Because many people mistakenly think that being mean is a cool trait. I have always felt that there is a widespread misunderstanding on the Internet, that is, a lot of people think that it is cool to be mean. These people may be influenced by literary works and like the author of poisonous tongue or the role of poisonous tongue in the work, and they feel that using language stings. Derogating others can make you seem sharp. No, it’s not like that. The reason why meanness sometimes looks charming is because it is accompanied by other good qualities, but meanness itself is not cool at all. You can say that the respected Mr. Lu Xun is very mean. His articles are like swords and swords, which make people enjoy and relieve their anger when reading. So many people imitate Lu Xun’s meanness, and the words and expressions can’t wait to gnash their teeth. That energy can show Lu Xun’s demeanor. In fact, Mr. Lu Xun’s meanness is only on the surface. Behind his sharp words are his wisdom, profoundness, insight, and compassion. These are the real convincing qualities of Mr. Lu Xun, but many people have finished reading it. In Lu Xun’s article, I didn’t realize the vigorous and bright things between the lines in Mr.’s words. He simply felt that he was very energetic in cursing people. I didn’t see anything else. It’s like ordering a big pot of boiled fish with only peppers and not meat . There is another disadvantage of being mean, that is, it is easy to give others an expectation that is not in line with the facts. For example, when I see a person who likes to belittle and sarcasm, I preconceived that this person must be of a very high level, so In order to be able to point and point to others so arrogantly, but in fact, most of the mean people I have seen in life do not have the talents and abilities that match their meanness. Once I realize this, the image of this person is in My heart will be greatly discounted, “You are not as sharp and profound as your performance, you are just a stinky mouth.” In that case, why do you need to give others such a gap? Besides, being mean is really bad for personal development. You have the habit of speaking out and hurting others. Others have no obligation to forgive you. Among the people I know, the kind of people who use their words to make their achievements are without exception. It’s because the road gets narrower and narrower, because you may feel that some bad words are indifferent and forget them after you say them, but the stinged person can remember for many years, a casual bad word may have an amazing long tail effect. When I was in elementary school If you were stabbed, you still remember that there are not many people around you who are willing to endure this kind of unhappiness and stick to you. Besides, even if there are such people, how can you bear to hurt them? When I was chatting with a wrestling master, I was impressed when he said something. He said that he has practiced wrestling for decades and has won the rankings in the country, but what makes him most proud is that he never hurt his hands. Over one person, this means that the old gentleman’s skill is pure, not only can win people, but also can not go wrong without accidents, although it is actual combat, but everything is under control, showing decent and cleverness. I think speaking may also be based on a similar logic. What’s more, language is not meant to overwhelm others.