Some people say that such 360-degree surveillance is scary. Others say that having children at home is suitable for such a decoration design, because the children are young and have no self-control ability.
What do you think of this problem? Any suggestions for home decoration with children?

Everyone can understand the parents’ desire for a son to become a dragon, but they must be scientific in everything. For families with children, the design of children’s learning space is an important consideration. Here, I would like to recommend a book especially for parents with school-age children. This book reveals the mysteries and key points of learning space design, which is very worthy of our reference. We have excerpted some key points and points so that everyone can master these theories in the shortest possible time. In addition, combined with China’s national conditions and house-type examples, I will teach you some practical methods to create a learning space. Let me talk about this book first-“Building a House for Children to Learn Independently”. Authors Yasushi Shimane and Ryoko Watanabe visited and interviewed more than 200 families of schoolmasters whose children were admitted to prestigious junior high schools. Through research on these family houses, they discovered the secrets of schoolmasters’ cultivation and wrote this book. . How do schoolmasters learn at home? Let’s first imagine, in everyone’s minds, what would a schoolmaster look like when he was studying at home? “In the children’s room where there is hardly any noise, the child sits alone in front of the desk, fighting against the sandman while answering the problems that many adults are helpless.” The author also thought this way before. However, after conducting a household survey of more than 200 student tyrants, his idea was completely overturned. In fact, such a scene is not seen in many schoolmaster families. Although there is a quiet and independent children’s room with bright windows, schoolmasters are more willing to go to “lively” places to study, such as the living room, dining room, and even no fixed learning place, but “nomadic” according to mood Free to choose a place to study. Because they feel that “it’s unhappy to be alone in the room” and “when there is only one person, they can’t concentrate on reading and studying”. Therefore, they are more willing to do their homework on the dining table or on the low table in the living room, and feel the presence of family members while studying. Why not choose a quiet and independent children’s room, but “sit in the living room, dining room, or even on the ground with low tables, and study in these ‘public places’ where you can see other family members,” instead, it is more efficient? In the book, the author uses the “3X” theory (eXplore exploration, eXchange sharing, eXpress performance) to generalize and explain. Schoolmaster families have one thing in common, which is to encourage children to express (eXpress) their wishes in their own way and share them with family members (eXchange). At the same time, it is able to explore the “knowledge experience” of parents (eXplore), so as to realize 3X in the family house. To put it more easily and understandably, it is to foster children’s thinking and expression skills by strengthening internal communication within the family, thereby promoting children’s independent learning. In order to facilitate communication between families, these families have made many useful explorations and attempts in terms of residential structure and spatial layout. For example, a ping pong table is placed in the living room to “prevent children from ignoring the people in the living room after returning home and returning directly to the room, resulting in a lack of communication between parents and children.” Another example is the “transformation” of the children’s room into a living room, and some family activities are arranged in the children’s room. When the child is studying, the parents are also busy. This kind of natural company not only brings peace of mind to the child, relieves the tension of study, but also deepens the parent-child relationship. If there is no extra space in the house, smart parents will create a unique way of communication according to local conditions. For example, when the house structure forces the respective activity areas of family members to be dispersed, the stairwell design is used to communicate by sound transmission. Another example is to set up a “mailbox” in the cabinet of the restaurant to communicate with the children in the form of “communication”. Because of the ingenious design of the “education space”, the communication within the family has become more natural and smooth, and the family atmosphere has become more harmonious and harmonious. The investigation found that among these school-dominant families, “no one is nervous because of the problem of entering school. On the contrary, the relationship between the family members is harmonious, talking and laughing…the home is filled with an atmosphere of harmony.” For China Home renovation methods; in the book, the author also puts forward suggestions for house renovation that are convenient for practice. Although the Japanese housing model is slightly different from the current mainstream commercial housing layout in China, we cannot copy these transformation methods, but there are still many things we can learn from and think about in terms of the layout of the family and children’s learning space. In view of the life and living habits of Chinese people, we can do the following attempts: Carefully build a “family exchange center” Every family actually has a “family exchange center”. In many Chinese families, the dining table is often an important place for the “family exchange center”. At the beginning of Hua Deng, the family gathered at the table, chatting from a fish to a sea, from a sea to a trip, from a trip to a story, from a story to a plan…Everyone in the family is there In such an exchange, share and listen in the most relaxed state, feel the warmth of the family, and also convey the love for the family. The feelings between family members are deepened. In this way, the communication between parents and children is a matter of course. In such an atmosphere, whether it is discussing children’s learning, discussing learning difficulties encountered, or making a study plan together, it is efficient and not easy to arouse children’s disgust. And parents’ attitudes towards life, their views on things, and their thoughts about being in the world will also affect their children in a subtle way through exchanges. Some parents often complain that their children are not obedient, which is actually a communication problem. In such families, there is often no “family exchange center”, or the function of this center is not fully utilized. Therefore, it is necessary to carefully plan and arrange a communication center at home. It can be a sofa in the living room, a dining table in a dining room, or even a toy corner in the children’s room that the whole family likes. As long as the whole family gathers together, it is suitable as a “family communication center.” Create an unenclosed free learning space for children. In the book “Building Homes for Children to Learn Independently”, the author repeatedly emphasized, “For children in adolescence, try not to let them stay in a room invisible to their parents. Letting them study or play in a space where they can communicate with their parents is a more active and smart approach.” In order to prevent children from being alone for a long time, the learning function of the children’s room can be weakened as much as possible. When children “do homework or draw on the table in the living room or dining room, don’t blast them back to the room. On this basis, prepare a set of foldable tables and chairs for them, so that they can move to whatever they like. Local learning.” If the daily activities of family members are separated due to the structure of the house, you can also work harder on the materials used in the doors and windows that divide the internal space of the family. For example, replace some doors or walls that are used as partitions with more light-permeable and breathable curtains, sliding glass doors and other materials, so that children can feel their family members through sounds and lights even if they are not in the same space with their family members when they study. Breath. Adjust measures to local conditions to create a natural and smooth communication space; adequate intra-family communication is the foundation of family harmony and the key to children’s healthy growth and learning excellence. For this reason, each family can modify the “education space” of their own house according to their own living habits and actual conditions. If your child likes to draw, you can set up a graffiti wall at home. Children create and express freely on the graffiti wall. Parents can understand the children’s heart and deepen the parent-child relationship through participation and communication with the help of brushes. If your child likes to read, you might as well set up a bookshelf for the whole family. In parent-child reading, parents master their children’s preferences through reading, and children have a deeper understanding of their parents through the exploration of their parents’ knowledge and experience. In the common reading exploration, deepen the fusion of emotions. If your child likes sports or has other hobbies, you can place commemorative objects such as photos of children’s sports or participation in activities, awards, and other commemorative objects in a prominent place in the family to create a wall of honor for children and give them positive encouragement. You can also leave a small corner on the balcony or kitchen to create a family botanical garden or small vegetable garden with your children. Observe plant growth with children, experience planting and harvesting, and leave a warm memory in the hearts of children and parents. A reasonable spatial layout can guide adequate communication within the family and help parents better communicate with their children, thereby enhancing the intimacy and cohesion of family members. Under the premise of sufficient internal communication in the family, children’s thinking and communication skills will also be greatly improved, thereby promoting the improvement of learning ability. In today’s society, many parents always worry about how to improve their children’s performance. You may wish to change your mind to think about whether the current family space layout is reasonable. In daily life, do you have in-depth communication with your children? Do family members respect and understand each other, and can express gratitude to each other frankly and sincerely? I hope this article can give more parents thinking and provide some references in improving family education space and maintaining parent-child relationship.


