the persecutor. At this time, there will often be a savior, which may be her best friend, or your male and female friend. In this case, once a third party appears, the relationship is likely to have serious problems. Sometimes, the other party plays the role of the victim. At this time, treat it calmly and rationally. If you don’t put yourself in the position of the persecutor, no matter what the other party thinks, you can remain calm, the conflict is actually easy to resolve. Because anger is often blamed. But the accusation of the other party is often actually the outward release of one’s own sense of powerlessness. If you don’t take the role of persecutor or savior when you are accused. But just to accompany her to vent her emotions and get out of the gloom, I think many conflicts that would cause a noisy breakup can be resolved. But it’s easy to say, but it’s difficult to actually operate. The book mentions a lot of self-growth, introspection, self-observation, and ways to deal with the pain points that may be caused by oneself. Due to space issues, I won’t go into too much detail, and I suggest you read the original work.

stockin
6 months ago

1. Regardless of whether you can go to the end or not, you must remember that a good relationship must go both ways, it must make people continue to improve and get better, it must make you feel happy and feel very good when you think about it. sweet. So if you feel that this relationship makes you lazy and useless, it makes you suffer from gains and losses, anger and sadness. No matter what the two of you, you must deliberately keep a distance. The college life is only four years, so why bother yourself? 2. If you have friends of the opposite sex who come all the way to play with you, please don’t be afraid to spend money, and be sure to receive them well. If the money is gone, we can earn again, but the story will not happen again. 3. The most important thing to stay with others is whether you can bear it, the lowest character of that person. It’s like a wooden barrel, the lowest board determines its capacity, and the same is true for people. If you can accept his lowest character, there is a high probability that you can live in harmony. 4. If you have no money, no good-looking face, and no talent that can be obtained, then humor will be your last killer. It is easy to make a person uncomfortable and angry, but it is difficult to make a person happy. If you can do it, then you have a greater chance of chasing the person you like. 5. The least worth showing off is how many people chase you. The implication is just how many olive branches you throw. The most worthwhile show is to have someone you love is consistent with you. 6. People who love to laugh in college are not too bad luck. Especially if you are willing to double-click the screen at this moment, you will always have good luck and meet the destined faster~ 7. The height at which you are largely determines the height at which you meet people, especially girls. So, if you keep improving yourself, you can meet a better person. You don’t have the same figure. How can you ask others to look at you unless you have what they want. 8. If you can, don’t choose a long-distance relationship, because if you can’t eat what’s in the bowl, you will inevitably look at what’s in the pot and don’t test your humanity. 9. Learn to give up a relationship. If you find the following behaviors, break up quickly! Acting on you in public; always like to suppress you when talking; like to tease girls on social software. The faster and cleaner the breakup, the less pain you will suffer. 10. Don’t try to change the other person, but influence each other subtly in the daily running-in. He is decadent and lazy, so you should ask him to get up early to exercise every day, infect him with actions, and scold him for a month instead of probating him for three days. 11. People who have many and close love experiences are likely to be a little scumbag. This is the personal experience of the classmates around you. If there are similarities, most of you are out of luck. 12. Learn to protect yourself and do bed exercises. This is your choice, but don’t let yourself get pregnant. You can’t be a mom or dad at this time. Understand that if you don’t take protective measures, they will coax you into bed. Most of them are scumbags. Once you find out, please stay away immediately. 13. There is not only love in college life, but also your studies. You must know that love should be the sweetest condiment in life, not a necessity for you to survive. 14. Don’t be a person with double standards. When asking others, think about whether you have done it too. If you can’t do it yourself, don’t ask others to do it all. They will really annoy you. 15. I have quarreled with each other, the reason can be said, but it is best to talk about it later. The first time you hold hands and hug, you can turn off the conflicting mechanism of the brains of both parties. When the two are calmed down, what you say will be more acceptable at that time. . 16. There are no two people in this world who can fit together perfectly, so they both need to slowly get along in the later stages of getting along. Never squat with someone who understands you very well from the beginning, squatting and squatting will only take care of the leakage. 17. Life is like an alarm clock, everything can go back to the beginning. When you understand this sentence, you will find that there is more helplessness behind this optimism. 18. Being in love is like two people pulling a rubber band. The person who pulls hard won’t necessarily get hurt, but in the end, those who are unwilling to let go will definitely be beaten in pain. 19. Love makes it easy for people to walk into the comfort zone. Most people come in and never want to come out again. They become charming little women, and smart people use the comfort zone to create a stronger self. 20. The best love is actually more like sugar-free and ice-free. The people you like don’t have to get tired of being together every day, as long as you are by your side.

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