When people reach a certain age, most of the so-called contacts you think are illusory. When you really want to use them, you will find how wishful thinking it is. People who stay in an industry for a long time will naturally have a certain amount of accumulation. If you know a lot of people, many people will take it for granted and attribute it to personal connections. However, few people lie down quietly and imagine that when they are unemployed or need a job, can these really help you take off and get back on track? I am 43 years old this year, and I have been in software development for 20 years. In my current company, my title is considered senior. If you have to talk about personal connections, including classmates, friends, and former colleagues, there are not 100 people in the industry, but dozens of them. But I also often think, if I lose my job that day, can they really help me start a new job easily? Among my friends, some first-line companies have already achieved middle management positions. At that time, if I ask them to ask them to find a position for me, I am thinking, what should this position be? software engineer? Sorry, a friend who is 40+ like me told me clearly that even if I apply for me while licking my face, it is very likely that I can’t even go through the process. Even if it passed, he asked me to work overtime with a guy in my 20s all day long, not to mention whether I can bear it psychologically. The point is, can my body stand it? The architect? Development manager? How many positions can there be in a large department? A typical turnip is a pit! Moreover, in most cases, in order to improve morale and stabilize the military, companies tend to promote internally. Even if some companies can accept the airborne, how can I be sure that wherever I have contacts, when I am unemployed, there will be such a vacant position waiting for me? Counting with your toes, you can understand how low this probability is! In fact, as far as I can see, 40+ years of age have lost their jobs. If you do not consider starting a business (including working for a startup company), for most people, you may be really unemployed. The reason why a midlife crisis becomes a crisis is that everyone will age. As you age, what you can engage in, accept, or be willing to accept your work is destined to become less and less. Therefore, middle-aged unemployment, as far as the whole society is concerned, is a fate that most people cannot escape. If you are lucky enough to avoid middle-aged unemployment, then behind your luck and success, there must be many failures and loneliness. The essence of the midlife crisis is aging, and the decline in productivity that accompanies aging. Therefore, as long as the work you are engaged in is still dependent on your personal physical and intellectual abilities, then your value will decay. Even under a certain labor intensity (such as 996), it will directly decay to zero. If you disdain my remarks and think that 35+ is a good year, then 40+? 45+, 50+? Therefore, for thousands of ordinary people, this is a dilemma, a dilemma that cannot be solved. In fact, for most ordinary people, our life is nothing more than: “The city is famous, but I am not.” Our profession is nothing more than: “The company is famous, I am not.” Finally, I write the following paragraph again to mark this fucking life, fucking afternoon! In the golden age of my life. I have a lot of extravagant hopes. I want to love, I want to eat, and I want to become a half-dark cloud in the sky in an instant. Later, I learned that life is a slow process of being hammered. People get old day by day, their extravagant hopes disappear day by day, and finally they become like a bull that has been hammered. But I didn’t foresee this when I celebrated my 21st birthday. I think I will live forever, and nothing can hit me.