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5 months ago

Regardless of decoration, I have mentioned the idea of ​​transparency. But since the study should be transparent, why let the children study in the study? Wouldn’t it be better to pull it out? This is one of a series of educational techniques by the Japanese writer Katsuhiko Shimizu that I recommend: the method of breaking the door. In his article, he is encouraged to remove the study door directly. If the child is young, even the bedroom should not have a door. Of course, he said on the contrary, “Since it is so troublesome, it is better to move the learning activity space out” is his true philosophy. He encouraged the family to clean the dining table after dinner, and then read together at the dining table and study and work together. Let the children see how their parents are serious. Sometimes it’s best to discuss the news in the newspaper by chance. The way of education is also full of family atmosphere, isn’t it? Of course, this method is not suitable for parents whose children play mahjong games outside by themselves. When my child was in the early grades, after learning self-discipline and efficiency were basically good, the child sometimes ran out to study because of loneliness. Although the efficiency is definitely not as good as in the study, I found that there is also a little effect of training children to resist interference, and the children can imitate and improve a lot by observing the way adults work. For example, in the management of stationery materials, children used to throw them everywhere, but they couldn’t find them when they turned around, and time was lost. But now if you have to learn how to look at the adults, you will know how to fold the used books, how to put the reference books, and where to put the stationery. It is more useful than you to shout a hundred times. In addition, issues such as posture, etc., also have a good supervisory role. As a digression, I once wanted to have a two-meter x one-meter large table like a conference room at home, where you can eat and learn to make handicraft games… How good is it to clean it at night and use it as a tatami mat-because I slept for a long time when I was a child It’s on the big desk in Dad’s office. I know it’s impossible now, just say it.

