Friends who are both curious and worried about love, and have no sense of security in their hearts, may always be guessing what level of like is love, whether he loves me or just likes, can my likes count as love? If you think about it this way, you probably don’t understand the difference between like and love, and you don’t have a clear definition in your heart, so you don’t have a standard to judge. Here to share the definition of Fromm, you can modify it on the basis of it, so as to obtain the basis for your own judgment. 1. The difference between liking and love has nothing to do with the degree. If we don’t know enough about love, we think it is a deeper level of liking. In fact, it is not the case. Love and liking are completely different. Everyone will like it, but not necessarily. Like is an instinct. The kind of curiosity, interest, lingering dreams and involuntary love are all very clear likes. They are all very beautiful instinctive pursuits. We are always attracted by good people and qualities. This is the release of our vitality. a method. Love, the kind of selfless cultivation joy, to rejoice with the happiness of others, to rejoice for their growth and happiness, and to be satisfied with the release of the vitality of others, is completely different from liking from the beginning. 2. We are all people who love ourselves very much, but for others, we often just like them. If you are also a person who has played games and created your own game character, then you will definitely understand that when you build a poor game character, and then let it grow step by step, the process of making it powerful is extremely happy. We involuntarily invested money and time, and gained a considerable degree of joy, because just seeing the growth of the character is enough to give us a sense of accomplishment from the bottom of our hearts. This is love. When we love the characters in the game, we actually give ourselves a steady stream of love. But for others, when we are hopelessly attracted, it is often because of the beauty in others. This may be a good quality recognized by mankind, or it may just make up for our inner needs, so we are willing to follow . But, who doesn’t like the 200-level giant? Who doesn’t want the boss to take him to fly? I dare not say that this kind of like is love. 3. Like is an instinct, but love is an ability. Likes are often accompanied by admiration. This kind of emotion hides the needs of my heart. This kind of yearning for beauty is rooted in our physical instinct. Love is different from liking. If you say that liking means admiring the tuba, then love means wearing a trumpet or playing a support. But when will we be willing to carry a trumpet, and who makes us willing to play support? It must be that our own account is well practiced, and we feel that the selected object shouldn’t be the case, so we are willing to share and feel happy with the other party’s becoming stronger. This is the expression of love. When you feel that he is willing to play support, even with a trumpet, and does not ask for anything in return, when you are happy with it, then you can believe that this is not like it, it is love! This kind of love requires energy. When one’s own account has not been practiced, and is unable and unwilling to pay for others, the so-called love at this time can only be a disguise of liking, which is actually a kind of dependence. So we often say that a person who doesn’t love himself can’t love others. With the above analysis, I believe that you will have a clearer judgment about yourself and the feelings of others in the future~ I hope to help you!