I am more confused. In the past 20 years, have the two of them really fallen in love with each other in the way of lovers? Thousands of words filled with water, describing how her light shattered her last line of defense. However, I see her light from her perspective-it is a middle school who does not study, skips classes and goes to Internet cafes, with poor work ability, no ideals, no pursuits, no achievement worth mentioning in 20 years, no money Concept, no habit of saving, who ignores trivial things at home, is afraid of bugs, dares not to recognize, lied, and wants his wife to clean up the mess when he makes mistakes. I can’t find a merit of his own for a few thousand words. Is this light? What she wrote is a complete waste. A person who said he loved him for 20 years did not even realize that when he mentioned him, he was useless. Besides, Chen Bojian, his wife’s greatest hobby in her life is writing essays, and he has never even read an essay she wrote. His wife suffered a fall in the tail vertebrae. For the sake of his parents’ face and expectation, he agreed to her behavior to endure the pain and wear high heels to complete the wedding. When the two were the closest to each other, he didn’t even have the interest in reading each other’s words or caring for the other’s body. How can I convince myself that he once loved her? The migration of their work, the union after his father fell ill, and Yue Shishui said that he let her know that there is another person in the world who can’t live without her, and she is greedy for this love. This description is more like two falling waterbirds huddling together to keep warm. When Yue Shishui mentioned Chen’s behavior of ignoring her, she used to whitewash. For example, he never looked at his own work because he was a straight man with normal taste. After marriage, you need money for firewood, rice, oil, and salt. Yue Shishui can write part-time manuscripts for survival, while Chen avoids financial pressure. She described him as a big-hearted man, and I can only worry about it a little more. Seeing this article written by Yue Shishui, she did give a lot to Chen, but most of them were her own one-man shows. For example, the hero of the writing is him, but Chen never actually read her writing; the omelet was fried and made another one by himself, and Chen would never know… I think this is a very deformed intimacy. , More like a pair of psychological mother and son, Chen Xinan reasonably regards Yue Shishui as another mother, and Yue Shishui is also responsive to him. Chen’s mental state in this relationship is very young, almost degraded to childhood. He is afraid of pain, loves acting like a baby, and when encountering unhappy things, he always hugs and coaxes slowly, and he will stay on the ground and refuse to get up. The Chen Bojian I saw from the perspective of Yue Shishui is almost a handicapped person who cannot take care of himself. He is a young child with an adult body. In order to conceal his incompetence, Chen Bojian chose to use a more incompetent derailment object to set off his strength. He said he was afraid of the moon and water, and Fang Ting was also afraid of the moon. It is because they are both incompetent and cowardly. They are incompetent or even unable to actively end a relationship. Chen Bojian cannot end the marriage he hates, nor can he end the extramarital affairs, because he has no ability to take care of himself, nor the courage to reject others. Even if Fang Ting was discovered, she couldn’t end an unethical love. Because the question asks about their psychology, I did not focus on moral judgment.