5 months ago

I think this approach is ignorant. Unless the child has extraordinary concentration, this will drive the child crazy. Attention can bring pressure, and excessive attention can be very stressful for children, especially when they are forced to do things they don’t like to do. And when the parents do this, their position is a supervisor, a cell boss, ready to intervene in the children’s “improper” behavior. It is estimated that the parents are holding their stomachs in flames, ready to explode at any time. Children are particularly sensitive to the emotions of others, and it is difficult for adults to hide their emotions from children. Isn’t the child sitting on pins and needles in it? The growth of children has its own laws, and the principle of gradual progress must be followed. If you want to create a genius, you may end up with a mentally ill person. For more exciting views, see the interaction in the comment area, thank you friends who participated in the comments!

5 months ago

The anxiety of the pseudo-middle class is vividly demonstrated. In fact, you can go to Tsinghua Peking University. Who is admitted to Tsinghua Peking University by parents watching and doing homework? Human beings start to play in their mother’s womb, eating hands, kicking legs, how come playing has become a sin after birth? You have to let him know that playing is the same as eating and drinking water, which are all super normal things. Other people’s children still watched the NBA and played League of Legends in their senior year of high school, but they said that I played two hours on the computer today, and two hours have arrived. Even if I go to the other side’s high ground, I still turn off the computer and do problems with peace of mind. When people learn, they concentrate on one’s mind, and when they play, they enjoy themselves. Unlike ordinary people, they didn’t learn well, and they didn’t play well. Everyone said that they could live a whole life in a muddle-headed manner… As for any piano and dance hobbies, save it, and take care of your pseudo-middle class. Class anxiety, if the child is really willing to learn, the child will be sleepy as soon as he learns. It is better to let him sleep quickly and develop true self-control than anything else… Accept that his parents are ordinary people. Accept that you are an ordinary person, accept that your child is an ordinary person, and let him live a happy life. If you learn that piano, you can use it at the company’s annual meeting. If you have the money, give your child a brace early and buy more books, so that he is more important than reading books instead of ipad…

5 months ago

It is very undesirable to demonize education. There are too many comments criticizing education. It seems that letting children learn is a crime. A few extreme examples are infinitely magnified. In reality, how many parents care about their children’s education 24 hours a day? In my opinion, this kind of ethos is a disease of wealth. To give the most popular example, the old man next door to my house often tells his grandson, “How can I learn? We have three suites in our family (in Beijing), so you can eat and drink all your life, so why are you bothering about it? The old man used the roughest words to say that the essence of this problem is that he has money, and they are very sure that they are earning the money by themselves, so there is no need to study hard, or even study. But I have a question, do most people really earn their own money? Wrong, it is called the Time Bonus. It has nothing to do with most people. It’s just that you happened to be in the car when the train was moving. Then the second question is, is this car a perpetual motion machine? It’s not interesting to discuss this issue anymore, just record a little incident that I encountered today. Today, I asked for leave to take my child to see my eyes. I planned to have an OK mirror. When I was queuing, I chatted with a parent who was reviewing. My child, a girl, knew through chat that they lived near a well-known school, with more than 100,000 square meters per square meter. I asked the parent how the effect was after wearing it for a year, said the effect was good, and introduced the complicated cleaning and wearing process. I asked her about reading and studying, and the parents said that what else can she read if her eyes are short-sighted? My children read nothing except textbooks, and do not attend any extracurricular classes. If they can take a glance at the blackboard, they can take a glance. I asked how about studying? The parent was very upset, saying that nothing was as important as the eyes, and then ignored me. I thought about it, and called my wife to talk about it, we decided not to watch it and went home. I told my wife, if you don’t wear glasses to see the bricks more clearly, let’s wear glasses!

5 months ago

Recently, Xiaoshe was worried about watching the drama, Tian Yulan’s chicken baby was properly slapped in the face by her son. Ziyou expressed dissatisfaction to her mother in public: “Every time you see me not reading and doing homework, you feel uncomfortable; when you see me taking a short time, you want me to recite a few more words and write one more paper.” In “Dear Little Desk”, Xu Jingkai’s mother is precisely Tian Yulan’s realistic prototype. Compared with other children, Xu Jingkai’s homework is the most. It seems that only in this way can I get good grades and let my anxiety feel at ease. But the result of this is Ziyou’s public accusation, and Xu Jingkai’s inferiority repression. In fact, if children are immersed in tactics, although good results may be achieved for a while, there are still many hidden dangers in fact. For example, Xu Jingkai, obviously dancing so well, but because his mother’s requirements were too high, the psychological pressure was too high, and during the entertainment, he asked him to dance. Not only did he not dance, but he shed tears, which made people feel distressed. Do not comment on the behavior of the chicken baby, but at least the chicken baby should pay attention to the method: practice should be appropriate, after all, children need to consolidate knowledge through certain exercises in the learning process, but to find a suitable method, a combination of work and rest is more important. Kawasaki Yasuhiko, the author of “Harvard Long-Time Memory Method”, is a former researcher at Harvard Medical School and a doctor of medicine in neuropsychology. He was tortured by “cannot remember” and even thought he would be expelled from Harvard Medical School, but through practice, he successfully changed the status quo of memory. In the “Harvard Long-term Memory Method”, he explained profound brain science in a simple way, combined with daily life, and transformed it into tips and tricks on how to improve memory. It also introduces the memory skills of learning foreign languages, which can provide effective and concrete references for children. The memory method he introduced is interesting and not boring, but it is not indulgent. It allows chicken babies and even adults with poor memory to easily use it and become “good memory.” If you want to change a pleasant way, let your children learn more happily and efficiently. I am @晨光微晓, sharing how to use picture books and psychology knowledge to raise children, and pay attention to me and me to accompany my children to grow better.

5 months ago

1. Too baby-centered, ignoring the needs of other family members, and finally the system is out of balance and difficult to sustain. The home is a system, and the needs of all members of the family should be balanced and taken into account. After all, the imbalance will not last long. 2. By pretending to be transparent, is it treating the baby as a prisoner? This is not trusting the child, and when he has the ability and opportunity to resist, he will resist sooner or later. 3. The chicken baby is not as good as the chicken himself. 4. It is a selfish act that the chicken baby can’t wait for the child to live again on his behalf and impose his wishes on the child regardless of the child’s own needs.

5 months ago

What does the transparent room represent? There is no privacy at all. Even if parents have been good students since they were young, they can ask themselves if there is a moment of privacy? A cousin of mine had not good grades since he was a child, and his family was also very anxious. For fear that he would play, he opened his drawer since he was young. He later installed six locks on his drawer. His grades have not improved. After he grew up, I went to see it, and all the doors in the house were locked. I always feel that this is not a health performance.

5 months ago

I haven’t watched “Little Will”. Some colleagues watched the drama while eating during lunch break, and occasionally watched it a few times. Regardless of the screenwriter’s motivation for creating such a fully transparent study, it doesn’t matter. Fully transparent study room, this design is desirable in terms of learning, it is conducive to most children’s learning, compared with learning in a closed room, the advantages far outweigh the disadvantages, of course, the premise is not for the purpose of facilitating parental supervision, as long as the parents do not want to By using this design to supervise the children, they are busy with themselves, and the children learn from the children. Families with conditions can indeed design such a study room.

5 months ago

The bad feeling of distrust will accompany this child for a long time! ! ! Why make a transparent study room? Why supervise children without blind spots? Behind these questions, isn’t it that as a mother, I pass it to the child in plain, capitalized form: First, I don’t trust you. Second, you see, you can’t do anything without my supervision. Third, I want to control your life, you have to listen to me, even if you want to make a short run for a second! Think about it, why do you want a chicken baby? There are thousands of ways to choose a chicken baby. Why do you choose this? In addition to academic performance, isn’t it to cultivate an independent, healthy, optimistic, and capable child? In addition, if mothers don’t trust their children and don’t trust their children, how do you want your children to trust others and how to get the trust of others? Isn’t it depressing if there is no feeling of mutual trust? Will you be happy?

5 months ago

It’s a bit sad to say that I’ve been decorating for more than ten years, and I’ve seen a family of parents like this, or my own parents. Generally, the children on the flat floor have desks in their bedrooms. Children in villas have desks in their bedrooms. At the same time, there are also places to study in public spaces. For example, a place where an adult takes a child to study. Some school bully’s villa has a child’s studio. However, it is rare for a school bully to buy a big villa. I have only encountered it, and I can’t say yes. It is customary but the more study rooms I make for other people’s children, the more sad I am that my own reading environment when I was young is not only without doors, but I still face the window and my back to the hallway. It’s really uncomfortable when I read a book without a little privacy and a sense of security The study room is as good as the main seat facing the door when the guest is in the same situation. The back is against the wall, and the door can be locked. This is the design method of the standard study. Of course, you can also choose to have floor-to-ceiling windows and bookcases on the back anyway. No one, it’s okay to come from the front. The kid in the TV series is actually more free than me. When I was young, don’t talk about reading any books. Even writing Chinese homework or math homework first is restricted and I My parents often sit behind me and look at the pen, the sitting posture is wrong, the homework suddenly stops, the peeing exceeds the time, and the window is in a daze without drinking water for a long time, etc. Things may be beaten. The glass room that you find intolerable is actually already It’s my ideal…

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